The first snow has arrived and winter is coming. Are there lovers next to you who snuggle up to each other for warmth?
There are trivial daily routines in life, and there are heart-warming moments. But thinking about the people you love, winter seems to be really not so cold.
The 23rd issue of Reader magazine in 2021 is coming soon! May the words in the book turn into sporadic lights that will embellish your long winter days.
"Zhu Ziqing's Love"
The full text was published in The Reader Magazine Issue 23, 2021
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During the run-in period of marriage, Zhu Ziqing and his wife Chen Zhuyin both found that the other party was out of tune with themselves, but fortunately, both of them were willing to make sacrifices and changes for each other.
Once, Taketo inadvertently said that he was going to a friend's house next Thursday and living there. Zhu Ziqing was a little disappointed to hear this. Zhu Yin sensed her husband's displeasure, so she immediately changed her mind and said that if she went earlier in the morning, she would be able to rush back at night and not live at a friend's house. In this regard, Zhu Ziqing saw it in his eyes and was grateful in his heart. He wrote in his diary: "Even the song is completely left behind, after all, it can be felt." The aftermath is anxious, and sometimes too much. ”
Zhu Ziqing also took some time out of his spare time to accompany Zhu Yin to walk, chat, and watch plays. The two people seem to be back in love, and the relationship is better. They took their eldest son and eldest daughter from their hometown and arranged for them to be educated in the best schools, so that the family could live a pleasant and harmonious life.
Unfortunately, this life lasted only five years, and Zhu Ziqing's family fell into twelve years of panic and poverty.
The sound of gunfire at the Lugou Bridge disrupted the tranquility of Peiping. At that time, the Nationalist government urgently ordered Tsinghua University, Peking University and Nankai University to go south to form a temporary joint university, which was the world-famous Southwest United University.
Zhu Ziqing hesitated whether to go or stay, after all, he could not bear to leave the burden of the family's survival to his wife. Moreover, the chaos of the soldiers and horses, so that a woman with several children to live in fear, but also let him can not rest assured.
Zhu Yin firmly said to him: "Pei Xian, your fate has long been closely linked to the fate of Qinghua, and you must not be reckless and steal security when the school situation is dangerous." You stay in Peiping, living under the watchful eye of the Japanese, which is cowardice and humiliation, and you must not do that. I know you can't trust me and the children, and I promise you that I will do my best to take good care of our family, and one day, our family will be reunited. ”
As if overnight, Zhu Yin put away his old little temper and occasional squeamishness. At a time of national crisis, his wife was so deeply aware of the great righteousness, Zhu Ziqing was so moved that he could not say a complete word, he just clasped his wife's hand and said "take care."
"I want to talk to you"
Text / Amber Photo / Lian Peiwei
In Liu Zhenyun's novel "Ten Thousand Sentences in a Sentence", Niu Aixiang said to his brother Niu Aiguo: "To tell you the truth, my sister is now married, not to get married, but to find someone to talk to." My sister is 42 years old, alone all day, choking me to death. ”
Niu Aiguo and his wife were very talkative when they first got married, and gradually they did not speculate, and finally there was nothing to say, and the marriage between the two also came to an end. The wife ran away with others, but she had endless words with the other party.
Screenwriter Liao Yimei wrote this line in "Soft": "Everyone is lonely. In our lifetime, encountering love, encountering sex, is not rare, it is rare to encounter understanding. ”
Even people who are not good at words have a desire to express themselves that cannot be ignored. Emotions need to be exported, the object of talk is difficult to find, and the soul mate of the spiritual fit is certainly worth looking forward to, but it is not easy to properly catch the stem thrown by the other party and be a suitable chat partner.
"Don't be afraid, don't panic"
Text / Chen Haixian
My grandmother was an old rural lady who had not read any books and had a hard life.
After she fell ill, although she knew that her time was short, she had a special openness to death.
Sometimes in the middle of the night, when she was in pain, she said, "I'm not afraid, even if I die anyway, I'll die in my own bed." ”
On the night of her death, she was in a coma for a long time. However, at midnight, she suddenly woke up and said to the children who were with her: "Don't be afraid, people are going to die, take your time, don't panic." ”
After saying these words, she died. Even before she died, she was thinking about comforting her children. Home is her greatest meaning in life.
"Away from Negative Praise"
Text / Gao Yiran Photo / Wang Yuan
Most people think that if they had suffered verbal violence, they would have known. After all, verbal violence often includes accusations, verbal abuse, threats, and yelling.
But in fact, there is far more verbal violence than we realize, and the form of verbal violence is far more than "visible" insults and demeaning, but also includes "invisible" denial.
Deny your thoughts and feelings – "you're too sensitive"; repeat negative comments – "colleagues don't like you"; silent confrontation – "I refuse to talk to you"; hurtful, highly insulting jokes – "You look so good in this dress and highlight your big ass"; false accusations – "You wear this dress to increase your return rate"; deny or rationalize your own behavior – "I don't mean that, I'm praising you".
Over time, victims may begin to agree with the abuser and engage in introverted criticism.
The "broken glass ballast" in these everyday words begins to gradually disintegrate the victim's sense of self, causing the victim to question his own value and no longer be able to see himself as true.
"Man has three kinds of happiness"
Text/Xu Zidong
Kant said that man has three kinds of happiness: the first happiness is because it gives you direct benefits, which are material and physical pleasures.
The second kind of happiness, where you feel happy because you did the right thing, is moral happiness.
The third kind of happiness is that it neither gives you benefits nor morals, such as when you hear the wind blowing down the leaves in the middle of the night, feel comfortable, feel unspeakable kind of spiritual happiness.
Only the third kind of happiness is called beauty, only art.
For more highlights, see The Reader Magazine Issue 23,021