My husband died, I remarried, my mother-in-law prepared a dowry and a wedding room for me, and also held a wedding for us in the village. People in the village said that my mother-in-law was stupid and lived a lot, and if I had changed someone else, not using a broom to drive me out of the house would have been the greatest gift to me.
Many years later, people in the village praised me and my current husband for their filial piety, but I knew that my mother-in-law had today's happy days, all because of her mother-in-law's fulfillment of me and her own wisdom.
My husband and I are college classmates, after graduation I went home with him, his family is in a small mountain village, there is a lot of land, we use his family's resource advantages, together to engage in aquaculture.
Later we got married and had a daughter. We're having a good day, and we're planning to scale up. But the husband was in a car accident on the way to transport the feed and died on the spot.
My mother-in-law and I were both hit, and my mother-in-law was even worse.
The mother-in-law had a very hard time, the husband was still in elementary school, and the father-in-law fell ill and died. She has never been married and is dependent on her son.
Seeing that life is getting better and better, building a new house, my husband and I are also very affectionate, and when something like this happens, my mother-in-law washes her face with tears all day long.
My mother-in-law's house is more than 500 kilometers away from my in-laws' house, and I can't help my in-laws' affairs.
I was alone, and I had to take care of my daughter, and the farm could not continue to operate, so I could only rent out the farm and rent it for my mother-in-law's living expenses.
I left my in-laws with my daughter, on the one hand, because I wanted to escape. Living at home, I always think of my husband's voice and smile, and my mother-in-law's tears make me powerless. On the other hand, it is also for the sake of the daughter, since the husband left, the daughter has become less talkative, and she is three years old, it is time to go to kindergarten.
I went to the city to look for a job and saw that I was taking my daughter with me, and many places refused. Two days later, I found a job in a small restaurant.
The boss was a middle-aged man, and at first he saw that I was taking my daughter and did not intend to recruit me, and when he politely refused, a little boy ran out and pulled my daughter to ask my daughter to play with him. I promised my boss that my daughter was well-behaved, that when I found a kindergarten nearby, I would send her to school, that I wouldn't delay her work, and that it didn't matter how long the work was.
The little boy also begged his father to let me and my daughter stay. The boss was still a little hesitant, saying that someone had worked with his daughter? I told me what had happened to me and repeatedly promised to work hard, and the boss finally agreed to let me stay.
The house opened by the owner is three stories old, and there is a grocery room, which is just for me and my daughter to live in. With a job, food and shelter, although the salary is low, there is always a place to stay.
I am willing to suffer hardships, and I love to learn, take time to wash dishes when there is no one, clean up after the guests leave every night before leaving work, and when there are many people, I take the initiative to ask to go to the kitchen to start.
After working for a year, I can cut vegetables and stir-fry vegetables.
The daughter also became cheerful.
I took my daughter home to visit my mother-in-law, and she was in better spirits, so she persuaded me to take my daughter home, saying that the people in the village were talking about it, and said, "If you really want to remarry, find another one in the village."
I don't agree, my daughter is just beginning to become cheerful, I don't want her to go back to the village to go to school, I don't want her to face other children every day and say that you don't have a father, and I don't want everyone to show sympathetic eyes to me and my daughter. I couldn't stand the look in the eyes of the men in the village, and the boring meat paragraphs that a few daring people said to me.
If I stay in the village as my mother-in-law says, I don't know what kind of life my daughter and I will experience.
I said to my mother-in-law, "Mom, you and I will take care of it, if it were not for you, I would have taken my daughter back to my mother's house, but you also have to respect me."
I remember when I left that day, my mother-in-law cried and said, "You can't be sorry for my son."
The business of the small restaurant was very good, the owner hired another person to be responsible for cleaning and washing dishes, I became a chef, and the salary was longer.
After we got acquainted, he said that I called the boss too angry, just call the name.
His name is Zhang Feng, divorced, his ex-wife has married to the provinces, he is alone with his son, is a very good person, and takes good care of me and my daughter.
He pursued me, but I did not dare to accept, I was afraid that my daughter would not accept it, and I was even more afraid that my mother-in-law would not accept it, so I rejected him.
I wanted to find a new job, but because I wanted to pick up my daughter, others disagreed as soon as they heard it, saying that it was the best time for the business when the children were out of school, and I was not at ease to leave my daughter alone at home, and I never found a suitable job.
Talking to her daughter about taking her home to live with her grandmother, her daughter was reluctant.
I was a little embarrassed, on the one hand, I had to face my own inner torment, on the other hand, I was powerless to do anything about life.
Zhang Feng was very understanding, did not retaliate against me for my refusal, and even said that if I really did not want to work here, he could help me pick up my daughter to school and let me come back home after work.
I appreciated him, but I always felt awkward.
Zhang Feng asked me why I refused, I talked about my mother-in-law, but also truthfully said my worries: we all have our own children, can children accept it?
Since then, Zhang Feng has not mentioned this matter again, but it is better for me and my daughter.
For a while, Zhang Feng said that he had something to do, and the things in the store and the children wanted me to worry more.
That afternoon, my mother-in-law and Zhang Feng appeared in the store at the same time, and I was surprised.
"Xiao Xia, your mother-in-law was brought here by me, let's talk about it," Zhang Feng opened first.
I didn't dare to speak, shook my head, and told him not to say anything.
My mother-in-law looked at me for a while before she said, "If you think he's good, mom has no problem."
I looked at my mother-in-law and didn't know what to say.
"Zhang Feng told me that you are only in your 30s and should have your own life," the mother-in-law muttered to herself.
The daughter and Zhang Feng's son just ran out, the daughter shouted "Grandma", Zhang Feng's son also shouted "Grandma", and poured water for the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law laughed and cried.
Zhang Feng and I decided to get married.
My mother's home is far away, I have no relatives, I thought that I and Zhang Feng directly got a marriage license, but Zhang Feng and my mother-in-law did not agree.
The mother-in-law said, "You call me mom, I'm your mother's family." The wedding is going to be done, I will prepare a dowry for you, and I will have to put up a few tables in the village, and the relatives in the village, I will invite them to eat happy wine."
The mother-in-law's transformation made me unexpected, and I looked at her for a moment and did not know what to say.
My mother-in-law prepared a lot of wedding supplies for me, and also renovated the home, and his son's room and I also posted happy words, and said that it would be our wedding room in the future.
My wedding to Zhang Feng was held at my mother-in-law's house, and people in the village said that my mother-in-law was stupid and lived a lot, and if I had changed someone else, not using a broom to drive me out of the house was the greatest gift to me. The mother-in-law said that she earned money, did not have a son, and now has a daughter and son-in-law, and has an extra grandson.
After I married Zhang Feng, I have always been grateful to my mother-in-law for the wedding she organized for me, and I was more filial to my mother-in-law.
Zhang Feng asked her mother-in-law to go back to the city with us, but her mother-in-law was unwilling.
My mother-in-law fell ill, so I took my mother-in-law to the city and stayed for three months. Zhang Feng and I both advised my mother-in-law to stay, but she insisted on going home, saying that it was too noisy in the city and that she was really not used to it.
Zhang Feng and I could only send her back, ask the neighbors to take care of the mother-in-law, and call us in time.
Every week Zhang Feng and I would take a day to take the children home to visit my mother-in-law.
Today, the four of us went home with large bags and small bags of things, and the people in the village praised me and my current husband for their filial piety, saying that my mother-in-law was really blessed to live a good life now. But I know that my mother-in-law has today's happy days, all because of her mother-in-law's fulfillment of me and her own wisdom.
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For her son to accept the remarriage of her daughter-in-law after her son's death, and to prepare a dowry and a marriage room for her, and to treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, it is really a rare mother-in-law.
The daughter-in-law is still young, it is impossible to ask her to live alone with her daughter all the time, remarriage is only a matter of time, to prevent it, it is better to accept it calmly and generously bless. The daughter-in-law can still read your good, and has the granddaughter's affectionate maintenance, and her later life will not be too bleak.
Xiao Xie remembered a question he had seen before: The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are deadlocked, who suffers losses? Many people say that there is no winner in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so they all suffer losses, and the words are correct, but Xiao Xie feels that the mother-in-law needs to be taken care of by the daughter-in-law in the future because of her age, and if the daughter-in-law is not willing to take care of it, the mother-in-law may be very desolate in her later years.
If the daughter-in-law remarries, if the mother-in-law prevents her, the daughter-in-law may take the daughter directly back to her mother's house, or quietly get married, and there are knots in her heart, how can she take care of her later life? Therefore, the mother-in-law who has completed the remarriage of the daughter-in-law is really a person with great wisdom.
In doing so, the mother-in-law not only fulfills the daughter-in-law, but also paves the way for her later life.
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