Some time ago, a fan privately wrote that he found that his children often stole their parents' money. Because the child stole money, he also beat the child many times, and even punished him for kneeling, and the child's knees were all kneeling, but the child was still the same. He felt that he couldn't figure it out, there was no shortage of money in the family, and he would give him whatever he wanted, because he had never treated this child badly. Why would a child still do such a shameful thing.
Parents understand that the child's growth is in the details of success or failure, and every small behavior may affect the child's life. Especially in the case of children stealing money, when parents are inevitably anxious and worried, some impatient parents may physically punish their children like this parent, but they will also find that scolding and punishing is not a long-term solution to the problem.
So here Xiaobian would like to remind parents that in the face of children's wrong behavior, we must first correct our own mentality, do not easily raise the child's behavior to the moral level, do not arbitrarily give the child a "stealing" hat, we must first do to figure out the child's psychological needs, in the end what these problems occur.
For example, the problem of children stealing money, the common reasons are the following:
01 Lack of a correct view of money
For example, parents often cry to their children, or parents often have some similar behaviors in their daily interactions, or some children have no concept of money itself, and money is a number for him.
02 Parents don't care enough about their children
If the child is often criticized by teachers and parents, and the sense of existence among classmates is relatively low, and the child's life is often in a neglected state, then he may attract the attention of his parents by stealing money or other extreme behaviors, or gain the respect and favor of his classmates by sharing money and things.
03 Material desires are not satisfied
Many parents do not give their children pocket money, or pocket money is too small, when the child wants something, whether it is reasonable or unreasonable, it is blind, and the child's material desires can not be satisfied.
04 There is no right to control money, no freedom to dispose of money
The pocket money given to the child is calculated by meditation, or the child must report every sum of money spent to the parents, and his expenses must be evaluated by the parents: "How to spend money indiscriminately!" I bought toys again, why don't I know to buy a book..."
05 Children have no sense of boundaries
This situation often occurs in young children, that is, he does not understand what you and I are all.
How parents should solve the problem of their children stealing money
First of all, when there is a problem, we must relax our mentality, do not make a fuss and be overly nervous. Ask your child what you think with a gentle but firm attitude and teach your child the right and reasonable way, such as: "Tell your mother if you need money." ”
Second, parents must lead by example, teach by example, and pass on a correct view of money and values to their children in their daily life interactions. Specific methods you can look at this article: "Children spend a lot of money, love to compare, financial and business education is very important, 5 strategies are easy to win".
Third, we must pay attention to improving the child's sense of self-worth, affirm the child's good place in life, and describe the child's specific behavior in a timely and specific manner to help the child form an objective self-understanding.
Fourth, to improve the child's financial quotient, to give the child such an opportunity to control money, so that he has the ability to control money. In fact, this ability is also beneficial for the growth of children for a lifetime.
1. From now on, give the child a weekly unit, give the child a fixed pocket money every week, and give the child a small account book at the same time.
2. Teach children the function of money.
Money has five functions:
One is to satisfy one's own desires, and here we first teach the child to learn to distinguish between what is wanted and what is needed, and then teach him rights.
Second, the function is to transmit love.
The third is to enrich your brain.
Fourth, we can use money to make money.
Finally, it is also possible to improve the sense of security, that is, to save.
First let the child understand these five functions, and then return the decision to the child, decide the control of money according to their own situation, and let the child learn to truly play the value of money.
At the same time, we can make an agreement for the child, this pocket money if you use it well, hey, then next week, this pocket money will become more appropriate. What if pocket money is not used well? Next week, this pocket money will be moderately reduced.
I gave this method to the parent in the case, and as a result, yesterday, the parent was particularly happy to send a private message saying: I beat him so much, this child will not change. I was also angry that he was also uncomfortable, and now the problem is finally solved. Their children are not only getting better at managing their pocket money. The flowers of the flowers, the use of the deposits, and even the ones who know how to give a small gift to Mom and Dad during the holidays. Because of the changes in children, the atmosphere of the family has become more relaxed and happy.
In fact, in the process of educating children, we will inevitably encounter such and such problems, so these problems are actually the challenges of education. If we continue to use some of the old practices of parents, and beat and scold and yell and scream, then not only can not solve the problem, the parent-child relationship will be constantly damaged, but when we as parents, we can really calm down to communicate with the child, to find the child's psychological needs, more targeted to enhance the child's real lack of the ability, the method will be used correctly for parents and children will be very rewarding. Have you learned? Remember to bookmark and forward.