How I get out of the trough of life (twenty-four) is to know how to develop friendship relationships

This is the twenty-fourth part of a psychological self-help novel, and if you haven't read the previous ones, please read the link below first, the author has been blessed with his life because he practiced what he wrote, and I hope you will do the same:

How I got out of the trough of life (twenty-three) adversity to learn the lessons of growth

"While waiting, what else should I do besides studying?" Sitting next to the old man, I asked him slightly anxiously. Now, I seem to have a buffer time in my life, a new field to learn to explore, and then what?

"Do you know what Joseph did in prison besides studying?" The old man inspired me.

"Well, I can't do anything."

"Wrong, he can also do a very important thing, make friends." The old man said to me very solemnly: "Making friends is a very important thing. Although we should not make friends with a utilitarian mentality, it is indeed a truth that friends have more ways to go. Some people say that relationships are the primary productive force. That's right. If you can make great friends, and they can give you the opportunity to help you, you have a chance to get out of the bottom quickly. Of course, this is not to say that we beg every friend, nor does it mean that we use friendship to achieve our own ends, these are short-sighted and utilitarian. For example, eagerly selling goods to friends can only hurt friendships. ”

I very much agree with the old man's words, in the past, when I was doing sales, I was anxious to find a few friends to reach a business, and as a result, they all turned away from me later. After that, I went into debt and went to a few friends to borrow money, most of which I got was a cold refusal. At that time, I couldn't help but sigh at the indifference. But now that I think about it, the old man was quite right.

"To get a real friendship and be able to get a chance of success in a friendly relationship, here are five principles you must keep in mind.

First, we must learn to develop friendship without utilitarian purposes, and respond with kindness and sincerity to everyone who may become friends.

Second, actively share what you have with them and provide them with help within your power, but don't have an attitude of immediate profit.

Third, make friends who can bring gains to your life, and for those who cannot bring gains to your life, you can pity and sympathize with them, but don't make them friends.

Fourth, if a friend extends an olive branch to you, that is, to take the initiative to provide you with an opportunity, you should be particularly grateful, and at the same time quickly identify and seize this opportunity.

Fifth, friends must be sincere and devoted, sincerely share all you have, invest your feelings, time and energy.

In this way you will be able to build a good relationship with people, and then you will find opportunities in the relationship. Joseph is like this, he seems to have a natural ability to establish good relations with people, so that people who see him like him very much, the so-called people see people love, flowers see flowers. Why? Not because he's handsome, but because he follows the above principles, so he can make friends wherever he is. Later, Pharaoh's bartender and chief cook offended Pharaoh and was sent to prison and imprisoned with Joseph. These are the two great ministers of Egypt. Logically, Joseph should have mocked them or taken the opportunity to bully them, but Joseph became very good friends with them. Although he didn't know if they would be released from prison, Joseph didn't miss every opportunity to make friends. ”

Practice 22: Go, try to meet and make 3-4 friends and actively develop non-utilitarian relationships with them.