Being a person has a number, doing things in a measured way, and what kind of virtue you have determines what kind of future prospects you have. People are divided into three classes, the upper wisdom, the middle people, and the lower fools. In this era when all beings are equal, birth status and monetary rights are no longer the criteria for dividing ranks, but people can really be divided into three, six, nine, etc., based on a person's virtue.
1. The wise man repays his grievances with virtue
The grace of the dripping water, when the spring reciprocates. Life is like an unbroken lottery, there are disappointments, but it will also be full of unknowns and surprises, if you can meet a few people who complain with virtue in your life, it will really be as lucky as winning the lottery.
If you are wise and foolish, people with great wisdom will not easily show their eyes, and people with such conduct will always be respected by others and will do more with less.
Speaking of wisdom, it is Zhuge Kongming, who is not only outstanding in military, political, diplomatic, literary, astronomical and other aspects, but also reflected in the quality of virtue. During the reign of the Three Kingdoms, Meng Yue's rebellion seriously endangered the stability of the Shu state, but Zhuge Liang repeatedly let go of his opponent Meng Yu during his crusade against Nanzhong.
In the end, the unruly Meng yue was convinced, and from then on he was loyal to the Shu Han and obeyed Zhuge Liang's dispatches, becoming the cornerstone of the Shu state to consolidate the rear.
People who can complain with virtue are not in high positions, but they are worth looking up to, which is not only a matter of character, but also a matter of pattern, and whether a person's success is largely limited by the pattern.
Second, those who are in the middle of the people, there is a clear distinction between grievances and grievances
"Vote for me with a peach, and repay it with a lee." He is a child and a horn, a real rainbow boy. This is a classic from the Book of Poetry, which is the "exchange of courtesies and courtesies" advocated by Confucianism.
Etiquette is still coming, coming and going, incivility is also incivility, coming and going, not being polite. It is impossible to repay grievances with virtue, but it is necessary to achieve courtesy and exchanges, and there are clear grievances.
The kindness of others, learn to reciprocate accordingly, and the tit-for-tat confrontation of others does not need to be compromised. As long as you learn to distinguish between right and wrong, you can be ashamed.
Those who are in the middle are worthy of the heavens and do not bow down to others.
Luo Guanzhong wrote in the fiftieth time of the Romance of the Three Kingdoms: "A certain Su Zhiyun is arrogant and cannot bear to go down, and the period is strong but not weak; the grievances are clear, and the faith and righteousness are written." Lao She also said in "Four Generations Together": "The eldest husband should have a clear distinction between grace and resentment." ”
People with clear grievances are not necessarily good people, but they must not be bad people, at least they are worthy of their own inner people. With this kind of person, as long as you don't covet small and cheap, you will certainly not suffer losses.
At present, the vast majority of people cannot do the great wisdom of the wise, but the small wisdom of the middle people can still be understood. After all, in this cold world, everyone needs to compare hearts to hearts.
3. The fool will take revenge
The farmer and the snake, Mr. Dongguo and the wolf, these stories that have been familiar to you since childhood are not only fables, but also living examples in life.
There are always people who forget their conscience for the sake of temporary interests, play a moment of cleverness, and suffer retribution for a lifetime. People who take revenge for what they want often lose people's trust because of small losses, and think that they are smart, but in fact, they are the most stupid behavior.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the first fierce general of the Three Kingdoms, known as "Lü Bu among men and red rabbit among horses", ended in a lamentable ending.
Lü Bu was originally a general of Ding Yuan's army, and was Ding Yuan's righteous son, but he was later instigated to kill Ding Yuan and return to Dong Zhuo, and swore an oath of father and son with Dong Zhuo, and was later instigated by Situ Wang Yun to kill Dong Zhuo. Although Lü Bu was brave and good at war, known as the "flying general", and remembered for his bravery, he was short-sighted and his power became disliked by people.
Before Lü Bu was hanged, there was a passage in which Lü Bu was tied up in front of Cao Cao and asked to be loosened, and Cao Cao laughed and said, "The tiger has to be tied tightly." ”
Lü Bu also said, "Cao Gong got me, and I led the cavalry, and Cao Gong led the infantry, so that the world could be unified." ”
Cao Cao was quite impressed, but Liu Bei said from the side: "Ming Gong, do you see how Lü Bu served Ding Jianyang and Dong Taishi?" ”
Before Lü Bu died, he said, "Big-eared Liu Bei can't believe it the most!" Eventually Lü Bu was hanged and then beheaded.
The person who takes revenge is the most terrible person in life, and no one knows how dark the human heart can be. But harming others will eventually harm themselves, no matter what kind of thoughts you have, you still want to persuade you, blessings and misfortunes depend on each other, please do a good deed every day.
If there is no pattern of repaying grievances with virtue, please make clear the difference between grace and resentment, and be worthy of your own heart, but don't be a revenge. Cause and effect reincarnation, there must be cause and effect, harm others and ultimately harm themselves, be a good person, simply live.