On the snowy road, an old man with dementia walked expressionlessly, and kept chanting in his mouth: "Wen Wu Xiang Gui, one two four five, tomorrow morning look for our mother"...
"Wenwu Xianggui" is the name of his brother and sister. There are five brothers and sisters in his family, named Wang Jiwen, Wang Jiwu, Wang Jixiang, and Wang Jigui. He was the third oldest, and his name was Wang Jixiang.
He didn't remember that his name was auspicious, and he had become like this in middle age due to an illness. His mother took him with him and lived with his second brother's family for more than twenty years.
This is the movie "Auspicious Ruyi". Obviously, it is an auspicious word, but it said a regretful thing.
Part 1
Spring festival
Chinese New Year's Eve night, in the northeast countryside, several brothers and sisters were sitting around Kangtou preparing to eat Chinese New Year's Eve meal. The sound of firecrackers outside the window, the atmosphere inside the house is solemn.
A few years ago, the elderly mother in her 80s suddenly fell into a coma, failed to survive the Spring Festival, and died suddenly.
A thorny question is in front of several brothers and sisters, in the future, who will take care of JiXiang?
It was their first reunion dinner after their mother's absence. Not knowing who started the head, they began to discuss the auspicious resettlement issue.
Although auspicious is demented, he has sound limbs and a strong body. Everyday life is about smoking a cigarette and walking around the village.
The second sister-in-law said that Wang Jixiang likes to eat buns, 365 days a day, and the whole family follows him to eat buns every day.
The second brother's family has been helping her mother take care of the third brother for many years, and naturally does not want the burden to continue to fall on her family. The second brother has been tired for so many years, with a white hair, and only wants to spend his old age in peace. He offered to send the auspicious away and find a nursing home or somewhere.
The eldest brother, the fifth brother, and the fourth sister remembered their brotherhood and were never willing to send the third elder to a nursing home. The discussion grew more intense.
This year's New Year, there is an extra "guest" at the dinner table, that is, Wang Qingli, the daughter of Wang Jixiang.
After her parents divorced, Li Li was sentenced by the court to her mother and has been living with her mother. When he grew up, he went to school and work in Beijing, and he has not returned to his hometown for ten years.
The best result, of course, is that Ji Xiang was taken away by his daughter for support, but the daughter has been silent.
The fifth brother argued loudly: "One person can't manage four tubes, so why can't one of those four tubes still be managed?" And said to the second brother, "Let me do something, squeak." ”
That being said, for twenty years, only the old second pipe is auspicious.
The differences and contradictions of the whole family intensified, and finally the second brother broke out and scolded, accusing the old mother of coming to fight for the property just without brothers, and the second sister-in-law also shouted divorce but left the table in anger.
In the end, Li Li couldn't stand it any longer, knelt on the kang, cried and prostrated her head and begged everyone not to argue anymore: "Second master, don't say it, you are hard, I will kowtow to you." ”
This peaceful opening Chinese New Year's Eve meal gradually reached the sword and finally fell apart. Later, it seemed that he was no longer discussing his brother, but an outsider. The usual hidden tolerance and retreat removed the armor, leaving only cruelty and heart-wrenching.
Parents take care of their children, which is a permanent role; children take care of their parents, but they may not leave them, let alone be compatriots.
The fourth sister sighed: "When the old man is gone, the family will be scattered." This may be the last time the siblings will be reunited. ”
The family relationship that has been maintained for decades, the cruel moment hidden in the daily life, is broken in an instant. The thorns of reality will eventually pierce the skin of everyday life.
Part 2
Lily
At this time, the film seamlessly connects to the second "Ruyi".
At the end of the auspicious chapter, the camera pulls away from the movie theater screen and falls into a movie theater. The camera falls on the faces of Li Li and director Dapeng.
At this time, another Lili appeared in the movie.
In a room, director Dapeng and his cousin Lili and actor Lili discussed how to shoot.
I can't help but look confused, is this a movie or a documentary? Which part is true and which part is false?
Fake Li Li asked Zhen Li Li: "I still can't understand, why haven't I come back for ten years?" ”
After waiting for a long time, Zhen Lili did not speak.
Dapeng is the child of the fourth sister. In the film, except for Li Li, everyone else starred in person.
Zhen Lili's father was thinking that he was holding a knife to cut her.
Relatives explained that this was your dad's reaction to illness and that he wasn't really trying to hurt you.
This is a daughter who has left her father when she is not yet a child, and her impression of her father is stagnant, stagnant in the scolding of her childhood, stagnant in the strangeness of more than twenty years.
Chinese New Year's Eve scene of a big fuss at dinner, actor Li Li prostrated her head and collapsed to escape the shooting scene. When she came to the backstage, She passed by Zhen Lili, but Zhen Lili brushed her mobile phone without looking up, as if the disturbance next door had nothing to do with her, but became an outsider.
This scene, true and false LiLi is in the same frame, so that the audience has endless room for reverie.
The story of the movie, that's it, there's no answer. And people in reality have to continue to live.
Part 3
Pension
Real life is often more cruel than in the movies.
The problem of old-age care, every family is the same, can not escape, can not escape. Serving the elderly, especially the sick elderly, often becomes a flashpoint of family conflicts.
The dementia elderly in the film is taken care of by the brother's family, and the second sister-in-law faces the camera and only vaguely uses a sentence to eat buns every day throughout the year to express the bitterness and grievances in her heart.
Years of hard work, repressed until the old mother died, finally broke out.
And if there is an elderly person with disability and dementia in the family who needs to be cared for by his children, it will inevitably lead to family conflicts in the end.
The elderly with dementia need constant attention, afraid of falling and getting injured, because the sick night shouts and goes out, and the normal order of life is broken.
Elderly people who have lost the ability to take care of themselves need to be cared for 24 hours. Children also need to take care of all aspects of work, family, children, etc., and the fact that they cannot sleep at night is enough to crush people.
As the elderly age with time, the symptoms become more and more serious, and the energy that needs to be invested by the caregiver will be closer and closer to the limit.
Nursing institutions that can take care of the elderly for 24 hours can hardly meet the basic pension needs of various cities, and the socialized old-age service system cannot keep up with the pace of aging, the cost is too expensive, a bed is difficult to find, and after it is difficult to stay, it will also cause new problems due to the lack of nursing services.
Taking care of the elderly is not something that can be solved simply with money. But family conflicts often end up being used in the name of money as an excuse to attack each other.
Tearing off the fig leaf of the elderly, decades of brotherhood and sisterhood broke, the original harmony collapsed, and finally ended up with the fate of old age and death.
The Chinese New Year's Eve meal in the film, the family members or true or false with the help of shooting, venting their emotions and dissatisfaction, the shooting ended in the second brother's sentence "what the fuck shoots", fake Lili instead of True Lili and her family to take family portraits, eat Chinese New Year's Eve meals, True Lili stayed out of the matter, most of them will not take the dementia rural old father to Beijing for the elderly.
The pension problem in the film has no solution, but in reality?
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