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Lead:
In the eyes of many people, marriage will be regarded as a natural haven, thinking that once married, a happy and peaceful life will naturally come. Thinking that as long as you are married, your life will be stable. After marriage, there is an address called home, let people worry, tidy, warm, three meals are taken care of, clothes are taken care of, the body is taken care of, there will be someone to take care of themselves, considerate of themselves, no matter how difficult it is outside, this person will stand firmly with himself! That's a good idea, but most of it's ideal. The real marriage may begin with the parents of both parties meeting to discuss and handle the marriage, and contradictions of all sizes begin to emerge endlessly. After marriage, the relationship between the other party's relatives and friends has also become your relationship of relatives and friends, and some people who could not be beaten by the original eight rods can now make various demands on you with a straight face.
I wanted to walk into happiness, how is it like walking into a trap? How can we avoid falling into such traps?
Understanding the nature of marriage can help you avoid these pitfalls, so what is the essence of marriage?
Marriage is not only the destination of love, but also to a large extent, the only way for a person to mature, and all the wisdom that life teaches to him must be tested in marriage.
The essence of marriage is that the choice of two people's emotional maturity and backwardness, regardless of age, regardless of knowledge, is the precipitation after life experience. Loving and being loved is never a fluke, but a personal choice, and marriage is, to a large extent, your ultimate wisdom.
The essence of marriage is not only feelings, but also responsibilities and obligations, indicating responsibility for each other.
Before entering the marriage, you only rely on each other's good feelings to maintain, you can get out at any time; after entering the marriage, in addition to the feelings between you, there is more of a pull of the reality of life, and no one can turn around.
Marriage is not only the union of two people, but also the collision and integration of two families, both to maintain association and independence.
Everyone has their own demands, each family has its own position, marriage not only solves the needs of the individual, but also you need to consider the mode of getting along between the two families.
Many people's biggest understanding of marriage is that there is such a person who can accompany you to resist the storms of life together, and not let yourself be alone and be alone with the years.
Because of him, you have more beautiful expectations for life; because of him, you believe that one plus one is definitely greater than two; and because of him, you have more cherishing of your own life.
The beauty of marriage is that you can't hold on, there is a lover to help you hold up a period; you can't afford it, and there is a lover to help you pick a shoulder. It's not because you have to get married when you're old, or because you can't meet someone better, so you're going to take it, it's because of the other person, you believe that everything can pass.
It is often said that "liking is wanton, and loving is restraint." ”
It is true that not only marriage, but also love, good feelings, must be premised on self-restraint, because the other party, you have more requirements and restrictions on yourself.
No longer let go of yourself, no longer give yourself so many choices, keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex at the right time, know how to reject ambiguity, and refuse unclear connections, which is both respect for lovers and adherence to self-principles.
Life is an encounter, we meet every day, no one can say that the person we love is our lifelong love, but because we chose her, we chose to refrain from allowing ourselves to meet other people of the opposite sex.
Marriage is the union of two people, but also the formation of two families, and it can be said to be precise that it is a relationship. Many people regard marriage as the most important thing in life, but it is not, it is not a necessity of life, like water and food, like air is a must have.
What does marriage bring us? In fact, many people think about it and say a lot of it, but it seems that it is not clear. That's what marriage brings you, to be able to understand and not to say.
So, what exactly can marriage bring us?
From the beginning of marriage, your hope begins, such as the happiness that HE gives me, happiness, his warmth, thoughtfulness, etc., all your hopes for goodness begin and witness from marriage. Because of hope, life has hope. Only then will you be motivated and will work harder to achieve the goals you hope to achieve.
As a family member, we often think about the question, for this family, what should I do to make the family more beautiful and happy?
Because we have a common vision, we can rely on each other to support this family for each other, and work hard for him and me to live better.
Because of this vision, we will take responsibility and obligation for each other, and be willing to work hard and pay for it. The process of working on these visions is in itself moving.
So we have to understand each other, you don't say, but I see it in my eyes. Although my feelings are never expressed, I take them to heart.
When you get married, you have to be with him, support each other, pair up during the day, and lie in each other's arms at night. Someone accompanied me on a rampage, someone listened to my heartfelt words, someone worried about me, and someone supported my life with me. The strength of the two people is made, caring for each other, working together, and having confidence in their hearts from then on, this is not what is steadfastness?
Everyone is an energy engine, saving enough energy for life, but no matter how hard you try, there are always times when you are sleepy. Now, the energy of the two people is superimposed together to form a polycyclic effect, which will increase the strength geometrically.
In the face of difficulties, there is support and support, there is confidence, worries and difficulties, from now on not afraid, encounter difficulties together to overcome, encounter troubles together to solve. This is the role of power.
In marriage, we must constantly think about how to operate and maintain the marriage, constantly examine and reflect on the emotional problems that arise in the marriage, and constantly summarize and solve the practical problems in the marriage relationship.
Only by meditating and thinking about yourself can we find ways and methods to solve problems, and can we ensure the continued stability of the marital relationship, which can make the family happier and happier, more hopeful and running.
Every family combination, the union of marriage, gives each other hope and strength.
No one's life is perfect, and every other option is worth it. The reason why each choice is worth it is because each choice has its own corresponding gains and losses. It is not that there is a problem with marriage, it is that many people have a problem with their understanding of marriage, and they often feel that choosing marriage is equivalent to choosing a perfect life, or marriage can fill all the shortcomings in their lives. When such unrealistic hopes are placed on marriage, it is doomed to end up disappointed, and then all unhappiness and unhappiness are blamed on marriage. It's just that our eyes are always staring at the part we want, so when we question our original decision, many times it is only because we don't get the part we want, but this doesn't mean that we really don't get anything, but we just don't see it.
Promise Message:
It is not that after marriage, your thinking will change in pattern, in fact, there will be no qualitative change. In the long married life in the future, in the process of growing up alone, you will gradually understand that marriage can be big or small for life. Obviously, people who lack the spirit of sacrifice and dedication cannot run the marriage well, and they cannot discover the true meaning of marriage. Only adults can enter the world of marriage, and those who are psychologically immature, those who have long since reached adulthood but are still naïve, cannot afford real marriage. What are the criteria for adults? Independent in all respects, economically, spiritually, they know how to stick to their principles, they have stable and unshakable ideas, and they have a rich and powerful personal world.