Many children cry when they are not satisfied with their parents' requests, and some even lie on the ground and cry. Many parents are dying of sorrow when they encounter such children. Parents may wish to use these three methods to deal with their children's negative emotions. The effect is really good!
The first method: we have to learn to cold treat. Maybe many parents have not heard of this word, does educating children have anything to do with this word? For example, if you take your child out and your child wants to buy toys, many parents will say that you want to buy a lot of toys at home. Cry, cry, mom doesn't like you anymore. This method is called "cold violence". If the child comes running up and says, "Mommy, baby loves Mommy, I don't want toys anymore." In this case, if the child is likely to become a pleasing personality in the future, the child will be extremely insecure, in this case, if it is a girl, it is likely that it will be difficult to live happily in the future, and if it is a boy, it will be difficult to take on the responsibility of the family in the future. The correct way is that we can pat the child's shoulder, touch the child's back, and help the child dry his tears by the way, and say to the child at this time: baby, mom knows that you are unhappy, if you want to cry, mom hugs you, you cry, you cry mom loves you. "Mom accepts you to cry, Mom accepts you to make trouble, but your mother can't do what you ask, even if you don't behave so well, Mom still loves you. This is called "cold treatment". Things are handled coldly, and emotional comfort is still in place!
The second method is called "taking the consequences". If a child is often vexatious, then the child must have not borne the consequences, so he will "do whatever I want", how to make the child feel the consequences? For example, today I told my child to go to the supermarket to buy toys, but the child saw a playground halfway and said that he would go to the playground to play, at this time we should inform the child that he could go to the playground to play, and go home directly after playing, so he no longer went to the supermarket to buy toys. If the child cries and tells the child that the money brought today in the playground has been played, there is no money to buy toys, and if you want to buy toys, you can only wait until next month for the mother to pay again.
The third method is called "giving choice". We want our children to listen to us, but they always come up with a second or a third ...... For example, if there are two kinds of rice "noodles and rice" prepared today, the child says that he wants to eat pancake cabbage, then we must first affirm the child's thoughts, and the child is now united front, express that he also wants to eat pancake cabbage, and praise the child for tomorrow's meals are all ready, and then ask the child whether to eat noodles or rice today, but the next day must make Luo cake cabbage, so that the child will feel valued.
Only by using the right method can we better assist the baby to grow up happily. Leave your attention and footprints, and we will cheer together on the road of the baby's growth!