Always believed in one sentence:
"In this generation, it doesn't matter who you are, what matters is who you have around you."
People influence each other.
Many times, a person's circle of friends determines his personality, cultivation, and life trajectory.
What kind of friends you choose determines what kind of direction to go forward.
The ability to choose friends hides the pattern of life.
As the old saying goes:
"Flying with the phoenix, it will be a handsome bird; walking with the tiger and wolf, it will be a beast."
People in this life, who they are with, really important.
Walking with the vulgar, without pressure, you will become more and more slack, the footsteps will become heavier and heavier, and gradually go downhill.
With excellent people, you will unconsciously look up to them, always spur yourself on, and naturally become outstanding.
What kind of people you choose to walk with determines what kind of end you can go to.
I've seen such a story.
Mark Hansen, one of America's most recognizable writers, met orator Anthony Robin at a banquet.
He asked Robin a question:
"We're all teaching people how to succeed. But why is my annual income only 1 million, and you can make 10 million a year? ”
Robin didn't answer directly but asked him, "Who do you spend with every day?" ”
Hansen replied proudly, "I spend every day with millionaires. ”
Robin smiled and said, "I spend every day with multi-millionaires. ”
The fastest way for a person to grow is to walk with good people.
When you're in a very good circle, you're not satisfied with mediocrity.
They will continue to cultivate themselves, learn their excellent qualities, self-discipline habits, excellent abilities, and be pushed forward by invisible forces.
Walking with good people will not only help you meet a better version of yourself, but also give you strength and guidance when you are confused or go wrong.
In a way, this is also a shortcut in life.
So don't be afraid to get along with people who are better than you, and also try to make yourself the person that others want to be close to.
There is a question on the Internet, what is the experience of working with reliable people?
There is an answer that resonates with netizens:
He tells you, "Okay," and you don't feel like he's perfunctory.
In fact, reliable people are nothing more than making people feel that they are steadfast in their hearts and can be entrusted.
My friend had previously jumped to a company to do creative planning, and was very unconvinced to learn that the director was about the same age as him.
But after three months on the job, I praised him.
Because every time regardless of the size of the plan, the director will actively discuss, even if it is busy, the email must be replied to on the same day.
Once the company's key projects, the customer was not satisfied, but he was not flustered at all, and did not push the problem to the people at the bottom.
Instead, it is a hands-on approach, leading everyone to work together to develop new solutions and ultimately successfully win customers.
A friend said: "As long as he is involved in the project, not only are there few mistakes, but the results are also expected."
With such a person, I just make up for my own shortcomings and make myself slowly better. ”
Many times, we judge whether a person can work together, whether it is worth trusting, but in fact, we consider the other party's ability and education.
But in the eyes of successful people, reliability is actually a more important quality than intelligence.
Reliable people may not necessarily have the best relationship with you, but they must not have to be suspicious and worried.
Reliable people are not necessarily the best in the crowd, but they must be down-to-earth and go all out.
The promises made will be fulfilled as best they can, and the promises will not be ambiguous.
Even if it is an imminent problem, as long as it is handed over to him, it can be done conscientiously.
Getting along and working with such people naturally walks steadily and powerfully at every step.
But we must also always remind ourselves to be a consistent and responsible person, and win the respect and trust of others for ourselves.
Let others rest assured, let yourself rest assured, the road can go wider and wider.
In this life, people will go to many places and meet many people.
But no matter how wonderful the days are, it is inevitable that there will be times of loneliness.
Everyone thinks you're doing well, but no one cares if you're tired or not, how much you've been wronged.
There are always people who love you and know your information well, but they can't read you and can't go into your heart.
No wonder the playwright Liao Yimei said: "In this life, people encounter love and encounter sex, it is not rare, what is rare is to meet and understand." ”
Just like Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu.
Zhang Ailing once commented on their marriage: "A rare example of happiness in old-style marriage."
One is a talented man of the Republic of China who has learned to be rich in five cars, and the other is a small-footed woman who cannot read big characters, how to see that eight rods cannot hit two people, but accompanies them to the old age.
One of the important reasons is mutual understanding.
In that era of war and chaos, it was not easy for a woman to flee with three children.
But no matter how hard it is, Jiang Dongxiu has not forgotten her husband's dozen boxes of books, and she knows the value of books to her husband.
Hu Shi said gratefully in the letter: "The teachers who came out of Beiping did not bring books. Only my dozens of boxes of books came out. It's all your fault. ”
But if Jiang Dongxiu is the one who understands Hu Shi the most, then to a certain extent, Hu Shi has also fulfilled Jiang Dongxiu.
Even in arranged marriages, Hu Shi never looked at her, but paid attention to the shining points in her.
Persuading her to be bold, she read and read, and encouraged her to write letters to herself.
Later, under the influence of Hu Shi, she gradually broke away from feudalism and superstition, and truly became Hu Shi's xiannai helper.
There is a saying that goes like this, "To know others is a joy; to be understood is to be happy." ”
The sea of people is vast, and it is a very lucky thing to meet someone who understands you.
He doesn't have to be perfect, but in front of him, you can be the truest version of yourself without deliberately flattering.
Even if you don't say anything, you can understand what you want to say and stop, and you have been silently by your side.
Will always put everything in your heart, even if you are speechless, you will feel at ease.
If you are lucky enough to meet such a person, please be sure to cherish it.
As the old saying goes, "The success or failure of a person's life is related to the merits of friends." ”
This sentence is still a wake-up call to the world.
If your origin cannot be changed, change your destiny through the friends you choose.
Walk with excellent people, always spur yourself to work hard, and embark on the fast track of life.
Working with reliable people and taking a few few detours is half the battle.
Get along with people who understand you, rekindle your love of life, and become gentle and romantic.
In this way, step by step, get closer to your best appearance