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Looking back now, the greatest stupidity of a person is to look forward to growing up when he was a child.
When I was a child, I hoped that I would grow up as soon as possible, and then I could go to a distant place to chase my dreams, and I could get rid of my parents' nagging.
Unconsciously, after the 70s, we have grown up and become old. After 50 spring and autumn seasons, I found that the white hair on the top of my head became more and more dazzling. The face is also ugly, and it can be faintly found that the traces of acne are slowly replaced by age spots.
"Even if the rain does not know where the spring is going, a sunny party feels that the summer is deep." As I grew older, the bitterness in my heart always came up inexplicably. Perhaps, the post-70s generation, "living a hard life" is fate.
How many people, like me. When I was a child in the countryside, I lived a life of lack of food and clothing, and when I grew up, I started from scratch and tried to squeeze into the city. For the rest of your life, you will have to rely on yourself. At the same time, the upper and the oldest, the lower and the younger, all depend on you.
The boy who was not afraid of the sky could not be found again. In life, it is inevitable that there are "four fears".
02
Fear of poverty: Days without money and no food, it is uncomfortable to stay up.
The writer Mo Yan once wrote such a passage: "At that time, there were more than a dozen people in my family, and every time there was a meal, I would cry. My uncle's daughter was four months older than me, and we were both four or five years old, and at each meal My grandmother would give me and my sister a piece of moldy dried sweet potatoes, and I always thought that My grandmother was eccentric and gave the bigger one to my sister. So he snatched the piece in his sister's hand and threw his own piece over. After grabbing it, I found that it was big, so I snatched it back again. ”
When we were young, we were satisfied when we could eat enough, and there was nothing to pay attention to as to what to eat. Dried sweet potatoes were the best snacks in those days; sweet potato rice was often a staple food.
I remember one time, the roof of the neighbor's kitchen leaked rain. In a large bowl filled with rainwater, there was also some fried meat. Neighbor's child, bring the bowl out. Soon, the bowl was swept away, and even the oil and water were drunk.
After two hours, the children were uncomfortable and did not know whether to hold on or be hungry. The adults chased after and scolded: "Look who is hungry." ”
Scolding and scolding, the adults began to feel pain. I saw tears in the corners of my mother's eyes.
Whenever the green and yellow are not connected, my family will cut off the cooking smoke - no rice under the pot. My mother went to the field to dig sweet potatoes, and my father took a sharp sip of his cigarette and followed. Thumb-sized sweet potatoes, washed, steamed in an iron pot, very fragrant.
A few of our children ate with relish, but the mother was very distressed. After all, sweet potatoes have not yet grown up, and they have suffered the hard work of their mother's farming.
When the problem of eating enough is solved, you have to worry about the problem of wearing warmth.
Many of the clothes at home are patched. Many of the clothes on my body were worn by my sister. My mother changed the women's clothes and "handed them to me."
Of course, not all families are as poor as my family. However, in that era, every family was not rich, and life was very hard.
Most of the post-70s people did farm work when they were young. People are not tall enough to dig up with a hoe, a flat shoulder, and press it on your shoulders, whether you like it or not.
My brother often complained that the flat burden had crushed him short.
Because my family was poor when I was a child, we are still afraid of poverty. Think about it, forty or fifty-year-old people, the ability to make money is slowly decreasing, but pensions, houses, deposits, must be prepared, otherwise the age, the evening is desolate, it is not very comfortable.
03
Fear of illness: One person gets sick and the whole family gets tired.
As the saying goes, "Sickness comes like a mountain, and illness goes like a thread." ”
Being sick is worse than having no money. If you run out of money, the illness will not necessarily get better.
A relative of mine, the family is very poor. When he was sick, his children were in a hurry and went around looking for someone to borrow money. However, I thought of many ways and was wronged many times, but I borrowed a few thousand yuan.
"Sick and no one wants to lend you money", this sentence is not suitable for everyone, but mostly for the poor.
When a person is poor, as long as he opens his mouth to borrow money, others will immediately think - when will the money be repaid? Can't afford it yet?
Some relatives and friends would rather send you two hundred yuan than borrow money. Sending money is a courtesy exchange, at least there is a human feeling, if you borrow money to go out, you can't get it back, it is not interesting to beg for yourself, and you have lost your personal feelings.
For the current post-70s generation, health is the biggest capital.
Dealing with peers, I am most afraid of hearing news such as "untimely death". If a playmate has a serious illness, the heart is very uncomfortable.
Healthy and healthy, even if the family is poor, it can turn over. If you lose your health, you lose everything.
04
Fear of children is not contentious: children are the hope of the family, the root of happiness.
A few years ago, when I met my peers holding children, I was not sure whether they were "grandchildren" or "fathers and sons, mothers and daughters".
Many post-70s people, in their forties, have two or three children. There are two children in the family, they can take care of each other when they grow up, and their parents can rely on one more when they are old.
The idea is beautiful, the reality is cruel.
If you have a child in your forties, then in your sixties, the child is reading. How big the household expenses will be, think about it and be afraid.
In fact, spending money is small, and what is more frightening is that children do not argue.
You try to train your children to read, forcing them to be independent, but they learn badly.
If there is a loser in the family, it can turn the world upside down. As a parent, how can you not worry? Watching your own efforts, in vain, your heart must be full of mixed feelings.
05
Fear of old age and no return: coming to Japan is long, and misfortune is uncertain.
There is such a sentence on the Internet: "The young family is poor, the middle-aged people leave their hometowns, and the old have nowhere to return." ”
Once, I wrote an article titled "When you're old, go back to the countryside."
Some readers left a message, and when I got old, I would go back to rural life. I like to work at sunrise, rest at sunset, pick chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, leisurely see the South Mountain, and stay away from the hustle and bustle of the city.
Some readers retorted that it is convenient to return to the countryside and see a doctor when you are sick? Is it convenient to buy medicine? Is it convenient to heat up in winter? Is there air conditioning in the house in the summer? If the face is good with the face to the earth and the sky, who will run to the city in vain?
There are additional conditions for returning to the countryside for the elderly. A decent house, convenient transportation, a pension fee, a network that touches the world... Missing anything will lead to a decline in quality of life.
In fact, many post-70s people, wandering in a foreign country, do not know when to return, perhaps there is no house in their hometown, and they can never go back.
In any case, we always have to consider the problem of old-age care, where to spend the rest of our lives. Really scared, wandering all my life.
06
Of course, we always have to look ahead and think of the good in everything.
Society is developing, and everything is slowly getting better. If you are too worried about anything, it is better to actively create conditions and prepare for a happy life in your old age.
After half a lifetime of hard work, I must remember to treat myself in the future.
If you have money or not, you must be rich and support yourself. Adjust your mindset and let the sunshine pour into your heart, which is truly rich.
In the past, we were all inspirational youths; in the future, we were all sunshine old people.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.