In Western literary classics, the complex of Oedipus and Oedipus is not uncommon, and the psychologist Freud once came to the conclusion that unrequited love stems from human sexual instinct by analyzing the ancient Greek tragedy "King Oedipus".
In contrast, conservative and implicit Orientals are ashamed of this ethical confusion, but the fact that it is not so secretive does not mean that it does not exist, in fact, the unfortunate roots of many traditional families are more or less related to this.
Moreover, whether in the West or the East, the hurtfulness of family ethical tragedies is extremely great, and the evil circumstances created by emotions crossing the line are doomed to use the rest of one's life to nirvana.
Hello everyone, today I bring you Zhang Ailing's work "Heart Sutra".
Xu Xiaohan is a young and beautiful schoolgirl with a "mythical child's face, bulging cheeks, extremely long black eyes, thin red lips".
Giving people a strange, disturbing beauty, her family is very rich, parental love, parent-child harmony, is very enviable.
On this day, Xu Xiaohan celebrated his 20th birthday and invited a few good female classmates to come to the house for dinner.
Among them, the most eye-catching is Duan Lingqing, who looks very beautiful, compared to Xiao Han, it is more attractive than Xiao Han, and therefore, Xu Xiaohan is quite hostile to Duan Lingqing.
The others are Poland, Finland, Milan and Caizhu, and their appearance is inferior to Xiao Han's, so they are more casual with Xiao Han.
A few girls sat around the cement railing in the roof garden of the apartment, chattering and discussing, and they praised the Xiao Han family's beautiful house and delicious ice cream
After a while, Xiao Han went downstairs first, so several sisters rushed together to talk about their doubts.
Xiao Han opened her mouth and closed her mouth is her father, two photos in a pair of dark gold hairpin flower photo frames on her piano, one is Xiao Han, one is Her father, what about Xiao Han's mother?
On this issue, Xiao Han later explained it like this:
My mother did not come to greet you, first, you are not a guest, and secondly, I think that the elders are not happy with us.
As a result, this topic was thrown to the back of everyone's haha laugh
Eating ice cream, Xu Xiaohan's father Xu Fengyi returned, Xiaohan immediately got up and ran to his father's side, but his face deliberately showed a sad look.
Xu Fengyi knew that this was her daughter's thought that she was late to come back, so she did not hide, allowing her daughter to wrap her arms:
This is my dad, do you recognize it clearly, so as not to have another misunderstanding from the last time?
When everyone heard this, they were all confused, and the lively Milan asked very cooperatively, and Xiao Han did not twist, and generously said that he went to the movies with his father, and others mistakenly believed that it was a boyfriend.
As a result, the crowd laughed again, Xu Fengyi also laughed, he married early, and now he is only forty years old, but his daughter is already standing tall, so such embarrassment is inevitable
This night, Xu Xiaohan and the female classmates all had a lot of fun, Poland danced a dance, Xiao Han and Duan Lingqing cooperated to sing a song,
The atmosphere rose at once, everyone applauded, Xiao Han also hurriedly asked his father's opinion, Xu Fengyi listened a little distracted, and only said:
"You two look a bit alike",
Xu Xiaohan immediately had a smile on his face, but his heart tasted good, having a girlfriend who was even more beautiful than himself was already distressed enough, where could he tolerate that person to take away his father's gaze again
The birthday dinner was nearing the end, the three Polish sisters who lived a little farther away and Caizhu decided to go first, duan Lingqing was left by Xiao Han for a while, and now the two were whispering with their heads to each other.
Ling Qing advised Xiao Han not to make jokes about Poland and Gong Haili, although Poland did not care about generosity, but this kind of joke will inevitably hurt harmony.
Gong Haili is Xiao Han's classmate, with a solid family, an optimistic personality, very fond of Xu Xiaohan, and has expressed his heart to her more than once, but Xiao Han has never replied positively.
Originally, Duan Lingqing felt that Xiao Han was shy and embarrassed, but he did not expect that when he was just playing, Xiao Han pushed Gong Haili to Poland, and also gave Gong Haili a nickname of "Ireland"
I have to say that girls are always extra sensitive in their feelings, and at a glance, they can see the fact that Xu Xiaohan does not like Gong Haili, but instead uses others as a cover to satisfy his vanity.
Duan Lingqing's sharp point made Xiao Han a little weak-hearted, in order to save face, he decided to bite back, and determined that Ling Qing was so upset with Gong Haili because he liked the other party, who knew that Duan Lingqing did not deny it, which really surprised Xiao Han.
Of course, not denying it does not mean liking, but Duan Lingqing is a very sober and real person, her family is a bit unbearable, her mother and sister-in-law are widows,
This was originally nothing, but the bad is bad in the selfishness of human nature, eating bitterness but not seeing others good, is to the mother and sister-in-law to Duan Lingqing is very mean, afraid that she will live well to compare herself,
Therefore, Ling Qing has a momentum for the future, her goal is very clear, to marry a rich man, so if Gong Haili can let her get rid of the family troubles, Duan Lingqing will not hesitate
After sending Ling Qing away, Xu Xiaohan and her father talked for a long time before going to rest, but she obviously felt that her father was a little absent-minded today.
Just wanted to throw some small temper to attract the attention of the other party, but the father suddenly mentioned her natural mother first, almost to pass on the old things to the third uncle's mother's family.
Seeing Xu Fengyi's serious face, Xiao Han was afraid, his father stressed over and over again today that he was old, and now he said this, was he planning to be estranged from himself?
Xu Xiaohan was afraid of growing up from childhood, and when he grew up, he always loved to pretend to be a child, that is, he was afraid that there would be today, but he should come after all.
She wrapped her arms around her father's neck in pain, hid her head in her shoulders, and cried bitterly, at this time, her mother came down from the stairs to wash the dishes, and the father and daughter did not shy away from it at all, still maintaining this posture without change.
Obviously, Xu Xiaohan's attachment to his father has transcended the boundary between father and daughter.
In fact, Xu Xiaohan did have other ideas about her father, and she also knew why her father changed his normal behavior on her birthday.
On the one hand, this is because he has grown up, on the other hand, it is because of Duan Lingqing,
Xu Fengyi wants to withdraw from this unsightly relationship, she must find a substitute, since she can't like her daughter, then go and like Duan Lingqing, who is similar to her daughter.
Therefore, Xu Xiaohan left Ling Qing alone that day, and it was not as simple as being seen through his mind on the surface and being ashamed and angry.
Instead, she saw her father's abnormality and wanted to send Duan Lingqing to other men as soon as possible, so as to break her father's thoughts, but how could things always develop in the direction she expected.
On this day, when he returned from school, Xiao Han and his father officially talked about Gong Haili, saying how he was excellent and how he liked himself, and Xiao Han did this nothing more than to arouse his father's jealousy and let him pay attention to himself again.
However, Xu Fengyi knew his daughter very well, knew that Xiao Han was just playing with each other's feelings, and secretly felt sad for Gong Haili.
But he had not yet put his mind at ease, but Xu Xiaohan suddenly turned his head, saying that he had introduced Gong Haili to Duan Lingqing, and he was really angry when he heard this Xu Fengyi.
But the face is still not obvious, only warned the daughter not to take other people's feelings as a child's play,
Xu Xiaohan couldn't hear her father say this at all, in her opinion, this was her father's maintenance of Duan Lingqing, so she became more and more foolish, and she said to her father:
"I will never leave you for the rest of my life",
Xu Fengyi had a headache, but he was also powerless to defend himself.
This unrequited love has actually been seven or eight years, at that time, Xiao Han was still a naïve and ignorant child, which was the golden age of father-daughter love.
But in the blink of an eye, Xiao Han grew up, with rich, ivory skin, Xu Fengyi suddenly woke up, and the beauty in the memory could not be reproduced
A few days later, Xu Fengyi and Duan Lingqing came together, Xu Xiaohan immediately panicked after knowing it, she began to complain that her mother could not control her father, and let the other party go out to fool around, but her mother said:
It's even harder to endure than this, and it's nothing.
Xu Xiaohan froze, she knew what her mother said "more unbearable" is the matter, Xu Xiaohan cried loudly, she committed a crime, she put her parents' love a little late,
In the past, she was afraid that her mother had robbed her father, so she vigorously suppressed her mother, but now that Duan Lingqing had robbed her father, she could not do anything
That night, Xu Fengyi went home to pack her bags, xu Xiaohan found her mother as if she saw the last hope, she hoped that her mother could intervene to stop her father.
But in the face of Xu Fengyi's derailment, her mother remained indifferent, Xu Xiaohan was about to go crazy, and she yelled at her mother with hatred:
"Don't be complacent, don't think that if you help them bully me, you will take revenge",
Seeing Xiao Han out of control nonsense, her mother suddenly slapped her over, Xu Xiaohan suddenly forgot to cry, so many years, her mother still hit her for the first time,
Not long after, Xu Fengyi came out of the study, packed his luggage and was about to go out, Xu Xiaohan saw it and immediately pounced on it and began the final struggle.
She denigrated Duan Lingqing as a woman who was "full of people", and only wanted to find someone to marry in a hurry to get rid of the family, but Xu Fengyi didn't care at all.
No matter what Ling Qing's purpose is, but with this excuse, he can smoothly get rid of his unreasonable daughter and start a new life.
Seeing her father's indifferent face, Xu Xiaohan was desperate, and she indignantly complained to her father:
"Where do you still have a little heart, you are a beast, you look down on me, because I love you, I should not love my father, but I am pure",
After saying that, Xiao Han grabbed her father like a shrew, and Xu Fengyi threw her to the ground without mercy, but her face was scratched by Xiao Han's long fingernails
In this way, Xu Fengyi left home, but Xiao Han still did not have a dead heart, she staggered out of the door, wanting to find Duan Lingqing's mother, let the mean old lady teach her daughter,
However, as soon as she reached the halfway point, she was pulled back by her mother, and after this trouble, Xu Xiaohan was already exhausted.
Looking at this home that had sheltered her from the wind and rain, Xiao Han's heart was disgusted, and she turned her head to her mother and cried weakly:
"Mom, you didn't care about me"
In the face of Xiao Han's questioning, Mrs. Xu is helpless, she is like a shadow in this family, no one cares about her feelings,
Earlier, Mrs. Xu did not know that her daughter and husband were abnormal, and only regarded her daughter as a domineering child, but later she knew, but she did not dare to believe it, turning a blind eye to self-deception, she said to Xiao Han:
"Some things, you probably forgot earlier, after I was thirty years old, occasionally wear a more beautiful dress, or show a little affection for him, you laugh at me, he also laughed at me, how can I hate you, you are just a naïve child",
At the end of the conversation, Mrs. Xu told Xiao Han her arrangement:
Go to your third aunt's house for a while, and come back after you have made plans to study, find something to do, or get married.
After all, the mother still loves Xiao Han, even if the daughter has been so rebellious and hurt her heart, at this last moment, Mrs. Xu still chooses to pluck her daughter out of this quagmire.
In the middle of the night, the rain was pouring down, and Xu Xiaohan, who was half dreaming and half awake, also sat up in shock, and under the dim light, her mother was busy packing her bags for her.
Xiao Han suddenly felt a pang of sadness, she climbed down from the bed and knelt down on the edge of the box, looking like her mother on her back, and the look seemed to ask again:
I'm leaving, what about you,
Mrs. Xu was bitter, she never tightened, as long as her daughter can be well, she will guard the family business, waiting for Xiao Han to return, finally, Xu Xiaohan can no longer bear it, lying on her mother's shoulder and crying,
This is an abnormal family, the father is selfish and despicable, only willing to enjoy the adoration of the daughter's aberration; the mother is cowardly and inactive, and treats the daughter as a child from beginning to end.
Although Xiao Han's unprincipled love is unbearable, her parents' daily connivance is even more chilling.
Freud said: Most people's Oedipal complex is just an invisible dependence on their parents, as they grow older and more insightful, they will go out of the arms of their parents and establish their own circle of life with an independent posture.
Therefore, truly qualified parents encourage their children to socialize and live their own lives, rather than using their children as tools to meet their emotional needs like Xiaohan's parents.