Lü Bicheng's life, juvenile fame, middle-aged and rich, old age study tour, twilight monasticism, it seems that all the way with its own highlights. But no matter how successful she is, she still can't avoid her embarrassing situation of being alone.
It is not that she is unwilling to fall in love and get married, but since she was twelve years old, she has continuously experienced the ignorant emotions of failure again and again, which always makes her just moved, and before she falls in love, it is over.
This woman who shouted about feminism even confided to Master Yan Fu that she could accept arrangements such as blind dates or marriage from her parents, but even so, fate was still unwilling to let her compromise, so that she was so excellent, and she was doomed to end up alone.
First, because he was too capable, he was divorced at the age of twelve
Lü Bicheng was born in an unknown small village in Anhui, the family is considered to be a scholar, and his father Lü Fengqi was a jinshi during the Guangxu period, and his job was to repair history books. Her mother, Yan Shi, was a talented woman who wrote many poems during her lifetime.
Therefore, in such a strong literary atmosphere, Several people in Lü Bicheng have been greatly influenced by culture since childhood, and Lü Bicheng is the most favorite of the four sisters for poetry and song, and he has shown his talent in this regard at a very young age.
The clever efforts of her childhood laid the foundation for her subsequent success and became the only trigger for her to be dissolved.
At the age of nine, accepting the arrangement of his parents, Lü Bicheng negotiated with another Wang family in the same county, who was still a door-to-door counterpart, and was officially engaged to the Wang family at the age of ten, and only when he was older, the children of the two families could be married.
Unfortunately, when Lü Bicheng was twelve years old, his father Lü Fengqi died of illness, and his mother was disliked by the Lü family's clan because she was a step-in and did not give birth to a son, and the five mother and daughter did not get a penny of inheritance, but were imprisoned by the clan when they returned to their hometown to ask for family property.
Mother Yan Shi is just a weak woman with crepe crepe, let her chant poetry against it, let her poetry and picturesque, but let her take her four daughters to fight against the clan, she said that she is a little powerless.
When the mother carried her four daughters to wash their faces with tears, Lü Bicheng was not flustered at all, and secretly wrote several distress letters to his father's friends before he died.
Although most of the letters were sunk in the sea because her father was cold and cold, Fan Zengxiang, a great literary hero who had always admired her literary talent, reached out in time to help and rescued several mothers and daughters in time.
Although Lü Bicheng relied on her own wit to save her mother and sisters, because of this imprisonment encounter, her fiancé's family was a little disgusted with her.
Not only do we hate that this woman has been detained for no reason, or perhaps her innocence is gone, but we also hate that this woman is too assertive, and she will definitely be a daughter-in-law who will not be able to get along with her in the future.
Therefore, when the mother and daughter did not know the future for the rest of their lives, they received a letter of resignation from the Wang family.
Lü Bicheng, who was only twelve years old, suffered a double blow in her life, and the shadow left by the two words marriage in her heart was a few points heavier.
Later, his mother Yan Shi could only take the four sisters back to their mother's house and defect to Lü Bicheng's uncle, and after settling everything down, she repeatedly told her four daughters that in the future, when looking for a marriage partner, she could not be someone else's step-brother or concubine, nor could she marry the ignorant and old-fashioned and pedantic person, it was best to find an enlightened person with advanced education, otherwise their encounters today would continue to play out.
Lü Bicheng took her mother's advice to heart, and did so in the following decades as always, so the reason why she never married for life was found.
Second, running away from home penniless and meeting a man who is willing to give everything for her
When Lü Bicheng was twenty years old, he was not only outstanding in literary talent, but also beautiful and moving. Her uncle was ready to worry about her marriage, but she said that she was going to Tianjin to continue her studies.
How could the old-fashioned uncle agree to such an unreasonable request from her? It is said that a woman without talent is virtuous, and now she can read more books for so many years, which is the greatest tolerance for her, and the twenty-year-old girl is not in a hurry to marry her husband and teach her children, what else to talk about reading?
The uncle's refusal did not make Lü Bicheng give up, this twelve-year-old girl who dared to look around for someone to save herself, once again showed her brave side, directly without a penny, jumped on the train to Tianjin, and ran to the paradise she longed for.
If it were not for meeting a kind woman on the train, buying food for her on the train, and taking her in to live in a hotel opened by her own family, Lü Bicheng's escape plan might not have been so smooth.
But Lü Bicheng has such charm, which can allow her to meet noble people again and again in her later life. In addition to her bad feelings, she has hardly suffered any more hardships in her life.
When he arrived in Tianjin, The first thing Lü Bicheng had to solve was how to feed himself.
So she had the audacity to write a cover letter to the Ta Kung Pao next to the hotel, hoping that a woman who was temporarily staying at the newspaper, whom she had never met, could help introduce her to the newspaper just because someone else was her uncle's subordinate wife.
The recipient of the cover letter did not receive it, but it was received by Ying Zhizhi, the general manager of the Ta Kung Pao. Ying Huozhi was surprised by the writing style of the letter author, so he wrote a reply and asked to see Lü Bicheng.
Lü Bicheng gladly agreed to the appointment, that is, this meeting, which opened the curtain for the years of enmity between the two.
One of the heroes saw the youthful and beautiful Lü Bicheng and not only arranged her to work at the newspaper, but even took her home to live with his wife.
After that, Lü Bicheng's talent began to be revealed in one article after another, and his appreciation for Lü Bicheng in his eyes became more and more intense, and even slowly brought admiration.
Ying Zhizhi did his best to praise Lü Bicheng, and he could often see Lü Bicheng's masterpieces in the newspaper, and he even published a book of poems for the four sisters of Lü Bicheng, and even for Lü Bicheng's desire to run a female school.
If Lü Bicheng could not see the reason why Yingzhi was so enthusiastic about her, it would be absolutely deceitful. After all, Yingzhi's wife can feel the heat in her husband's eyes when he looks at Lü Bicheng, and wants the beauty of adulthood.
But Lü Bicheng did not want to destroy other people's marriages, nor did he want to hurt the heart of Mrs. Ying, who had always taken good care of her. So she pretended not to know, although she was touched by the man's all-out help to her, but she deeply understood what happened to several of them after her mother became a stepmother.
Therefore, she has always maintained a delicate relationship with Yingzhi, which is emotional and reasonable.
After China's first women's university, Beiyang Women's College, was finally established with the help of Yingzhi, Lü Bicheng served as the school's chief teacher.
At this time, she was only twenty-one years old. But she is already a talented woman who has moved the country. Later generations have commented on her literary achievements, and all believe that her literary talent is far beyond Lin Huiyin, Zhang Ailing, Xiao Hong and others.
And as China's first female editor, or even the first female writer, the reason why she is not as famous as the next few female writers is only because she was born decades before them, and the timing is not quite right.
After becoming famous, Lü Bicheng took several sisters from his uncle's house and asked them to follow him to engage in women's schools, and several sisters have successively served as the principals or teachers of several female schools in various places, and for a time the good name of "Huaixi Sanlu" has also been passed down far.
But it was because Lü Bicheng received her sisters that she had a disagreement with Yingzhi, and from then on she went farther and farther away, until she was strange.
At that time, Lü Bicheng's second sister Lu Meisun somehow looked at Yingzhi right, and after being injured by a tram and being taken care of by Yingzhi for a period of time, the two began to frown, you are thick and I am thick.
This was undoubtedly a huge blow to Lü Bicheng, and the betrayal of the two of them made her very angry, not only did they break off contact with the second sister afterwards, but they also had no feelings for Yingzhi anymore. Even many years later, he still couldn't let go of his nostalgia and wrote a poem to express his grief at being betrayed by both sides.
Lu Ying and Lu Ying, who originally had different ideas, because they no longer had that unclear entanglement between each other, soon began to look at each other to the extent of mutual dislike. Ying Shuzhi has written many articles to satirize Lü Bicheng's fashionable dress, dressing too flowery and showing off unlike a literati, and Lü Bicheng is not willing to show weakness again and again, and hit back on the spot.
Four years after the newspaper, Lu Bicheng left the Ta Kung Pao, ending her career as China's first female editor.
It also ended her first heartbeat in her life and bid farewell to her first man. At this time, Lü Bicheng was only twenty-five years old.
Third, he met the amorous prince Yuan Kewen again and became the first female secretary in China
Lü Bicheng has always been an open-minded woman, since she published in the newspaper advocating feminism, she has always been generous in her daily interactions, and her communication with men has always been generous, coupled with her versatility and beauty, so there are not a few men who admire her, Yuan Kewen is one of them.
Yuan Kewen was very respectful of Lü Bicheng, although he was seven years younger than Lü Bicheng, he could not stand up to his raging fire of admiration, and chased after Lü Bicheng all day long, and even came forward to save Lü Bicheng.
Lü Bicheng is not annoying to Yuan Kewen, so she is happy to contact him, but she has a ruler in her heart, and she should talk about feelings or friendship with Yuan Kewen.
Facts have proved that a lonely and arrogant woman like Lü Bicheng will never wronged herself for any man.
At that time, many people were optimistic about Yuan Kewen and Lü Bicheng, and Lü Bicheng also became the first female secretary around Yuan Shikai under the recommendation of Yuan Kewen, and later became an official to participate in politics. Fei Shuwei, one of Yuan Kewen's brothers-in-law, was also a literati, and he knew Lü Bicheng, and Zeng Mingli secretly asked Lü Bicheng if he would marry Yuan Kewen as a concubine.
How did Lü Bicheng answer at that time, she said that Yuan Kewen was a brother in law, and he could only hug left and right in the happy scene. This means that she is not suitable, and it is impossible to accept that after marriage, he will attract bees and butterflies, so she will not marry him.
Moreover, in Lü Bicheng's view, Yuan Kewen and her friends may be able to do it for many years. If she is a lover, with her personality, she will either vomit herself to death in jealousy every day, or quarrel with Yuan Kewen every day without dignity.
Therefore, she and Yuan Kewen have been friends for more than ten years, although she later left Yuan Shikai's side, and the two did not break off contact.
Fourth, discouraged, at the age of forty-five, he began to eat and pray to the Buddha
These are the two longest relationships in Lu Biwei's life that have not yet begun. During this period, there were other small sparks bursting out, but they were so fast that she didn't have time to invest in it, and it was over again.
When Lü Biwei was twenty-six years old, she had a relationship with Hu Weide, a minister of Japan at the end of the Qing Dynasty, but people did not come to see her at all, and directly and implicitly said that she already had a crush.
Of course, Lu Biwei understood this kind of prevarication, perhaps the other party felt that she was too innovative and heroic, and did not think that she would be a virtuous wife. This made Lu Biwei, who was in the limelight at that time, very upset, and disappointed in the marriage for a few points.
Later, she and the writer Yang Zhiyun looked at each other, and the two had been communicating with each other for a long time, and when she thought that each other was about to achieve positive results, the other party suddenly accepted an aunt.
Lu Biwei naturally did not wronged herself by half a point, and then broke off contact with Yang Zhiyun and became a lonely person again.
Lu Biwei, who was completely disappointed in love, began to work hard for her career wholeheartedly. With her accumulated contacts in the literary and political circles, in just three years, she has made a lot of money, and she can independently build a large villa of her own on Jing'an Temple Road in Shanghai, and then start her way to study in the world.
You should know that Huang Huixian, who has always been known as the richest person in the Republic of China period, bought a big house by relying on the money given to her by her father. But Lü Bicheng was completely dependent on himself.
In 1918, at the age of thirty-five, Lü Bicheng went to Columbia University in the United States for further study, and returned to China four years later, beginning to devote himself to the exchange of Chinese and foreign cultures. After another four years, she went abroad again, to Europe, to continue her study tours.
And because she also had a dog, she began to pin her emotions on animals, joined the World Animal Protection Committee, and established China's first animal protection society, and for this reason, she quit meat and fish, and only ate vegetarian for three meals a day.
In 1930, at the age of forty-seven, Lü Bicheng took his home, practiced at home, and became a true layman, completely abandoning the seven passions and six desires.
Until 1943, when Lu Bicheng died at the age of sixty-one, she had never really been in love once, and she had really loved someone. Although she was successful in her career and met many noble people in her life, the man who was willing to accompany her to old age wholeheartedly and was willingly entrusted by her heart never appeared.
Of course, this may be Lü Bicheng's choice, after all, her mate selection criteria have never looked at money, not looked at status, only looked at learning and sincerity.
References: "The Last Stop of the Republic of China, the Ladies and Daughters of the Republic of China", "The Biography of Lü Bicheng"