Cao Cao's original wife Ding was the daughter of Cao Cao's uncle, and the two were uncles and sisters, equivalent to Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu in "Dream of the Red Chamber". In ancient times, there was no concept of marriage between close relatives, and the marriage of cousins and cousins was natural and belonged to the relatives. Cao Cao's grandfather Cao Teng was a eunuch, and his father Cao Song was Cao Teng's adopted son, so Cao Cao was born noble, and Yuan Shao, who was from the Three Dukes family, was a good friend. In that era of door valves, door-to-door political marriage was the right thing to do. Therefore, Mrs. Ding is also from the family, not a cold woman.
Cao Cao and Lady Ding were married for several years without children, and Cao Cao married Lady Liu again, and Lady Liu gave birth to Cao Ang and Princess Qinghe. Lady Liu died early, and Cao Ang was raised by Lady Ding, who regarded Cao Ang as her own and carefully cultivated her. Cao Cao took Cao Ang to march zhang xiu, zhang xiu fell without a fight, cao cao was overwhelmed, and slept with Zhang Xiu's uncle's concubine in the middle of the night. Zhang Xiu felt greatly insulted, and in the middle of the night he took someone to kill Cao Cao, Cao Cao crawled out of the bed barefoot and ran, halfway mount was shot dead, and at the critical moment Cao Ang gave him his war horse and told him to run. And said, the country can not live without me, can not live without you. Cao Cao ran away, and Cao Ang was hacked to death by the pursuing soldiers.
Cao Ang died, and Lady Ding was mentally injured, and she quarreled with Cao Cao every day, asking Cao Cao to return his son. Cao Cao was at the trough of his career at this time, and the friendship boat with Yuan Shao also overturned, Lü Bu Liu Bei Sun Strategy Liu Biao Yuan Shu fought against him one by one, and there were also people in the DPRK who wanted to take advantage of his illness to kill him, which can be described as internal and external troubles, and the right things could not be finished all day, so he could go home and coax his wife, and sent his wife back to his mother's house in one breath. In the Wei and Jin dynasties, a daughter who married out could not return to her mother's house without special reasons (such as the death of her parents and the need to run for mourning), and if she returned to her mother's house, she was divorced by her husband. In "Peacock Southeast Flying", Liu Lanzhi returned to her mother's house, and his brother immediately looked for her object, because she had become a masterless person. Therefore, although Cao Cao did not explicitly express his divorce, in a practical sense, Cao Cao was still equivalent to dumping his wife.
After a while, Cao Cao got through the difficulties and went to pick up Lady Ding and go home. Lady Ding was weaving cloth, and Cao Cao stood behind Lady Ding, gently touching Lady Ding's back, and said softly, Come home with me, don't make a fuss. Mrs. Ding continued to weave, without looking back or responding. Cao Cao stood for a while, walked to the courtyard, and shouted again, Is there no room for maneuver? Mrs. Ding still did not answer. Cao Cao said that women are really desperate. After returning home, she also found a good family for Lady Ding and asked Lady Ding's brother to marry her, but the Ding family did not dare. What a great ex-husband. A few years after Lady Ding died of illness, Cao Cao also died. On his deathbed, he sighed and said that I had never done anything regrettable in my life, and I would rather let me bear the people of the world than the people of the world bear me. The only thing I'm sorry for is my ex-wife. If I met Cao Ang after I died, he asked me what my mother was, how would I answer?
The reason why Lady Ding divorced Cao Cao, Cao Ang's death was the fuse and the main cause. Because his mother was noble, Cao Cao had already married Lady Bian at this time, and also gave birth to Cao Pi Cao Zhi's brother, Lady Ding had no queen, and it was sooner or later that Lady Bian would ascend to the throne. If Lady Ding continues to live in the throne, she and her family will be destroyed. Once Cao Cao died, no matter who Cao Pi Cao Zhi inherited Cao Cao's great cause, there was no good fruit for Lady Ding to eat. Moreover, Lady Ding was not good to Lady Bian and Cao Pi Cao Zhi, Lady Bian was born in a prostitution court, and Lady Ding looked down on others and often humiliated them. Therefore, it was wise for Lady Ding to abdicate as soon as possible. Cao Cao was very touched by Madame Ding's consideration of the overall situation, so on her deathbed, she said, The most sorry person in my life is my first wife.
Bibliography: Wei Luo