When a person needs to hide his emotions, then the pain in his heart,
It is often difficult for outsiders to understand.
Fast-paced, high-frequency, multi-desire living environment, so that people have no time to take care of their own feelings, brushing short videos, watching those like slides like laughter and anger, love and hate, emotional transformation, emotional touch, in the repeated destruction of the tired,
Many times, the reason why people choose to relax themselves in this way is because the complexity of the living environment makes it difficult for people to look at the contradictions around them in a rational way.
For example, interpersonal relationships that are difficult to improve but cannot be decided, work repression that is difficult but cannot be escaped, all pessimism is related to money, and the ups and downs of emotions do not seem to be in their own hands.
As a result, most people's hearts are slowly carved with many irreparable scars in such a life, and it is true that these scars will not completely stop a person from breathing.
But such scars can affect people's lives in a more serious way:
They began to show indifference, but deep down,
But quietly there were several more psychological defense lines.
The incomprehension between people seems to have become a clichéd topic.
Because every time we discuss this topic, we can summarize different experiences and experiences.
Just like cooking, the same dish, the difference between the new chef and the old cook, the difference between not cooking and cooking regularly, different tastes, and even living in different regions, the understanding of this dish,
It will prompt the original same thing to change into a diversified display in the hands of different people.
The incomprehension between people, in today's interpretation under this title,
It will be a little sour, and it will also have a slight hint of bitter saltiness.
In the environment in which we live, there are different voices, and the most realistic manifestation of the impact of these voices is that we need to accept some views and behaviors that we do not agree with.
Even these views and actions are contrary to morality and divorced from common sense.
For example, sometimes you will find that your colleagues and friends, or some very close relationships, there will always be some harsh or blinding views in their views.
Some extreme remarks become a signal for the other party to express themselves, or some anti-intellectual views put your communication into a very embarrassing situation.
Of course, this is only the first stage.
The second stage often makes you feel more embarrassed,
In order to maintain your relationship, you may have to endure it all the time, and when you try to correct them, you will feel a full of hostility, as if to tell you,
"On what basis do you refute my point of view, and are you necessarily right?"
"That's what I think, since you're my XX, can't you support me?"
You nodded, forcing some thoughts that tried to explode and told the other person,
"Right, right, you're right!"
But at this moment, you know that your heart is dripping blood, and your heart is being destroyed in a way that you never thought.
You think that only strange or hostile relationships can hurt you.
But you never think that the person who hurts you the most is the person you trust the most.
Using a smile to hide your pain is already the default and necessary survival skill in today's society.
It's just that such skills will often leave permanent scars in places where the sun can't shine.
People always say that many things are used to not caring,
However, those things that are not cared about because of habit are often not worth caring about in the first place.
On the contrary, people will always have some existence that they particularly care about and cherish.
And the most painful, the most sudden scars, often stem from this:
I often see some psychologically destructive pictures on the Internet,
One thing these pictures have in common is that they reveal what people care about most.
For example, a person is wandering outside, being scolded by the boss when he works, being scolded by customers, he doesn't care,
But when a person came home and received a comforting phone call from his mother, the feeling of tears breaking through the bank,
Particularly resonant,
Why?
Man can be indifferent, he can be turned into a hard stone in order to survive,
But, man is not a plant,
Eventually there will be love.
This is a very short afterword.
Yesterday on the winter solstice, on the way home, I passed a small restaurant selling dumplings, and the takeaway riders came and went, and as I walked by, I saw a young lady sitting in the corner by the window.
The lady is wearing a slightly elegant sweater, the mobile phone in her hand is black on the screen, a closer look, it turned out to be the screen down buttoned,
I watched her take two bites of a dumpling, eating neither fast nor slow, unlike a few people at the next table who were drinking and bustling, the quiet in her eyes was a kind of sadness coming through the window.
Suddenly, she looked back at me and she saw that I was looking at him.
I was a little embarrassed, so I picked up the coffee in my hand and raised it, she was stunned, and quickly picked up the Coke in her hand in response.
In this short moment, I saw that her eye sockets seemed to be a little moist, and I may have seen something wrong.
Perhaps, it is the smell of this human firework that makes the thoughts spread a little hasty.
I don't know why she's sad, just as she doesn't know why I'm looking out the window and raising a glass to my stranger.
But we are echoing each other's etiquette at this moment,
This etiquette may be a silent understanding.
On the Internet, I have seen some people arguing over whether to eat dumplings for the winter solstice, and for me, what to eat and how to eat during the festival is not something worth investing in repeated thinking.
People have nostalgia, especially those who are out for many years, a festival, a meal,
Words remain in the mouth, with the warmth of the warmth of the meal,
It precipitates the mood and arouses the thoughts.