"Such an exact love, only once in a lifetime. I learned today that I was wandering to get closer to you. This is the most moving and most desperate sentence in the film "The Dream of the Covered Bridge". The hero and heroine of the film, Robert and Francesca, they are a wanderer, a home, a safe place, children around the knee, they were originally a set of parallel lines that never intersected, but in an accidental time and space, they knew and fell in love.
This is both a secular affair and an anti-secular spiritual love. So what is the weight of personal emotions and family responsibilities? Someone said: "The love of a middle-aged woman, like high heels, is more suitable for placing in the shoe cabinet, occasionally take it out to see, try, and then calmly put it back." ”
Under this universally accepted secular moral standard, the heroine of the story, Francesca, eventually returns to reason and family, and Robert turns her fanatical love into perseverance and respect for the rest of her life. This "affectionate and end-of-the-line" ending can be said to have put on a cloak of "persuasion" for secular extramarital love. However, since its release in 1995, the film has unexpectedly set off a divorce frenzy across the United States.
"When you meet true love in marriage, where should you go?" This is a question that the film "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" has been leading us to ponder. Extramarital love has always been defined as a kind of disdain rather than morality, but "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" unusually interprets it as a moving and beautiful love.
Some people say that this is an over-exaggeration and glorification of extramarital love. In fact, I think what "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" amplifies is not the tolerance of extramarital love itself, but the delicate insight into the emotions of the human heart.
If you have seen Robert and Francesca fall in love, most people may feel incredible, what charm is the passion of love that lasts only four days, and can withstand the protagonist's lifelong marriage?
It was a summer day in 1965, and photographer Robert drove to Madison County to photograph the Covered Bridge, and while asking for directions, he met the heroine, Francesca. Francesca is a graceful middle-aged village woman who lives in the countryside with her husband and children for a long time, living a plain and trivial rural life. But from the moment she met photographer Robert, she saw a new, more vivid life.
As a photographer of National Geographic, Robert's footprints have traveled all over the world, and his life has become legendary and bold because of his entanglement with different characters and animals. Faced with this prodigal son who was divorced in his early years, childless and childless, but who had a life of wanton and uninhibited, Francesca's dream of being a girl was once awakened in the dust of her heart for many years.
Born in Italy, Francesca followed her husband after marriage to the rustic, isolated countryside of Madison County, where, as she put it, "It's quiet, the neighbors are friendly... The car can be unlocked without locking, and the children do not have to worry about getting lost. But she confided in Robert: "This is not my girlhood dream." ”
As a well-educated woman, Francesca has in her heart an invisible vision of future changes and a bitter romance that her husband and family cannot see. Thus, when Robert uttered Yeats's phrase "the silver apple of the moon, the golden apple of the sun," Francesca, who was intoxicated with poetry, seemed to have found a soul confidant.
But in real life, Francesca gave up her career for her family at an early age and became a housewife dedicated to three meals a day and four seasons of clothing. Therefore, Robert's arrival, in Francesca's view, is tantamount to a drop of juice in boiled water, a stimulant in boring life. Whether it is Robert's personable appearance, the legend of life that has been through vicissitudes, or his funny conversation and well-informed temperament, these are all fatal temptations for Francesca, who has lived in the countryside for a long time and has a monotonous and numb life.
From chance encounters, acquaintances to mutual affection, Robert collects flowers and videos for Francesca, the two walk under the moon, talk about poetry... These small and moving details break Francesca's stylized life and satisfy her recollection of the ideal of a romantic girl. And she fell in love with Robert out of this desire for passion and change.
In the film, Francesca and Robert's love affair lasts only four days. On the first day, they met, the next day, they fell in love, and on the third day, they decided to stay together for the rest of their lives, but on the fourth day, on the eve of the family's return, Francesca still could not bear to hurt her kind husband and growing children, and decided to give up this relationship with Robert. She said:
"When a woman decides to get married and have children, her life begins on the one hand and ends on the other. Life begins to be filled with trivial things, and you stop and stay where you are so that your children can come and go as they please. After they leave, your life is empty, you should move forward again, but you have forgotten how to step forward. ”
Francesca's marriage dilemma is actually caused by the essential difference between love and marriage. When a woman is in a girlhood, she can chase the ideal state of life and enjoy the freedom of life, but once she gets married and has children, the sense of family responsibility will force her to pour more time and energy into her husband and children, which will limit personal growth and development.
To some extent, the long-term family life makes Francesca gradually lose herself, away from the "ideals" of her teenage years, and the monotony and tedium of real life make her feel that there is nowhere to seek understanding. Robert's appearance opened up a whole new world for Francesca.
In the process of the two talking about poetry and books, night travel to admire the moon, Francesca was also brought into that free and vast wonderful world by Robert, so that she temporarily got rid of the identity of wife and mother, returned to her girlhood, and fell in love with Robert.
However, there is nothing easier than the belief in love that sprouts in passionate love to the death. But once the passion fades and the heart is gone, will Robert meet another Francesca at the next intersection? We don't know. Many people have wept for such a scene in the film:
At the intersection of the rainstorm, under the flashing traffic lights, Francesca saw Robert's car parked in front of her, while her husband was by her side. She understood that this was Robert's final farewell, and for a moment she wanted to jump out of the car and hug the man who was watching her in the pouring rain, but the door seemed to weigh a thousand guns. Outside the car, there is her love; inside the car, it carries the first half of her life. Francesca, in the end, could not push open the door.
This silent farewell is the ultimate love, but also the meaning of the difficult peace, but what really makes me cry in the film is such a shot: nearly 20 years after this extramarital affair, Francesca's husband is terminally ill and comes to the end of his life, he hugs his wife affectionately on the bed, and struggles with the last strength: "I know you have your own dreams, sorry I didn't give it to you, I love you very much." ”
The end of this extramarital affair is beautiful, Francesca returns to the family, and she spends the rest of her life peacefully with her husband, and Robert turns his love into respect for the rest of his life. The choices Made by Francesca and Robert, which may seem regrettable, are in fact the best fulfillment of love and marriage.
When Francesca broke up with Robert, she once said to him: "I want to keep this love forever, I hope to love you like this for the rest of my life." But if we go, we will lose, and I can't let this life disappear and start all over again. It was comfort and also Francesca's wisdom.
For Francesca, Robert was destined to be a passer-by in life. As a woman with a half-rooted family, she cannot follow Robert to the end of the world, because as long as one day she thinks of her existing family, of her innocent husband and poor children, she will not be able to feel at ease, and the guilt of the family will accompany her for the rest of her life.
On the other hand, the relationship between Francesca and Robert is an elusive passion in nature, and it has not yet undergone the grinding of chai rice oil and salt, the test of food, clothing, shelter and transportation. Francesca knows that when love transitions to marriage, responsibility must dilute passion, so when real life is too late to expose love to its rough and pale side, she chooses to freeze the passionate love as eternal.
It is precisely because Francesca and Robert did not cross the moral line in the end that "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" did not become a clichéd extramarital affair story. At the end of the film, Francesca receives all of his relics after Robert's death, including robert's bracelet, the necklace that Francesca once gave him, and a note written by Francesca at the beginning of their engagement.
Seven years later, Francesca died of illness. In her will, she said to her children: "I have given you all my love, my children, and now that I am dead, I hope to leave my body to Robert E. Lee. Kincaid. After her mother's death, Francesca's children were moved by the story of her life and eventually scattered their mother's ashes on the banks of the Madison Bridge.
From a woman's point of view, Francesca is so fortunate. From the perspective of marriage, she has a perfect family, a husband who loves her to death; from the perspective of love, ordinary people harvest a fleeting stimulus like a cloud in their feelings, but because of the perfection of her lover, she has obtained an immortal passion worth a lifetime of nostalgia.
In real life, from the passion of love to the affection in marriage, many people think that this is the natural deterioration of love. But in fact, some things have never been lost, but the wind and sand of time often bury them deep in our hearts, causing us to ignore their original faces.
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