Pay attention to the development of language teaching and solve the confusion of language learning.
Parents like to watch a kind of video content: in the morning, parents carry their children's school bags, silently watch their children grind and rub, slowly wear clothes, wear shoes, tie red scarves, it seems that parents are competing, in the end who can finally be better than children, than patience. Parents have been talking about it: it's exactly the same, the same parent. The sense of substitution is extremely strong, and I want to "hit the child" across the screen. How can elementary school students be so unified? There are children with rubbing, the blood pressure of parents can be higher than other parents, the problem of rubbing is not only reflected in action, learning, including doing anything, children should be slow and half a beat, parents are also very distressed, do not know how to help children improve speed. On Monday morning, if you still choose to compete with your children and spend time, as a class teacher, I advise parents to give up, which does not solve any problems.
Children do not have a sense of time, do things grinding and rubbing, because they can't feel the passage of time, do not know why to hurry, will not be responsible for their own behavior, anyway, wait for the next parents will also send us to school quickly. I must do my own thing well, otherwise my parents will say that I can't do this well, and that I can't do that thing well. I don't know if these video content is posed, if it is really to the moment of "burning eyebrows", parents are still so calm, it is also harmful to children. Parents must communicate with their children, guide them to recognize the relationship between time and behavior, improve the concept of time, improve the speed of learning, not by competing with children who is slow, who wins, who can make children realize what it is to be late, parents will win. Obviously, it is difficult to help the child get back on track and recognize the problem. So, what should parents do? You can try to do these 3 things first.
1. Improve the specific behavior speed of the child
Parents will always say to children who are slow to move: Is it okay to get up in the morning and hurry up? Send you to school every day, parents are also tired, grinding and rubbing, Grinding and rubbing again on Monday, you will be late. See, parents using late arrival to let children bear the consequences of slow action, waiting for teachers to criticize them, is itself an irresponsible behavior. Especially if the child is late, she does not understand what slow she is? Every day by the parents urged, obviously they have been doing a variety of things very quickly, parents still have to urge. So the child does not understand how slow they are, parents do not understand, why the child is like a "sloth", where is slow, hate themselves can not grow three heads and six arms, to help the child to do things. Therefore, the core element of solving this problem is to improve the specific behavior speed of the child, so that the child realizes what he is doing slowly and how to improve.
Parents need to observe their children, and on the basis of understanding, help their children realize their slowness. For example, the speed of children wearing clothes and shoes is relatively slow, because the new shoes are more complicated to wear, and they have not yet mastered wearing clothes and shoes, parents can improve the specific behavior speed of their children in a targeted manner, so that children can repeatedly practice wearing shoes in fragmented time, and even help children think of some ways, how to quickly dress and wear shoes, on Sunday night, just prepare Monday's school uniform, red scarf, get up and wear it, rather than waiting to get up and then go to find school uniforms and red scarves. Improving the specific behavior speed of children, including the speed of behavior in learning, sorting out school bags and stationery, and writing speed, can be accelerated with specific behavior exercises. Parents point out where the specific slowness is for their children, and help their children correct their behavior, which is more effective than parents to compete with their children and spend time.
2. In learning, motivate children with time-limited completion methods
Slow behavior in the learning process is more of a headache for parents. Compared with wearing clothes and shoes, parents can also do the work, but learning can not be done on behalf of the worker, parents can not help the child to write homework, nor can they help the child to read the text, so you can only use the time-limited completion method to motivate the child. Many slow and half-beat primary school students are not enough in terms of time perception, that is, they cannot perceive the distance of time. Parents say to their children on Monday morning: Limit 10 minutes to brush your teeth and wash your face, otherwise you will wait for school to be late. Children can't understand how long it takes to spend 10 minutes, what does the time spent brushing their teeth and washing their faces have to do with being late for school? Wouldn't it be nice for me to brush my teeth for an extra minute and wash my face carefully? Will the school close its doors because of my tardiness?
Therefore, parents should complete the time-limited completion method: 10 minutes of brushing teeth and washing face time, is just to determine the time we go out together, if brushing teeth and washing face is slow, the time to go out will be late, encounter traffic jams and other factors, you are late. The child understands the importance of brushing teeth and washing face can not waste time, but also know what the consequences will cause, this is irresistible, blame the parents, can only let themselves in the brushing teeth and face, as fast as possible, save time, to ensure that the road to school will not appear because of traffic jams and late problems. The time-limited method motivates children to feel time and helps children establish a concept of time. As children grow up and enter the upper grades, parents will find that many of the behaviors that are grinding in life will be directly transformed into learning. This is even more difficult to correct, only in the primary school stage, timely help children to correct, in order to change the child's daily behavior. Competing with children for time does not correct the child, nor can it help the child speed up, on the contrary, the child will feel that this is the best way to fight against the parents, deliberately.
3. Parents should not deprive their children of their independent learning ability
We parents like to prompt them one by one or simply stare at their children when they are faced with their grinding behavior. Seeing parents standing next to each other, such a strength suppressed, you can't write homework quickly and put on shoes quickly? So when the video appears, the parents have no love, the child is still slowly tying the red scarf and wearing shoes, this feeling of powerlessness, many parents will feel the same. This is not a child's problem, this is a parent's problem, parents deprive their children of the ability to learn independently, because everything is done by themselves, parents create a learning environment for their children that is not responsible for anything in life. Move slowly, and parents will help you get to school in time. Learning is slow, and parents will tutor you every day. Even if you want to correct the slow behavior, it is the parents who make a plan.
Parents can do everything, so does the child still need to improve his own speed? Therefore, parents do not deprive children of the ability to learn independently, they are not not speeding up, but do not know how to improve the speed, parents are to help children find a suitable and efficient learning method, after cultivating the child's awareness of independent learning ability, this independent behavior will slowly extend to all aspects of life and learning, children will not be unable to perceive time, but can arrange their own learning. This is the cultivation of action logic and thinking, parents should stop spending time with their children, improve their concept of time, improve the speed of learning, we need children to complete it themselves. Do you agree with me? Welcome to leave a comment.