As the old saying goes: Forty is not confused. It means that a person has his own judgment.
When people reach the age of 40, it can be said that a person's lifelong journey has been completed for most of the time, and the various tastes of "sour, sweet, bitter and spicy" have been tasted, and the understanding of "life" and the understanding of "oneself" have been recognized.
When we were in school, the teacher let me write essays: my ideal, some students' ideals are "scientists", some students are "literary scholars", etc., are "ambitious", and when we reach 40, we find that what we are doing now is far from the ideal.
Although we were still young at that time, our thinking was not yet mature, but we had beautiful dreams and expectations for our future, and it can be said that we had hope for ourselves at that time when we wrote the essay, but we were "too smart" later, and "dreaming" was too hard, and slowly lost.
Many people are very smart, "too smart", but not the cleverness of reading, but a kind of "oil slippery". When we reach the age of 40, there will still be a title in society - old fritters, "old fritters" social views, one is to deal with things "eight faces", everywhere touched, but everywhere has not been solved.
Or that old fritters are easy to avoid risks and avoid taking risks.
Old fritters are a kind of "smart". That's social cleverness. We are 40 "not confused", that is, now we can understand ourselves clearly, and many times we have gone astray.
And by the age of 40, the body and brain have been "weak", and they want to "take a step" forward - the popular understanding is that promotion, salary increase, and making money are already difficult, and at this time, when you recall the past, you will regret these three things.
I don't know if you have one or not
1. Not studying well
When we went to school, our teachers often taught us: you have to go to school well, otherwise you will regret it when the time comes.
Teacher's words, we are left ear in the right ear out, we do not feel that there will be any regrets. Besides, there is still a long way to go.
Without the heart of "hard work", natural learning cannot keep up. Once in a while, I can't stick to it for a long time, just like "Kitten Fishing", butterflies come and go to catch butterflies...
In the blink of an eye, I dropped out of school early, stepped into society, and worked.
Work, due to lack of knowledge and technology, I can only do some physical work. This work, tired, the salary is not high not to say, to 40, the physical function declines, but also to be eliminated.
At this time, if you think about the teacher's education, "I didn't study well", I will really regret it.
2. Didn't work hard
Some people participate in the work, think they are smart, and always feel that the work should be "less effort, more money."
For example, he went to run the business, after the company reported out to run the market, other people braved the scorching sun and sweated rain, but he ran home to sleep.
For example, the company sent this person on a business trip, he hated the job tired and dirty, so he made up a reason to escape.
Even if he goes to work, he does his work "rough", not solid, he does not consider what problems there will be, he quickly finishes work and runs back.
Naturally, such a person can't stay in any company for a long time, and his work process may be that he can't mix in this company, jump to another company, and then jump again, and finally he doesn't learn anything and achieves nothing.
When people reach 40, they are the "top pillars" of a family, with old people on the top and small ones on the bottom, and they all need your "income".
If we are also such people, "mixed" until now, the salary can not support the family, is it regret not to work hard?
3. Didn't find the right job
There is a saying: women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of entering the wrong line.
Sometimes it's not that you don't work hard, it's your "luck".
I have a friend who originally had a stable and good job, and his income was not low, so he listened to his friend's "flickering" and entered his friend's "high-tech" company.
As a result, for many years nothing technology has been made, the company has difficulty surviving, and his salary is getting lower and lower. He wanted to go back to his original company and was no longer in his place4.
He was in his forties and it was difficult to find a company that made as much money as before.
I also have a friend who originally loved to paint, had a talent for art, and could still get results if he painted for a few more years, but his parents let him go into business.
He is not a business material at all, and as a result investing in this loses money, investing in that loses money... Finally discouraged, at 40, picking up a paintbrush and no inspiration.
People to 40, a person struggle is more than ten years of things, if you work hard, and find the right industry, get up quickly;
If you are in the wrong industry, cultivating in it for ten years, and wanting to get out of it without achievements, the opportunities are already very few.
At last:
The writer Ostrovsky said in How Steel is Made:
When he looks back, he will not regret wasting his years...
We are 40 years old, and the life we face is not someone else's "flowers everywhere", but our own "miserable face".
Forty and thirty years old are not the same, thirty years old can regret it, tear it down and start over, but now this forty-year-old age is no longer allowed, which step you have to take, you must consider facing your family, your family does not allow you to take risks anymore.
If we go back in time, we study hard, work hard, and think more before we decide to enter an industry, is the situation you are facing different now?