The perfect man is the ideal goal that every woman pursues. Women treat love emotionally and realistically

Women's love needs commitment, many men will always seize on this weakness of women to attack, if women are obsessed, the only thing that can hurt is themselves. Learn to forget, this is a lesson that women must learn in their lives, only by learning to forget, life will be happy.

Men's commitments sometimes have nothing to do with love, the reason for commitment is because he does not have absolute confidence and certainty in this feeling, and women also want him to commit, although sometimes those commitments are lies that deceive others and deceive themselves, and can never be fulfilled.

Men's lives will always make promises to many women, sincere or false, sometimes even he himself can't remember clearly, men are good at making promises and are good at forgetting promises, many times they will be dazed and ask: "Did I really say this?" ”。

And women will always receive promises from many men in their lives, and easily believe it, lack the mind to distinguish between truth and falsehood, and often leave themselves alone after men have withdrawn.

Smart women will take men's irresponsible promises as a gust of wind, and make men like the wind let them escape their lives completely like the wind. If women want to make themselves happy, they must learn to forget that life needs to be able to take it, and sometimes it is even more important to put it down.

There is a little story in the Buddhist scriptures, saying that the little monk and the old monk went together to make a relationship, the little monk Bi Gong Bi respected, looked at the master in everything, walked to the river, a woman wanted to cross the river, the old monk carried the woman across the river, the woman thanked him and left, the little monk kept thinking in his heart, how can the master carry the woman across the river? But he didn't dare to ask, he had been walking for 20 miles, he really couldn't hold back, so he asked Master, we are monks, how can you carry that woman across the river? Master said lightly, I put her down after carrying her across the river, but you carried her for 20 miles and still did not put it down.

Indeed, people's life is like a long journey, non-stop walking, along the way will see a variety of scenery, after a lot of ups and downs, if you walk past to see the past are kept in mind, it will add a lot of additional burdens to yourself, the richer the experience, the greater the pressure, it is better to forget all the way along the way, always keep light. The past has passed, it is impossible to turn back the clock, and there is no need to worry about it except to remember the lessons learned.

The Indian poet Tagore said, "If you weep over the loss of the sun, you will also lose the stars." "Always thinking about the past, only afraid that the ship of the soul will be overwhelmed, and the boat of memory will not be able to bear it, which will make the painful past hold the future." As the old saying goes: to be angry is to punish yourself for someone else's mistakes. Always thinking about others, in fact, it is themselves who are deeply affected, and those who do not blame in the past are happy and relaxed people.

Ali, a famous Arab writer, once traveled with two friends, Gibber and Masha. As the three of them passed through a valley, Masha slipped and fell. Fortunately, Jib desperately pulled him to save him. Masha then carved it on a large stone nearby: "On a certain day in a certain month of a certain year, Jib saved Masha's life." The three of them continued to walk for a few days, and came to a riverside, where Gibb and Marsha quarreled over a trivial matter, and Gibb slapped Marsha in a fit of rage. Martha ran to the beach and wrote: "On a certain day in a certain month of a certain year, Jib slapped Masha. When they returned from their trip, Ali curiously asked Masha why he had carved the story of Gibb's rescue of him on the stone and the story of Gibb's beating of him on the sand? Martha replied, "I am forever grateful to Gibb for saving me, and I will remember it." As for the fact that he beat me, I only forgot about it as the handwriting on the beach disappeared." This story tells us that it is the duty of others to remember the help of others to you and forget that others are not good to you.

There is always one thing in life that can never be forced, and that is love. Learn to give up bravely, face it bravely, and start over bravely. When he no longer loves you, whether he loved and then forgot, or never loved. In short, when you can't be the person in his heart, his heart won't remember you, and he won't care about you. Even if he knows you love him dearly and can occasionally feel your relationship, he'd rather pretend not to know.

Life needs to be able to afford it, and sometimes it is more important to put it down. Forgetting a wrong beginning may lead to a correct end; forgetting the blind choices that have been made, you can strive for a sober possession; forgetting what you cannot carry is the simplest liberation for yourself. Ignoring a burden that does not belong to you, you will unload a burden that does not belong to you; ignoring a fairness that belongs to you can strive for an opportunity that does not belong to you; ignoring things that you cannot focus on is the most direct leap over life.

Forgetting what you can't carry is the simplest release for yourself; forgetting a wrong beginning, you can get a correct end; forgetting the blind choice you once made, you can strive for a sober possession. In fact, in a person's life, forgetting is the best way to heal the wounds of the heart and get rid of the burden. Learn to forget, and the spirit can be relaxed.

Many forgetfulness requires choice, and some people have some things that you can't forget in your life and shouldn't forget. People like such a vernacular poem: Spring has a hundred flowers and autumn has a moon, summer has a cool breeze and winter has snow. If there is no idleness to worry about, it is a good time on earth. Remember certain things and certain people, forget certain things and certain people, remember what should be remembered, forget what should be forgotten, free life, no worries, you will feel that life is so beautiful.

The perfect man is the ideal goal that every woman pursues. Women's treatment of love is emotional and realistic. They always fantasize that their men can be different and perfect. However, there is no such thing as perfection in the world, and Prince Charming is sometimes just a legend.

Women always like to secretly compare with other women, and after some comparison, women's psychology is easily unbalanced. So I kept complaining to the people around me, and at the same time I was asking myself: Why is someone else's boyfriend dashing, has a car, a house, and status, while his boyfriend has nothing, and his sadness is overflowing with words.

If a woman wants to get the love of her husband and have a good marriage, she must lose the standard of the "Prince Charming" in your heart, otherwise, it will bring you not only disappointment, but also unrealistic fantasies, and the happiness that could have been grasped will slip away quietly.

What is happiness? Happiness is to cherish more and think less, happiness is to grasp everything you have and cherish it more. Many women want too much, pursue too much, but give too little. Prince Charming is not reliable, real happiness is what you have to find and rely on, do not use Prince Charming to measure the lover, to be realistic, grasp their own feelings.

Many women feel unhappy, angry, and bitter because they are too much idealistic. Learn to go with the flow and do your best, even if there are some imperfections, you don't have to be demanding. Life is not meaningful because it is perfect, but meaningful because of its flaws. Perfection is actually a different meaning of "fear of not being good enough", and perfectionists are often an effort to win praise from others due to insecurity.

Many women are used to imagining things as they want them to be, but the results are always different. For the sake of reality, there is no perfect thing, a perfect thing. Perfect things do not exist in this world, and the so-called "perfection" is just a fantasy, a goal. Not seeking perfection, not taking perfection as your lifelong pursuit, maybe this is the real perfection, is the root of getting rid of suffering.

Lao Zhang was single for half a lifetime, almost fifty years old. Suddenly married, the bride is about the same age as him, Xu Niang is half old and the charm is still there. Friends who only knew were whispering behind their backs: "That woman used to be an actor, married two husbands, divorced, and now it is not red, and he picked up a leftover." I don't know if these words reached his ears, whether he was angry?

One day, he went out with a friend, while driving, he laughed and said, "I am a young man who looked forward to driving a Mercedes-Benz car, I have no money, I can't afford to buy it." Now, I still can't afford it, so I bought a third-hand car. ”

He did drive an old Mercedes, but the car looked good and had enough horsepower. He continued to laugh and said, "What's so bad about an old car? It's like my wife, who married a Sichuan native and a Shanghainese in front of her, has been in the show business circle for more than twenty years, and has seen many scenes of all sizes. Now that I am old and have my heart, I don't have the squeamishness and glitz of the past, but I have done Sichuan cuisine and Shanghai cuisine with one hand, and I know how to arrange my home. To tell you the truth, when she was really perfect, she was met by me. ”

An interesting story goes like this: An unmarried man comes to a marriage agency, enters the gate, and is confronted by two doors. One door reads: Beautiful, the other door reads: Not very beautiful. He pushed open the "beautiful" door and saw two more doors: the young and the not-so-young. He pushed open the "young" door. I saw two more doors: "kind and gentle" and "not very kind and gentle". He pushed open the door of "kindness and gentleness" and saw "rich and not very rich" again...

In this way, he successively pushed open the nine doors of money, gentleness, loyalty, hard work, high education, health, and humor.

When he pushed open the last door, he saw a line written on the door: "You are too perfect, there is no more perfection here, please go to the street to find it." It turned out that he had walked to the exit of the marriage agency.

In fact, every woman is a person in the story, because of the pursuit of perfection, I don't know how many beautiful marriages have been missed, and finally sent herself into the ranks of leftover women. Indeed, Yun wants to dress and look good, and everyone yearns for a dashing and perfect life. However, we should know that perfect things do not exist in this world, just as fish and bear paws cannot be combined, and the so-called "perfection" is just a fantasy, a goal. Not seeking perfection, not taking perfection as your lifelong pursuit, maybe this is the real perfection, is the root of getting rid of suffering.

Many men and women in the interaction try their best to be perfect, showing a disguised appearance, each concealing some imperfections and small flaws, and looking at each other with aesthetic eyes, and entering marriage because of the beauty achieved. And once they become husband and wife, they gradually find that they are no longer the ones they first met, so they lose confidence in love, marriage, human nature, and so-called perfection in mutual disappointment.

In fact, whether the prince or the princess, they are still the ones before marriage, the difference is that they have restored their true selves, and the discoveries that are strange to us are not sudden, but they have not been seen or seen before.

Allowing yourself to be imperfect, accepting other people's small flaws, is a necessary mood to enter true love, some things in life, do not necessarily require its perfection, from another point of view, maybe imperfection is actually a kind of beauty. In fact, accepting imperfections and seeing them as habitual and broken is experience, open-mindedness, maturity, and a state of life.

Therefore, women should go with the flow and do their best, even if there are some imperfections, they do not have to be demanding. The so-called perfection is actually a different meaning of "afraid that you are not good enough", and perfectionists are often an effort to win the praise of others due to insecurity.

If it's not perfect, let it be imperfect! Since it is impossible to achieve perfection, does not the blind pursuit of perfection add a lot of troubles to yourself? So, learning to "accept imperfections" is like accepting perfection.