How to be a lover for a lifetime? (Very heartwarming)

Listen to happiness with you every night

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Eason Chan has a song that sings like this:

"Whether the lover makes trouble with me, the lover punishes me, and it is best to treat you at all times."

In the vast sea of people, meeting the lover that your heart loves requires a lucky fate.

However, it is not enough to meet, and it is long to stay together.

How can you be a lover for a lifetime, a lifetime without separation? The following points can give you answers.

01

Between lovers, you can pretend to be stupid

In a relationship, if two people are in a relationship, everything must be discussed, then it is doomed to be difficult to maintain for a long time.

After all, no one is a saint, and anyone can make mistakes.

Many things cannot withstand careful questioning; many choices cannot withstand repeated tests.

If you always break the casserole for everything on the other side, then the answer you get will often not be too satisfactory to you.

On the contrary, a lover who knows how to pretend to be stupid can love more deeply and go longer.

Of course, pretending to be stupid is not really stupid, not blindly listening to all the words of the other party, without thinking, foolishly loving.

Nor is it pretending to be clever, and using shrewdness and calculation in feelings will surely bear the bitter fruit.

The real stupidity is the wisdom to see through and not to say broken, and it is the measure that knows but is not obsessed.

Two people together, don't be vague in big things, and gently let go of small things.

In this way, we can live easily with each other and not be stressed by this relationship.

There is a line in the movie "The Hillside where Yu Meiren Blooms":

"No one is a fool, it's just that sometimes we choose to pretend to be stupid to feel what is called happiness."

If a lover wants to love for a long time, then remember: properly serve soft, reasonably pretend to be stupid, and always be sober.

02

Between lovers, we must get along comfortably

A long-term relationship must be comfortable to get along with, especially between lovers.

The so-called comfort is to be free to be yourself in front of each other.

There is no need for any pretense, no need for any routine, just go from the heart and go with the flow.

Respect each other's ideas and habits, do not deliberately force, and do not tolerate grievances.

A healthy relationship must not be one side pleasing the other, but both sides are evenly matched and running in both directions.

There are both shared and boundaries; intimate and distanced.

As the writer Su Qian said:

"Really good love is effortless. There is no need to deliberately please and work hard to operate, and the two people are already comfortable with nature.

If a love affair and a person have to make you spend a lot of energy to please, this is doomed to not be able to accompany you to the end. The person who loves you the most will not be willing to work so you. ”

Being with someone who is comfortable doesn't require you to make any effort.

Even if you just sit together and don't talk, you seem very beautiful and happy.

I like a quote from the writer Anna Kael Yuon:

"Love should not only consider the end, but also find the most comfortable way to get along in the journey of love."

Lovers who can love for a long time must find the most comfortable way to get along.

03

Between lovers, don't be harsh on each other

The ancient poet Su Shi once said:

"Horizontally, it is a peak on the side of the ridge, and the height of the distance is different."

This is true of the world, and so is man. Everyone has their own personality, and everyone has their own behavior habits and ways of doing things.

Lovers fall in love with each other and step into each other's world, but that doesn't mean they have to live exactly the way they live.

Many times, we are too demanding of our lovers, in fact, we hope that the other party will become the best look in our minds.

However, what you call good is not necessarily in his opinion.

Instead of insisting that the other party do what you want, it is better to learn to tolerate and understand.

You don't need to empathize, but please don't be harsh and learn to respect.

As the saying goes:

"Love is not about finding a perfect person, but about learning to appreciate the imperfect person with perfect eyes."

Isn't the best thing about love is that two imperfect people shine in each other's eyes?

There is a line in the movie "Love Before the Dawn Breaks" that is very touching:

"If there is any miracle in the world, we must try our best to understand someone and share their happiness and suffering with them."

If the lover wants to be with him for a long time, then remember: do not be demanding, do not demand, more tolerant, more understanding.

The two most romantic words in the world are "lover".

It is destiny that makes you deeply rooted; it is destiny that makes you affectionate.

Long road, may every pair of lovers work together: occasionally pretend to be stupid, not harsh on each other, and get along very comfortably.

With lovers, do happy things, laugh and greet the ukiyo-e-thousand changes.

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