Text/Xi Xi Huan
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People live a lifetime, everyone is willing to be looked up to, and it is not good to get a feeling of contempt, not only is there no light on their faces, but they will also reduce the motivation to continue to struggle.
Many people reach middle age, but still do not live thoroughly, pursue those meaningless things, waste valuable time and energy on the wrong people and things, the last thing to achieve is themselves, the price is also their own.
In the process of dealing with people, in fact, we can easily see whether the person's heart is barren or abundant, and a truly powerful person will not easily make a bargain, but know how to be introverted and how to preserve his strength.
Today's society is a network information society, we can understand what is happening outside without leaving home, and we can also show our own lives through online social platforms.
But if you don't want to make yourself look cheap, don't post these three things in the circle of friends, otherwise it is easy to be despised, see if there are you?
01 Luxury
Once had a colleague, the family is ordinary she looks beautiful, which is also her proud capital, so after entering the company, she did not work hard, but set her sights on the man with superior family in the company, whether the man was married or not.
Later, the woman took a fancy to a man with a family, and finally got the promise of a man to marry her after exhausting her tricks, and although she was gorgeous on the wedding day, the people who attended the wedding were whispering and discussing the disgraceful wedding.
After getting married, the woman resigned and became a full-time wife at home, and it can be seen from her circle of friends that her life is very luxurious, because it is not a brand-name bag, or where she bought a house.
Luxury goods for her is no longer a necessity of life, but a medium to highlight the superior life, but the more she in the circle of friends luxury, the greater the dislike of her, and even sometimes see less likes and comments, she also chased after the former colleagues whether she blocked her, revealing her bargain in words.
In fact, the woman's psychology is very well understood, she just wants to tell everyone that she has the life she wants by drying luxury goods, but life is her own after all, people who care about you, do not have to show off he can also see, and people who do not care about you, showing off will cause him to resent.
What's more, the precious luxury goods are just external things, relying on their own strength is worth showing off, relying on the charity of others will not cause others to envy.
A truly powerful person knows how to live a low-key life to protect herself, no matter how many luxuries she has, it does not mean success, because the superiority of material life does not indicate the strength of soft power.
02Personal connections
In today's society, who knows more capable people has more opportunities, so network resources have become an important strength that cannot be underestimated.
I have seen many people who will brag that they know a rather influential person on a crowded occasion, and even post some exaggerated remarks in the circle of friends, or constantly promise when friends gather.
But in fact, such people often do not have a deep friendship with those so-called "characters", but in order to satisfy their inner vanity and get a high look from others, they deliberately show that they have a wide range of contacts.
It is not easy to recognize people's hearts, but lies are actually very easy to be punctured, they are all adults, once the bragged lies are recognized, this is a very cheap behavior, it is better to do things and speak from the beginning.
If we look closely, it is not difficult to find that those who really have proud network resources around them are often very subtle and low-key, they may not deliberately express themselves, nor do they need to raise their own value through the "characters" they know, but will first improve themselves, because only if they are good enough, they can enter the eyes of the "characters" and get more opportunities they want.
The so-called attention, rather than too much care about the table, such talents live more transparently, and will also help themselves win the respect and appreciation of more people.
Therefore, if you don't want to appear to be cheap, don't brag about your connections in the circle of friends, both to save your face, but also to stay at the right time.
03 Pessimistic sentiment
Since having a circle of friends, it seems that many people's lives have changed, and even the circle of friends has become an emotional outlet for many people.
It is reasonable to say that the circle of friends belongs to their own private sphere, and what content they want to send is their own right and freedom, but an adult, especially a middle-aged person, will consider how his words and deeds may affect others.
Some people, even in middle age, still can't see through many people and things, and complain when they encounter some difficulties and setbacks, either complaining that the people around them don't help, or complaining about their bad luck.
This kind of complaint is mixed with a person's cowardice and inner uncertainty about himself, because if you work hard enough, if you are mature enough, you will consider the possible results, you will not be so pessimistic emotionally, and you will be ashamed of the efforts you have made.
Friend Sun Jiang is almost forty years old, divorced not to mention, the work is also a mess, the whole person seems to be sluggish, people who know him say that a man should live a backbone, even if he falls, he is not afraid, and then get up, but Sun Jiang likes to complain in the circle of friends every time something happens.
Divorced, no job, quarreled with friends, he had to have a verbal addiction in the circle of friends, and the consequence of doing so was to be more and more despised.
I have to say that venting negative emotions in the circle of friends and saying some pessimistic and extreme words will not make your situation better, but will continue to let yourself fall into difficulties and not be relieved.
Everyone's life will not be always smooth and smooth, there will always be difficulties of one kind or another, and the really powerful person will not waste time complaining, and will not blindly attribute the mistake to others, because he knows how to introspect, and will also get himself out of the current predicament through his own efforts.
Increasing their own strength, this is the desire of many people, but we do not hope for others or external conditions, but to start from their own efforts, if they do not work hard, then the opportunity can not be seized when they are around.
Therefore, the "nobles" who can really raise their value are actually ourselves.
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