No one is perfect, and everyone has weaknesses.
The strong face up to their weaknesses, change them if they have them, and encourage them if they don't.
The weak avoid their weaknesses and are always unrepentant.
Some weaknesses are innate and need to be overcome in a lifetime.
Of the 4 human weaknesses of adults, one must be corrected.
01
Self-righteous, overestimating their own strength.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, the strength of the Qin State was relatively strong.
One year, Duke Mu of Qin prepared to attack zheng guo. Uncle Jian, the elder of the Qin state, said that sending an army to attack a distant country was doomed to exhaustion. When you set out, distant countries will be on guard, and in this case, it will be futile.
Qin Mugong did not heed the advice and resolutely sent troops.
On the day of the dispatch of the army, Uncle Jian cried and said that halfway through, the Jin State would definitely set up an ambush. His son, too, was in the army, and when the time came, he would have to go and collect the bones.
Sure enough, the State of Qin was defeated by the State of Zheng, and when the army was defeated, it was intercepted by the State of Jin, and many generals such as Xi Qishu and Bai Yibing were captured.
Although the State of Qin was powerful, it did not have enough understanding of the difficulties of "laboring to attack far away" and overestimated its own strength.
In real life, we always think that our Maxima is powerful enough, but we have not met Bole who appreciates us.
In fact, Bole often has it, but there are very few Maxima.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Some disappointments are inevitable, but most of the disappointments are because you overestimate yourself." ”
Without excessive expectations, there will be no disappointment.
If you can't see yourself clearly, you are still depressed, and think that others do not pay enough attention to you, that is, you do not measure up to your own strength and need to repent.
02
Insatiable greed, not knowing how to control their desires.
Li Zicheng raised his arms, and countless people supported him, and followed him from birth to death, overthrowing the Ming Dynasty.
However, he did not know how to restrain himself and his subordinates. Greed and corruption have made the teacher of justice the object of crusade.
First, Li Zicheng demanded a large amount of money and goods, which made the world panic for a long time; then, he treated the old Ming Dynasty ministers and his generals, and forcibly married Wu Sangui's favorite concubine Chen Yuanyuan, causing Wu Sangui to open the border pass and introduce the Qing army. Finally, the plague appeared, many non-commissioned officers were infected, and the combat effectiveness weakened.
The ancients said, "If you have no desire, you are just." ”
Only when a person lets go of selfish desires can he become truly strong. If you want to achieve great things, you must think of the masses, not yourself.
Why aren't you living happily?
In fact, you are already happy enough, but you "look at this mountain and look at that mountain high" and finally lose your happiness.
When a person shares happiness with others, happiness is magnified. Whether it's leading a team or developing individually, letting go of desires and learning to share, everything goes well.
03
Hate officials and hate the rich, and retaliate against all "unpleasant people".
Hatred is like a seed, as long as it is buried in the heart, it will grow rapidly.
Truly intelligent people know how to let go of their grievances and even form allies with their enemies.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, after Guan Yu was injured by Wu Jun, Liu Bei cried bitterly, did not listen to advice, and led an army to attack Wu. As a result, the military camp was burned, and he also died of illness in the White Emperor City.
After that, Zhuge Liang did not care about the previous suspicions, took the initiative to ally with the State of Wu, and jointly resisted the State of Wei in the north, in exchange for the tranquility of the State of Shu.
"I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry", many things, I can't come in a hurry.
When a person is angry and attacks his heart, it is inevitable that he will do unreasonable things and harm others and harm himself.
In real life, everyone has the weakness of hating the rich and hating the officials, always thinking that other people's money is a pie in the sky, and status is rewarded by ancestors.
When you see the strong, you should see the sweat of the strong.
Learning something from the strong is ten thousand times stronger than "hatred". Instead of hating someone, love someone. Insist on repaying grievances with virtue and ignoring previous suspicions, and the surrounding environment will become better.
Carnegie wrote in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "Hate can't hurt a hair of the other party, but make his life into purgatory." ”
To let go of hatred is to be liberated.
04
Do not listen to the truth, and treat hypocritical words as "proverbs".
Shakespeare said, "One would rather hear a hundred beautiful lies than a plain truth." ”
There is a joke: a rich man invites a friend to dinner. During the meal, the rich man let go of a fart. A friend took the opportunity and said a touted word - fart is so fragrant.
The rich man was very sad, and he heard that any "fart" that became fragrant was a lesion.
The friend was interested, and immediately changed his mouth and said, this time, it is a bit smelly.
The rich man was powerful and powerful, and everyone wanted to seduce him, so he said "insincerely". At the critical time, the people next to them also know how to see the wind and make the rudder, and their words change with the face of the rich man.
In real life, there are many people who like to say hypocritical words, and there are also many people who cannot hear the truth.
If you're going to seduce a person, you have to "do what he likes" and desperately praise him.
Careful, hypocritical words can make you unable to find the "southeast, south, and northwest" and will lead you to jump into the trap.
Good medicine is good for the sick, and advice is good for the ear. Since ancient times, those who can rise are people who can accept "suggestions". "Hypocrisy" is a disease, and it can be cured.
05
Conclusion.
"The Weakness of Human Nature" wrote: "What you think of as you is not the real you, how you think, but what kind of person you will become." ”
If you want to correct the weaknesses of human nature, you must first change your thinking.
Find the reason for everything from yourself and face yourself squarely.
For example, the arrogant person of Yelang will find himself very small and have a lot of room for improvement when comparing his achievements with celebrities in history; when he has achieved nothing, he will look back at the road he has traveled, find his own progress, and build confidence.
Weakness, like a spring, you dare not face it, it will suppress you; you actively restrain it, it will listen to you, submit to you.
You know, the real strong, there are many scars on the body, after continuous tempering, it has become "tenacious".
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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