Poor children, what exactly are they raising?

Many people think: boys should be poor, want to be spoiled, and have no time to pay attention! If you want to buy this and buy that, it is impossible! "Poor" raising a boy is to control the child's expenses, do not give him too much enjoyment, so as not to spoil him, such an understanding is more one-sided. The more important significance of "poor" raising boys lies in the value brought to children by personally feeling "poverty" and "hardship", tempering, exercising and cultivating children's will, quality, character and mentality. The boy is poor to train him to do these three things well.

The first is to let him learn to be independent, take care of himself, and know how to take care of others.

True independence is when a child is in control of his or her own life even if he or she leaves his parents– he or she can make the right decisions on his own and take responsibility for his or her actions. You can take good care of yourself and know how to take care of others. Many people are independent on the surface, but psychologically they are "giant babies". Although he is able to take care of himself, he is unable to cope with difficulties on his own, and his dependence is particularly strong; If you run into trouble, you will only escape, and let others clean up the mess. Independence is one of the most critical traits in a boy's development path.

The second is to let him experience setbacks, encounter difficulties, and be able to face them strongly.

For boys, not afraid of difficulties is a very important point, this kind of strength is not only superficial, casual scolding a few words do not cry is not strong, but has a strong heart, his emotions and self-confidence, in the face of difficulties and setbacks, such as losing the game, he did not complete the set goal, although sad inside, but he will continue to sort out the mood, tidy up his emotions, and in the next opportunity to come, will not be afraid of failure to continue to try.

The third is to make him have a sense of responsibility, do what he says, and have the courage to assume his responsibilities.

Sense of responsibility is the first indicator that our adults can evaluate a man's reliability. So for the cultivation of boys, how to cultivate a sense of responsibility? The first is to respect him, to consult with him, and to let him learn to make his own choices. After making a choice, I have to bear the consequences of the choice, so that he can know that I must be responsible for my own choice; The second is to cultivate the habit of doing things from beginning to end, not to give up halfway, and to try to do what he promised others.

The most important thing about wanting a boy to have these qualities is actually very simple, the words and deeds of the parents, the parents themselves demonstrate, and they must always reflect and pay attention to their own words and deeds. Be careful about what to do and what not to do. Only in this way can we be a good example for boys, and boys will be influenced by the good words and deeds of their parents.

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