What is love?
Weighing the pros and cons, to consider the factors of all sides, is not love, but a more free marriage.
True love should be despite oneself.
Many people's true love is real selfishness, especially self-touching giving, love that does not ask about consequences.
Truly pleasurable love is not a marriage-style trade-off, nor is it a reckless true love. True love is exactly in the middle of the first two, not extreme, plain as water, like Dai Ailian, love frankly, but do not cause trouble.
Dai Ailian's feelings are not rich, but they are by no means single.
In essence, she is not a conservative and implicit Chinese woman.
Dai Ailian's first love was the only brightness in her hardest years.
At that time, because her family went bankrupt, Ailian Dai had to work part-time at the Tatington Art School.
The roof leaked during the overnight rain, and at the most difficult time, Dai Ailian's summer vacation work was canceled.
Her school was too far from her home in London, and for a moment she seemed to have been abandoned by the whole world.
It was at this time that Dai Ailian met her first love, Willy.
One is an amateur model with no job and nowhere to live, and the other is a novice sculptor who can't afford to hire a model.
The two hit it off.
Willy provided room and board for Ailian Dai, who worked as a free model for Willy.
Dai Ailian said that the days with Willy were the happiest times in my life.
For Willy, this was the peak of his life.1
At that time, The head carved by Willy for Dai Ailian is still on display in the halls of the Royal Academy of Dance.
Unfortunately, the two are not suitable for marriage.
They were nine years apart, and Willy had already been married.
Later, Willy's fiancée rushed to London, and Dai knew that it was time for her to quit.
She was a woman who dared to love and dare to hate, and when she left Willy, she left everything behind and left London.
Some give up, it seems to be dashing and grand, but it is actually painful.
Dai Ailian's first love was the one she could not let go of, but in order to prevent herself from becoming a woman who destroyed other people's families, she left London and returned to her motherland where she had never been.
Tu Lei once said: Wholehearted dedication can be exchanged for being moved, but may not be exchanged for heartbeat; the companionship of getting along day and night can produce feelings, but may not produce love.
Dai Ailian and Ye Qianyu are such lovers who meet and know each other, but do not produce love.
Soon after Dai Ailian returned to China, she became acquainted with Ye Qianyu.
It was a performance party, Dai Ailian was a dancer with a bad Chinese, and Ye Qianyu was a painter who was not good at English.
They were all really top people in their fields at the time, and although there were some language barriers, language never hindered real communication.
Later, their contacts became more and more intense, and their good feelings became stronger and stronger, and soon after, the two were happily married.
From the perspective of whether it is appropriate to measure this relationship, Dai Ailian and Ye Qianyu are not suitable, but they are really happy.
Ye Qianyu recalled this relationship and said this:
"Eileen and I had been each other's heels in those years, and when she had performances, I would do odd jobs for her, translate, cook, and be a stage producer, and when I was busy, it was her turn to do these things for me. The relationship between the two of us is like a couple running the rivers and lakes, the woman dancing, the man beating the drum. ”
The feelings of Qinser and Ming may not be really appropriate.
Later, when the two were separated, Dai Ailian fell in love with the male protagonist of a dance drama- a young guy who was a few years younger than her and called her "Dai Director".
If you don't love, you will naturally be separated.
This is Dai Ailian's idea, and it is also the principle she has been practicing.
After Ye Qianyu returned home, Dai Ailian clearly proposed: Divorce it, because she does not love him anymore.
It is often said that the icing on the cake is not as good as sending charcoal in the snow. After Dai Ailian returned to China, she was the proud son of heaven, and Ye Qianyu and her feelings were the icing on the cake.
What Dai Ailian has never forgotten is that in the Art School of Tatington, she fell to a low point and sent charcoal in the snow.
Later, Dai Ailian and Xinhuan broke up, or, Xinhuan fell in love with someone else, she returned to singleness, and Ye Qianyu's daughter invited her to return to this home, Dai Ailian refused.
She was going to England to find her first love.
Later, Dai Ailian and the Willy family became very good friends and accompanied Willy through the last part of his life.
In Dai Ailian's life, was there any desperate love?
True love, not indulgence.
She had fought hard, but when Willy's fiancée arrived, she knew that true love was to let go; later, she and Ye Qianyu walked into a marriage as plain as water, and she also understood that in this life, she was never willing to be bland.
Love, just together; if you don't love, you separate.
Dai Ailian has a long-term sense in her heart, because she knows that true love will not be indulgence.