Now many women choose celibacy, not to marry or love, to live a quiet life alone, the theory they hold is: "I can support myself, I have money, I can make money, I have talent, I have ideals to pursue, I like to be with myself, why should I get married?" ”
And there is a talented woman in the Republic of China who is never married, she is Lü Bicheng. Lü Bicheng was born in 1883, a Lan Qing, character recluse, number Ming Yin, Baolian resident. Lü Bicheng was the first female editor in the history of Chinese journalism, the first female writer in China, and a talented woman who set a precedent for a woman in the history of modern education to run school politics.
Moreover, Lü Bicheng was also one of the initiators of the feminist movement and the first animal protectionist in China. Many literati and dignitaries of the Republic of China admired Lü Bicheng's talent, including Yuan Shikai, who hired Lü Bicheng as his secretary after Yuan Shikai became president.
There are many people who pursue Lü Bicheng, but Lü Bicheng has never been married, why is this? Lü Bicheng said: "There are not many men who can be satisfied in their lives. Liang Qichao had a family early on, Wang Jingwei was too young; Wang Rongbao was a good person and was married; Zhang Jian had introduced Zhu Zongyuan to me, but he was not confused in his old age, his eyebrows were white, and he was too unworthy. My aim is not in how much money and how much I am, but in the position of literature, so it is rare to have a suitable partner. ”
It seems that Lü Bicheng's requirements are very low, he does not require appearance, nor does he require money and money, but only literary status, but unfortunately this cannot be found. In fact, there are many scholars with status in literature, but most of them are married, Lü Bicheng is a very moralistic woman, she is not a third party, do not destroy other people's families, so it is not easy for her to find a scholar with a status in literature to marry.
Lü Bicheng is not only talented, but also showy and wise, and his appearance is also very outstanding. Plus, she was rich. After resigning from the position of presidential secretary, Lü Bicheng went to the sea to do business and made a lot of money. When the rich and talented female scholar Lü Bicheng dressed in chic clothes, she lived a life of elegance and freedom, traveled around the world, and wrote articles for publication.
The Republic of China diplomat Hu Weide admired Lü Bicheng very much, and after the widowhood, he repeatedly asked Lü Bicheng's teacher Yan Fu to act as a matchmaker and wanted to marry Lü Bicheng, but Lü Bicheng refused. Hu Weide not only served as a high official in the Republic of China, but also in the Qing Dynasty. Hu Weide served as an envoy abroad for many times, and later served as the foreign minister and acting prime minister of the Republic of China.
It seems that Lü Bicheng's requirements for choosing a mate are not very low, but he wants to marry a very perfect person, preferring to lack rather than abuse.
Lü Bicheng had a good friend named Yuan Kewen, who was the second son of Yuan Shikai, who was intelligent and talented, proficient in calligraphy and painting, familiar with the Four Books and Five Classics, and fond of poetry and song. Lü Bicheng was seven years older than Yuan Kewen, and Yuan Kewen admired Lü Bicheng's talent. The two men are like-minded and often sing poetry together.
However, Lü Bicheng would not marry Yuan Kewen, because Yuan Kewen already had a wife, and Lü Bicheng was a virtuous woman, she would not be a third party to destroy other people's families, nor would she be a concubine. Moreover, Lü Bicheng knew Yuan Kewen very well and thought that Yuan Kewen was not suitable for her.
Someone asked Lü Bicheng how he viewed Yuan Kewen, and Lü Bicheng said: "Yuan Kewen is a brother of the gongzi, and he is only allowed to snuggle up in the happy scene. ”
For women, financial independence is the most important, and financially independent women must marry in order to marry. And financially independent women do not have to deliberately pursue marriage, such as Lü Bicheng. Lü Bicheng never married because she had money and did not need to rely on her husband to support her.
Of course, there are many reasons why a woman is unmarried for life, and The reason why Lu Bicheng, a talented woman in the Republic of China, is unmarried in her lifetime is because she has not met someone she likes, and she has talent, ideals and money, so she does not have to deliberately pursue marriage and live a dashing and comfortable life.