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Perhaps, if it were not for these two days of hot searches, no one would know this 25-year-old young man!
From November 28, when "Lu Dawson" posted a long article similar to a suicide note on Weibo, to November 29, when the Putuoshan Branch of the Zhoushan Municipal Public Security Bureau issued an alert, the content was probably a blogger named "Lu Dawson" posting an article similar to a suicide note on Weibo, and after investigation, it was found that the blogger entered Zhujiajian's jurisdiction on November 28 and then disappeared.
After receiving the alarm, the police carried out a carpet search, and at ten o'clock today, the remains were recovered.
It is reported that before the accident, he returned the house to rent, the photographic equipment was sent to people, the things were packed and sent home, the suicide note was set up on Weibo to be sent regularly, and then he went to the sea alone, he felt that he had tried not to cause trouble to anyone, what did he experience behind such a kind boy?
A thousand-word suicide note, explaining a short 25 years of life, any one of them is enough to crush today's young people.
Left-behind children, violence in schools, unhappy marriages of parents, poor families, and obstruction of entrepreneurship.
Although there is no so-called empathy at all, after reading his thousand-word suicide note, people are tearful, this young man is too painful!
Left-behind children usually lack the love of their parents when they are young, and when they grow up, they are eager to be loved all their lives, but they are always caught in the tragedy of not being able to ask for it. In his brilliant writing, he said that he was born in the mountainous countryside, brought up by his grandmother from childhood, and after going to school, he made a home all over the world, lived in the homes of various relatives, and never had a sense of belonging to the family.
The discordant relationship between his parents has made him lose hope in marriage and family.
The two words of quarrel are the main theme of his parents' marriage, so that he has no idea of marriage at all, let alone marry and have children, because in his world, children are born victims of the family.
The misfortunes of childhood made him grow up without the firm strength to resist external setbacks, and he was fragile. Imagine if he had been cared for enough growing up, would he still want to leave?
And what is even more unfortunate is that Lu Dawson was bullied because he was a child and shy, he was bullied to kneel, and he was given various insulting nicknames. He had no family to talk to, and at a young age he realized that this was a world of the weak and the strong.
In recent years, school bullying has been mentioned, I believe that after watching the movie "Young You", you will know how terrible school bullying is.
A previous video circulated on the Internet: "A girl in a school uniform stood on the side of the road, was beaten by several girls around her in turn, and in just six minutes, the girl was slapped 38 times." Later, after investigation, it was learned that this video occurred in The Second Middle School of Dan County, Zhangye City.
However, this is not an isolated case.
Several girls in Chongqing's Rongchang district beat another girl, leaving her with disabilities.
At Xianghu Experimental Middle School in Nanchang City, Jiangxi Province, a girl was slapped 32 times in 99 seconds and was beaten to the point where her nose and mouth bled.
In middle school, when you are in the stage of self-awareness, it is extremely necessary to show your sense of strength and difference by suppressing others, of course, you can understand it as "jealousy".
They have no concept of good and evil, and they do not realize the seriousness of things in order to suppress others for fun.
And once you start hugging, there may be no lower limit for evil deeds. The degree of evil committed by the group is determined by the lowest point of their members. - Le Pen, "The Ragtag Crowd.".
I hope that future education can be improved, and I hope that school bullying incidents will not occur again.
Someone in the comment area asked: Why can't such a good person be strong inside?
Yeah, how could he not be stronger inside?
Because he could not feel love, could not feel the power of life, the discord of the family, the neglect of his parents, the bullying of the school, brought him serious psychological damage, resulting in his lack of ability to embrace a happy life.
After becoming an adult, he was too eager to succeed, just like when he was bullied and suppressed when he was a child, he fantasized about becoming a master of the world and saving himself, he wanted to prove himself too much and protect himself by his own strength.
So he chose the career he loved and devoted himself to entrepreneurship, knowing that entrepreneurship is a life of nine deaths.
In the process of starting a business, dad loaned him a loan to start a business, not only to bear the pressure of starting a business, but also to bear the expectations of his parents, but photography is really a money-burning industry.
The reality is that his original family is economically poor, and every quarrel between his parents cannot escape money, and every contact between them is inseparable from money. In his narrative, "money" and "poverty" are already the unbearable weight of life, and when the expectations of the family cannot be fulfilled, what kind of collapse is it?
As he wrote in his brilliant writing, "It is not a straw that crushes him, but many, many grains of sand."
Parental quarrels, ridicule on campus, and the hardships of starting a business, these things alone are really not enough to crush a person, but if they are piled up, they will eventually overwhelm people.
Yes, this year's young people really carry too much and too much, look at the Deer Dawson comment area, there are many people who have encountered school bullying, the unfortunate family of the original family, when they were young, they could not get the attention of their parents, and when they grew up, they could not get a sense of accomplishment at work, and "thirty and standing" was like a spell that could not be broken.
Adler said: "Lucky people are cured of childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives".
We can't choose where we come from, but we have to find ways to save ourselves. We need to take the initiative to get out of the influence of the original family on ourselves, and realize that the influence of the original family on ourselves is for a better life in the future, not to use our lives to criticize our parents and to fight against our parents.
So how do we heal the wounds of childhood and reconcile with ourselves and our parents?
1. Go back to the scene of childhood. If you have anxiety, anger, sadness, etc. in your life, go back to this familiar emotion and when it was the smallest. And then go back to that situation.
2. Link to the original family. Many of the memories in childhood are related to parents, or original family members, and in the context of childhood, you vent all your emotions about him at that time.
3. Hug the inner child. This child is you when you were a child, and then you speak your heart to this "child" in the role of a parent, which may be to clarify the misunderstanding, apologize, thank you, express love, etc. Or you take the present you, go back in time and hug the child and take him out.
4. Change your view of the past. Then you have a different interpretation of your childhood memories. For example, I originally felt that my mother did not love you, and now I think my mother loves you very much, that is, I have replaced the mother film. In the future, similar scenarios will not trigger emotions.
Self-healing is definitely a hard and unforgettable thing or even reborn, the original family brings you not only living habits, spiritual outlook, but also the way you think about problems and deal with problems, do not reconcile with yourself, then your life will be deep in the mud.
If you have a problem, never forget that there is another way, that is, private message luck. Remember to look for me. And not lightly.
May each of us be reconciled with our unhappy childhood and let ourselves live well.