Military Network Thunder Military Network > Military News > Declassified Archives > The text reveals Cao Cao's two wives: Lady Bian and Lady Ding are what kind of people2016-04-30 Responsible Editor: gls001 Source: Thunder Military Network Cao Cao likes beautiful women, both Jiangshan and beauty, and is also in danger in Wancheng because of his lust for beauty. But he was still very cautious when it came to establishing a wife. The Lady Ding and Lady Bian he had officially appointed were otherworldly people.
Mrs. Ding had another Lady Liu before his wife. Lady Liu died early, leaving him with her son Cao Ang (Zi Xiu) and daughter Princess Qinghe Chang. After Lady Liu's death, Lady Ding became the stepmother of Cao Ang's siblings. Even today, the relationship between stepmother and stepson has always been a sensitive issue, and it is really less good: stepmothers are either abusive stepchildren or afraid to discipline for fear of discrimination. However, Lady Ding was not her own child to Cao Ang, and educated her son to develop morally, intellectually and physically.
The greatest trauma of Cao Cao at the Battle of Wancheng, in addition to breaking the general Dianwei, was the loss of Cao Ang. At this critical moment, Cao Ang sacrificed his young life to save his father, and Cao Cao's inner sorrow was beyond words. However, Lao Cao is a politician after all, in order to buy people's hearts, when everyone was in tears, he deliberately declared that the loss of his eldest son was not too painful, and the most painful thing was the loss of Dianwei. Mrs. Ding could not understand this. After Cao Ang's death, Lady Ding cried every day when she thought about it, and complained about Cao Cao while crying:
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"You hurt my son, how can you not even think about it!"
At first, Cao Cao understood and could tolerate it, but every day he cried endlessly, and he got angry and sent Lady Ding back to her mother's house. This is not actually to make her lay off, but only to remind her to restrain herself and take the overall situation into account.
After some time, Cao Cao wanted to bring Lady Ding back and personally visit the old mother-in-law's house. At that time, Madame Ding was weaving cloth, and someone reported: "Cao Cheng Xiang has come!" Mrs. Ding didn't seem to hear, and knitted her cloth as usual, more calmly than the girl in the library of Beijing Normal University a few years ago.
Cao Cao stepped forward, patted Lady Ding's back affectionately, and said, "Let's go back together!"
Mrs. Ding still did not take the stubble, her head did not return, and her eyes did not blink, which was even harder than Zhang Chunqiao in the court that year.
Cao Cao made a fuss and walked out of the door in embarrassment, still not dead-hearted, and said to the room again:
"How's it going? Or come with me!"
Mrs. Ding still did not say a word.
Cao Cao sighed and said, "This is really goodbye!" Therefore, it was announced that Mrs. Ding would be removed from her post and that there would be no other appointment; Announced the promotion of Bian to the right wife.
After divorcing The Ding family, Cao Cao told the Ding family that Xiao Ding could remarry someone else. Where dare the Ding family.
In fact, Cao Ang's death and Ding's departure have always been a knot in Cao Cao's heart. When Cao Cao was critically ill, he sighed and said, "I consciously didn't do anything to be sorry for her!" When I got there, if Zi Xiu (Cao Ang) asked me, 'Where is my mother?' How can I answer?"
Cao Cao's second wife, Bian Shi, was a person who understood the overall situation, took care of the overall situation, and understood politics.
When Lady Bian was twenty years old, Cao Cao accepted her as a concubine. Bian's origin is not superior, he did not go to any 211, 985, and did not win awards or titles during his early years of working in the song and dance troupe. But she did not dare to forget the country, and showed extraordinary grace and vision very early on.
At that time, Dong Zhuo was in turmoil, and she went to Luoyang with her husband. Once, Cao Cao went out disguised as an excuse and did not return for a long time. Yuan Shu didn't know if he was deliberately making it bad, but the rumor said: Cao Cao may be dead! Those close to Cao Cao wanted to leave. At this time, Lady Bian did not have the slightest intention of "changing the court and turning to Weihu Mountain", she came out to stop them and said: "We old Cao's life and death cannot be confirmed." Today you are gone, tomorrow if Lao Cao comes back, how can you see each other in the future? Even if something really happens, what are you afraid of shouldering together?" Those people didn't have the good sense to go.
When Cao Cao returned a few days later, when he heard about this, he couldn't help but secretly sigh
It is easy not to lose color and disjoint in times of crisis, and it is difficult not to be proud when you are proud, but Lady Bian can do it.
Lady Ding was deposed and she succeeded her as the head of the chamber. Her own son Cao Pi was made crown prince, and some people came to congratulate her and suggested that she invite and reward everyone with great fanfare. Bian Shi said calmly, "The King of Wei established Cao Pi because he was the eldest of all his sons, and I am fortunate that I have not made any mistakes in the education of my children, what is worth celebrating, rewarding, and showing?"
People relayed this to Cao Cao, and Cao Cao said happily: "My Lady Bian does not lose her temper when she is angry, and does not lose her temper when she is happy, which is the most difficult thing for ordinary women to do!"
As we all know, at that time, the brothers Cao Pi and Cao Zhi formed gangs and factions for the position, and they made a lot of trouble. Both brothers were the biological sons of the Bian clan, and the Bian clan especially favored Cao Zhi, but she was not involved in the political struggle between the two sons, and did not do what Zheng Zhuanggong in the Spring and Autumn Period. This is mainly because she read a Microblog: "If you don't understand politics, you will suffer losses, and if you get involved in politics too deeply, you will suffer a big loss." ”
Mrs. Bian is open-minded and generous. After she ascended to the throne, Cao Cao entrusted all of his sons who had lost their mothers to the Bian clan to raise. Like her predecessor, Mrs. Ding, she treated these childless children equally with her own. When Lady Ding was in office, she did not treat Lady Bian's mother and son well. After Ding's layoff, Lady Bian did not remember the old evils, and whenever Cao Cao was away on business, she asked people to send something to Lady Ding; He also invited Ding Shi to his own home, let her sit in the main seat, and sat on the lower hand herself; When Ding Shi left, she also sent her out the door, just like when the two were colleagues. Ding Shi was a little too careless to go, saying: "I am a person who is unemployed after I am laid off, you are still so polite!"
Lady Bian became queen and still kept a low profile. She lives frugally, but she is not pretentious. She never wears gold and silver, red and green, the furniture in the house is painted black, the family is invited to be a guest without the taste of mountains and treasures, and the people under her eat without fish. Once Cao Cao got several precious jade pendants and asked Bian Hou to choose one of his own, and Bian chose a medium one. Cao Cao asked why, and Bian replied, "If I choose the superior, it is greed, and if I choose the inferior, it is contrived." So I chose to wait. ”
What makes Bian Hou higher than many of the current official grandmothers is that she can restrain her relatives. She specifically instructed her family not to do whatever she wanted outside, and not to expect to come here to ask for a reward. If you commit adultery, not only will I plead with you, but I will also ask for an extra degree of sin!
For ordinary people, she can take care of them compassionately. Every time she traveled with the army and saw the old man on the side of the road, she would stop the car, ask for warmth, and reward the silk veil. This is not a "political show", but because she is associated with her dead father by the old people, at which time she will cry and say: "It is a pity that my parents did not wait for this day!" Ding and Bian have different personalities, but they have their commonalities: they are not hypocritical and clever women, they are all true temperament and love. Cao Cao's ability to achieve great things is not unrelated to the dedication of the two of them. Both of their surnames provided convenience for Cao Cao: when he encountered the "family" column that filled out various forms, when Liu Bei was still there pouting his ass and writing "Mi" and "孫", Cao Cao had already completed the matter.