Wen | Poplar (Author of The Rich Book)
Some love, only once in a lifetime, cherish it when we encounter it; and responsibility is the belief that we must adhere to all our lives.
"The Dream of the Covered Bridge" is the famous work of american writer Robert James Waller, which shocked the world literary world to a certain extent.
The author carefully opens up the secret emotional world of extramarital love, allowing people to see the firm, eternal, and rational side of the shameful love affair that is enough to cause accusations.
The author's cleverness lies in the fact that he puts responsibility and obligation above personal freedom and romantic pursuits, and has won the resonance of thousands of readers on the commanding heights of morality.
After many years, watching this work again, let me see another meaning behind the story, that is, the heroine Francesca has gained the awakening of her soul through her interaction with Robert.
At the same time, it also made me see the three truths in the world of adult feelings.
- Perfect feelings are an illusion, and contentment is the only way to be happy
In 1965, Richard and Francesca were married for nearly 20 years.
Twenty years ago, a kind American soldier and a romantic and enthusiastic Italian girl met in Naples.
Francesca looked at Richard in a military uniform, and the earnestness and sincerity in his eyes made her give herself a reason to marry him.
So she followed Richard to the small farm in Iowa and became a housewife with children.
Richard was a good husband, a good father, and a good man with a sense of responsibility.
Life, however, was not as good as Francesca had hoped, and she quit her job and lived day in and day out like all women.
Francesca had tried to give them some lust and passion between them, and she asked Richard to install a bathroom for her upstairs, but Richard was uncomfortable with the furnishings in her bathroom, saying that it was "too windy".
So she is no longer vivid, Richard is more accustomed to the calm country life, and even reluctant to chat with her about the topic she expects, the same daily routine, has become a common pattern for two people every day.
In fact, most couples in life will slowly fade after experiencing the initial sweetness, and the feeling of intimacy will gradually cool down, and even often feel that their other half is not so beautiful at the beginning.
Just like Tong Zhenbao in Zhang Ailing's pen, he obeyed his mother's arrangement and married a white rose oriole, however, the oriole was far less interesting than Jiaorui, and he began to miss the days when he was with Jiaorui.
The reason why Tong Zhenbao's marriage is unhappy is that everything stems from his dissatisfaction, even if he chose the red rose, the days are too long, and they will get tired of each other.
Many people are obsessed with the past and trapped in fantasies; many feelings begin with knowing each other and end with two disgusts.
Like a sentence: "What is more rare in the world than heartwarming love is long-term appreciation and understanding." ”
Years will eventually smooth out the edges and corners of passion, and even romantic love will lose to chai rice oil and salt day after day, only the mutual care and consideration in ordinary days can withstand the long years.
There are no perfect feelings in life, but there is contented happiness.
- A decent ending is better than a lifetime of mourning, and a stop loss is wisdom
Falling in love with Robert, to Francesca, seemed sudden and predestined.
That day, Robert parked his car in front of her house, and she just jumped off the swing and walked barefoot toward him, and Francesca, facing his directions, blurted out: "If you will, I can lead you." ”
Robert thanked Francesca for picking a small bouquet of wildflowers, and Francesca slyly joked: "Unfortunately they are poisonous." ”
The affection between them began to grow savagely, and she and Robert had candlelit dinners, talked about the world, took pictures of the setting sun, shared the moonlight, and even spent the night together.
Robert liked the pyrotechnics that emanating from Francesca's body, and Francesca liked Robert's wildness and talent.
In just four days, what they did was nothing more than a trivial matter, but in their hearts they had the wonderful feeling of "such an exact love, only once in a lifetime".
Richard and the children return from a trip, and Francesca must face realistic choices.
There is a scene in the film that I still remember, when Francesca and Robert were saying goodbye, it was pouring rain, and after Robert turned around lonely, Francesca shook her head unwillingly, she held the door handlebar in her hand, and several times tried to grab the door and go out...
In the end, she drove away with her husband, and I think this is the result that most people want to see.
If these two people elope, no matter how good life is later, there will be a lingering "haze" in Francesca's heart, that is, her guilt for her husband and children.
This guilt will undoubtedly make their lives greatly reduced, and Robert will also be affected by her emotions, and from time to time a feeling of uneasiness will arise.
Extramarital feelings are like a poison wrapped in sugar, and the gorgeous appearance hides the bitter substance.
Therefore, at all times, we must clearly know that only legitimate feelings will be blessed.
Love and can not, withdraw and retreat is better than hurting the innocent, a decent ending is always better than mourning a lifetime, timely stop loss, is the ultimate wisdom in feelings.
- Strong love does not last forever, and white space is the most beautiful
Zhang Ailing said: "For young people, three years and five years can be a lifetime, and for Francesca, the old dreams and deep feelings lost under the four-day bridge are already a lifetime." ”
After separating from Robert, Francesca became a housewife again, and for many years thereafter, without disturbing each other, she kept the decency of the marriage.
They buried their love and thoughts for each other deep in their hearts until the end of their lives.
Before his death, Robert sent all his belongings to Francesca and decided to scatter his ashes on the Madison Bridge, and Francesca said in his suicide note:
"I gave my life to my family and I wanted to leave the rest to Robert."
Eventually, they fulfilled their wish at Madison Bridge to be together forever in heaven.
This kind of true feeling of having to be separated for family responsibilities, separated for many years but concerned about each other, has deeply touched countless readers and viewers.
"The Dream of the Covered Bridge" interprets a higher realm of love: true and long-lasting love is not the mutual observance of the twilight, but the restraint, forbearance, and deeply rooted in the heart.
I especially like the words of one author: "Getting along day and night, although the ear grinding can interpret the strong love to the extreme, but it will not continue the truest love to eternity." ”
In real life, the one who has a clear understanding of love is lin Huiyin, a talented woman in the Republic of China.
Although she and Xu Zhimo are in love, when she learned that Xu Zhimo had a family, she decided to leave, and it was precisely because Lin Huiyin knew how to leave blanks in this love that Xu Zhimo regarded her as a close friend all his life.
Although Lin Huiyin loves each other very much, she is unwilling to put love above morality and base her happiness on the pain of others.
Sometimes, love is not the more passionate the love, the deeper it is, keep a distance, leave the imagination, in order to sublimate love.
Loving but not being able to, knowing how to leave blanks, is a respect for love, but also the fulfillment of each other.
The work "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" does not stay at the moral level of black and white judgment, nor does it glorify extramarital affairs, but brings us thinking about love and responsibility.
Francesca knew exactly what responsibility meant to marriage, and in an unforgettable true love and a bland family, she finally chose to return to her own family.
She seems to have left regrets for her love, but she has let that relationship maintain the most beautiful appearance in her long life.
Facing the responsibility of true love and marriage is a pain that is difficult for anyone to choose, but the work "The Dream of the Covered Bridge" tells us:
Perhaps everyone's life, there are inevitable regrets, looking back on the past, we will find that those regrets have become beautiful in the wind and rain, just like a cup of old cellar, the older the fragrance is stronger.
For the rest of your life, may you love frankly, live freely, and if you have affection, leave it to your remembrance.
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