Lü Bicheng
Not all mistakes can be forgiven, and not all the past can be forgotten.
The so-called exhortations and consolations of all outsiders standing on the moral high ground to others are only a false consolation, a self-deceptive lie.
And those who have been hurt cannot answer without obstacles: "It doesn't matter."
Lü Bicheng, a well-known figure in the Republic of China period, was the first female editor in China, the first female school principal, the first female presidential confidential secretary, and the first.
There are countless halos around her, and she not only has high achievements herself, but also has the ability to "attract bees and attract butterflies", peach blossoms are one after another, and celebrities from all walks of life are not in the minority.
Rather than saying that her beautiful appearance attracts "lustful people", it is better to praise her tenacity and perseverance. Lost his father at an early age, his family property was taken away, his husband's family retired from marriage, and he sent people to the fence...
It can be said that it is a taste of the cold and warm of the world. If you grow up in such an environment, you will either collapse and become the sludge on the ground, and you will have no backbone, and anyone can step on it.
If you can come out of this environment, it is a fish leaping through the dragon gate and entering a thousand miles. No matter how much wind and rain blows, all kinds of temptations are not in the heart.
Obviously, Lü Bicheng stepped out of the swamp step by step and walked out of his glory.
Her achievements are countless, and at every time of her life, it is a history of successful struggles that can be written in a big way, but the emotional stories about her have always attracted the attention of future generations.
This beautiful woman with a halo full of peach blossoms has never been married until she is old, and has never established a relationship with any man.
She is ridiculed by the do-gooders as a "leftover woman", but is this really the case? Why was Lü Bicheng unwilling to accept the confessions of those men?
View of marriage
No one is credible, only oneself in this world will not betray oneself, and praying for the kindness of others is tantamount to seeking one's own death. Lü Bicheng, who was not yet 20 years old, had already figured out this truth.
She was originally a lady in the Gaomen family, and her father, Lü Fengqi, was a jinshi during the Guangxu years, and because she hated official corruption, she resigned resolutely and lived a clean life.
However, Lü Fengqi's wife only gave birth to 4 daughters, so she was criticized by many people, and Lü Fengqi blocked the gossip of the outside world for his wife and daughter, and took care of the family wholeheartedly, vowing to raise her daughter well.
Therefore, under the guidance of his father, Lü Bicheng's resourcefulness and sensitivity, at a young age, he was able to export chapters, and he was generous and did not shy away from answering, which attracted praise.
A family of hundreds of women begged, and Lu Bicheng, who was not yet 10 years old, was targeted and asked her parents to marry her parents.
Lü Bicheng, who was only 10 years old, was ordered by his parents and the words of the matchmaker, and unconsciously made a marriage contract with the disciples of the Wang family, another family in the same county.
If there is no accident, Lü Bicheng will further hit her talented woman under the guidance of her father. When he grew up, he married the disciples of the Wang family, and became a rich and scattered person for a lifetime, and taught his husband and son.
But if it was only like this, it would not have created Lü Bicheng, which was later famous throughout the country.
At the age of 12 (another says 13), her father died unexpectedly.
Money is moving, and profit is fascinating. The relatives on the father's side directly used the reason that "no filial piety has three, and no posterity is greater" to brazenly appropriate the property of Lü Bicheng's family as their own.
Not only that, they also instigated the kidnappers to kidnap Lü Bicheng's mother in order to create a reason.
At a young age, Lü Bicheng began to shine, contacting all the old friends and students of her father who could be contacted, or writing letters for help, or traveling around to visit.
After many detours, fortunately, the final result was good, and the mother was successfully rescued.
Originally, it was a story of a young girl supporting the family and saving her mother strongly, but this story caused dissatisfaction among Lü Bicheng's fiancé's family.
They excused themselves, and at a young age, they had a lot of intentions, and later they got it, so they unilaterally announced the dissolution of the marriage contract with Lü Bicheng.
It is really funny to say, at first the Wang family valued Lü Bicheng's agility, but in the end, they looked at her unfavorably for the same reason. Her evaluation has also changed from "clever" to "clever".
The experience of being betrayed twice in a row made Lü Bicheng uneasy.
She didn't understand why the elders of the Wang clan, who had been so kind to her in the past, could look at her with such a disgusted look and belittle her with insulting words.
The fiancé she had thought would be her own, couldn't wait to get rid of her relationship.
But in the end, Lü Bicheng, who is still ignorant, has not yet understood the taste of love, and has already understood the betrayal of men, which also has a great impact on her future views of marriage and love.
This move by the Wang family was a big blow to the Lü family, when the Qing Dynasty was still alive, there were many restraints on women, and they were dismissed by the husband's family, which can be described as a thousand husbands and a thousand fingers, looking down on them.
In desperation, Lü Bicheng's mother took several sisters to her uncle's place to defect. Several of the older sisters walked out of the house, leaving only their mother and the youngest fourth sister to leave their uncle's house.
Even so, they still attracted the eyes of others.
The mother's family was tired of the widow who had returned home and did not want to provide them with any more financial support, so they also found kidnappers to kidnap Lady Lu and the fourth sister.
The Lü Bicheng sisters once again asked for help, and the danger was dangerous, pulling their mother and sister who had drunk poison back from the ghost gate.
This incident became the last straw that crushed the camel.
Lü Bicheng's heart was like a raging flame burning endlessly, the world was greedy, angry, resentful, and hateful, as a human being, but no different from the beast, without the slightest concern for blood relatives, leaving no trace of affection.
She was resentful in her heart, not only for those who had framed them, but also for the world and for herself.
What if the world was no longer "male respect, female inferior"? What if a woman can also provoke a family business and stir up trouble? What if she wasn't so weak?
How and how dare these people disregard their opinions and commit treachery in such a way?
No matter what, at that time, Lü Bicheng still did not have the ability to seek justice for her family, she just endured and saved, just waiting for the opportunity to soar into the sky.
Soon, the opportunity came. In 1903, Yuan Shikai, then the governor of Tianjin, announced that he would set up a women's school in Tianjin.
Lü Bicheng was ready to visit the women's academy. But this decision was met with harsh verbal abuse from her uncle, who ordered her to stay at home and learn from the virtues of women.
Yuan Shikai
As for the girls' academy? If he did not keep his duty and challenge the ancestral rituals, he would never allow such a "disgraceful" person to appear in his own home.
In desperation, Lü Bicheng could only take advantage of the night to flee in a hurry, and even had no time to pack his luggage, so he embarked on the train to Tianjin without any money.
At this time, Lü Bicheng had basically lost her expectations for people, except for her deceased father, who felt that no one in the world could understand her.
They only cared about what they wanted, but they never considered how Lü Bicheng felt. They were bent on making her "correct", but they never wanted to accommodate her.
And Lü Bicheng believed that he was not wrong.
Why should we obey the words of those men, obediently be bullied, obediently stay at home, and put all the honor and disgrace on the man, which is ridiculous.
She is going to make a career as a woman, and those who once looked down on her are stunned and regret it.
miss
The era that belongs to Lü Bicheng is coming, and she stirs up the storm as a woman, but she no longer believes in love.
After escaping from his uncle's house, on the train, Lü Bicheng met the lady owner of the Tianjin Fozhaolou Hotel, who helped him to Tianjin and settled down smoothly.
After some twists and turns, Lü Bicheng Wencai was appreciated by the general manager of the Ta Kung Pao, Ying Huozhi, and at his invitation, he became the editor of the Ta Kung Pao, which was also the first female editor in Chinese history.
Heroic
Lü Bicheng, who entered the newspaper, was finally able to show her skills, and she repeatedly published articles to encourage women to stand on their own feet and demand the liberation of women and equality between men and women.
"Women, the foundation of the family", "the rise of feminism, the home of patriotism... To make equal freedoms ... To become a complete nation", "to unite the four hundred trillion people into a great group, and to join forces to compete for the great powers"...
Her remarks shocked a thousand waves and made people deafening. She also joined forces with others to form a girls' school, which was also the first public girls' school in China's historical sense.
Lü Bicheng became famous and welcomed everyone to respect in the name of a woman, and many young boys secretly liked this sister.
Lü Bicheng served as the principal of the Beiyang Women's Normal School
One of them was Yuan Shikai's son, Yuan Kewen. Just two people, one newspaper editor, one is a stupid boy who is not learning and has no skills, and there is really no chance of officially meeting.
Occasionally in the Wind and Moon Place, hearing others talk about this stormy woman, Yuan Kewen only glanced at the past, listened for a while, and then echoed a few words.
Ben was a person in the two circles, and he never thought that he and Lü Bicheng would intersect.
In July 1907, Lü Bicheng's friend Qiu Jin was arrested in Shaoxing and generously righteous.
After her death, no one dared to move, no one dared to mourn, or Lü Bicheng came from thousands of miles to send Qiu Jin one last decent.
Qiu Jin
Not only that, the letters she and Qiu Jin had written in the past were also searched by the government, so they issued an official document to arrest Lü Bicheng, which happened to reach the hands of Yuan Kewen, who was then a member of the Law Department.
The goddess of her heart was in distress, and she could not hurry to offer her courtesy, and perhaps she could get a little gratitude.
So Yuan Kewen's eyes rolled, and he went to find his father with the official documents. He talked about Lü Bicheng's current status and prestige, expressing concern that arrest without exact evidence did not make people panic?
Yuan Shikai thought about it and said to the outside world: "If there are letters and letters that are the same party, then have I not also become a chaotic party?" "A crisis was solved without a trace.
Lü Bicheng also learned from others that this brother who helped him, Yuan Kewen.
Kevin Yuan
When Lü Bicheng was 25 years old and Yuan Kewen was 18 years old, these two "fateful and inseparable" people officially met.
When he saw the goddess he secretly admired appear in front of him, Yuan Kewen, who was still a teenager, and Lu Bicheng, could not control his sparkling eyes.
When she was most a teenager, Lü Bicheng was different from the women she had known before, she was not weak, she did not complain, and no matter how dangerous she was, she only smiled.
She was more intelligent, calm and erudite, and Yuan Kewen could not control her emotional investment in this woman.
However, if Lü Bicheng knew that this teenager had thought of her in this way, he would have to roll his eyes in his heart.
Yuan Kewen sang in the play
He actually compared her with the woman of the Wind Moon Field who was the color attendant?
Talking about Yuan Kewen, the son of Yuan Shikai, the name of the beauty of the merry-go-by, who does not know, who does not know. Until the future generations, when talking about him, the first impression is still to love beautiful people.
I heard that everywhere he went, he could always have a wind and moon anecdote with the local Qinglou woman, which was the talk of people after tea and dinner.
Not only that, he is also an amorous talent, every time he writes, he must have a beautiful person to accompany him and wait for pen and ink.
The beautiful people are on the side, the mood is cheerful, Yuan Kewen writes from the outside, the wind is charming, quite famous.
He also showed off to Lü Bicheng that a painting could sell for 8,000, and the warlord Zhang Zongchang had deliberately waited outside the door to hold wine in order to get a word from him.
Yuan Ke calligraphy
Lü Bicheng was amused by this vivid young boy brother, he always showed enthusiasm and sincerity in front of her, obviously a playboy who was famous for "experienced in hundreds of battles", and could make a shy appearance.
Perhaps, true love is to make people suffer from gain and loss. This law was applied to Yuan Kewen and was never avoided.
At first, he didn't even dare to show his heart, but secretly asked someone to help him as a lobbyist.
This man, who has always been drunk and drunk and only cares about happiness, in the face of his sweetheart's affairs, has begun to suffer from gains and losses, and he is annoyed with the absurdities of the past.
He invited Fei Shuwei, the chairman of Xinfu Bank and a famous poet, to help him say good things in front of Lü Bicheng and match the two of them, but Lü Bicheng only smiled and did not speak.
What does that mean? Does she love Yuan Kewen or not? In fact, Lü Bicheng himself was also in trouble.
Lü Bicheng likes the atmosphere when he is with Yuan Kewen, he will take good care of her emotions, gentle and considerate. And speaking funny and humorous, it can also bring her a lot of joy.
However, she did not dare to take that step. Looking at Lü Bicheng's past experience, it was full of betrayal and parting.
The betrayal of her relatives at home, the ridicule of her fiancé, including yingzhizhi, whom she met after coming to Tianjin, are vaguely ambiguous, and before they can be clarified, they have been reprimanded and bored by him.
How dare she believe that Yuan Kewen would treat her wholeheartedly. He is the son of Yuan Shikai, for him, three wives and four concubines, and it is the nature of men to be merry and happy, and there is no need to suppress them, nor do they need to be suppressed.
In short, it is okay to fall in love with him, it is not necessary to marry, she can already anticipate the endless red-faced confidants and family struggles.
In fact, for Lü Bicheng, the best thing to do is to clear the relationship with Yuan Kewen, and when the break is continuous, it will be chaotic.
But Lü Bicheng was reluctant to let go of such a man who was full of his own eyes, and she had never been so warmly loved, and she was unwilling to let go.
She had wondered if Yuan Kewen could change his habit of drinking flower wine and stop going to those wind and moon places. However, vaguely mentioned to him a few times, Yuan Kewen did not have much improvement.
It is also said that he has lived in a large family of three wives and four concubines since childhood, so it is also taken for granted that multiple women serve men together.
This is a reflection of this sentence: "Never try to change a person, because all you get is failure." ”
Yuan Kewen's outlook on life and marriage has taken shape in the past twenty years, and It is lü Bicheng, who has known him for a few years, who can change it.
"Yuan belongs to the gongzi brother, and he is only allowed to snuggle up to the red Yi Cui'er in the happy scene." After the investigation, Lü Bicheng had no choice but to come to this conclusion.
Lü Bicheng proposed that the two get along as friends. Although unwilling, Yuan Kewen still respected her opinion.
Idle, the two cook tea and chat, cook wine and play, and often exchange letters, hidden ambiguity.
It was not until the marriage of Yuan Kewen Zhang Luo at home that the two tacitly stopped communicating and missed it.
Grow old
Lü Bicheng and Yuan Kewen are like two intersecting straight lines, only for that moment to meet, and then gradually drift away, and they will never see each other again in this life.
The fates of these two men were thus separated by different rivers and carried different outcomes.
After Yuan Kewen got married, he maintained a sweet harmony with his newlywed wife for a period of time, and soon the old state recurred, and he looked for flowers and asked for willow again.
Frustrated, his wife fled into the empty door.
Lü Bicheng continued her career journey, she studied abroad, did business, made investments, and left her own legend in every industry.
But for love, I still maintain a grateful and insensitive attitude. I thought that after seeing the end of Yuan Kewen's wife, I also had a sad feeling in my heart.
Men in the world are all lucky, and it is the most foolish way to rely on their own honor and disgrace on others.
Lü Bicheng did not dare to believe in love, perhaps she had tried, if Yuan Kewen had stopped going to the Wind Moon Place, she was actually willing to try, then would they become good couples?
Yuan Kewen and his newlywed wife
It's just that everything is just "ifs".
In 1930, this woman, who was only in her 40s, had already looked down on everything and chose to take refuge in Buddhism, and her dharma name was Manzhi.
Lü Bicheng chose not to marry for life, and until she grew old, she was still alone. This is also the best protection for "love".
She looked forward to meeting a lover who knew each other, but she suffered too many betrayals, and she was too afraid that her love-seeking journey would fail, and it didn't matter if she didn't fall in love.
She put her career more seriously than her emotions, which is the result of weighing the pros and cons, at least people may betray themselves, and the prestige, property and power in their hands are completely her own and difficult to be taken away.