Wu Shuhua (pseudonym) of Jin'an District, Fuzhou City, has been married to her husband Chen Jing (pseudonym) for 38 years. But more than 20 years ago, the couple quarreled endlessly over a estrangement, and even separated, and the source of the estrangement was related to a woman.
The wife claims that her husband has an affair that has led to a marital crisis
Wu Shuhua is 63 years old this year, and her husband Chen Jing is 60 years old.
The two were married in 1983 in free love.
He had a son after marriage.
At the beginning of the marriage, the feelings of the two were sweet and harmonious.
But more than 20 years ago,
The intimate action of the husband when taking a picture with a woman,
Let Wu Shuhua feel bad.
Wu Shuhua told reporters,
In the photo, Chen Jing intimately hugged the woman
His name is Yun Qing (pseudonym),
A native of Fuzhou, he is about 60 years old this year.
Wu Shuhua recalled that as early as more than 20 years ago,
She found that her husband and Yun Qing were intimate.
Because of this one photo,
Wu Shuhua had an argument with her husband, Chen Jing.
But at that time, considering the family and the children,
Wu Shuhua still chose to give Chen Jing another chance,
But it wasn't long before the two returned in touch.
Wu Shuhua: I hope that my husband will return to the family
Wu Shuhua said,
I still hope to be able to pass mediation
Persuade your husband to accept his heart and return to the family.
In Wu Shuhua's own hardware store,
The mediation team met with Chen Jing.
Chen Jing explained,
He and Yun Qing are just normal friends.
Mediator: Marriage should maintain an appropriate distance from the opposite sex
Chen Jing always insisted that there was no excessive intimacy between himself and Yunqing, and the mediator Fat Sister advised Chen Jing that as a husband, in addition to maintaining a proper distance from the opposite sex during the marriage, he should also give his wife a full sense of security.
Wu Shuhua told the mediation team that Yun Qing often went to eat in his shop and interacted closely with Chen Jing in front of himself and his friends.
Chen Jing does not believe that there is a problem with his interaction with Yunqing, and he also told the mediation team that his wife and Yunqing occasionally play mahjong together.
Wu Shuhua's words seem to be full of entanglements, in order to take care of the so-called face and maintain family harmony, she chose to be patient in the marriage relationship. However, because she felt that her family status was threatened, she could not accept the contact between her husband and Yunqing.
Mediator: The wife should defend her rights and interests and defend the status of the family
Mediator Fat Sister
As a wife, in a family, you must know how to protect your rights and interests and assert your identity. You should tell her "you can't do this to my husband in the future".
After the fat sister reminded Wu Shuhua, the problem returned to the fundamental contradiction between the couple again. The mediation team found that Chen Jing's previous explanations were not convincing, so it once again reminded Chen Jing to be honest.
Chen Jing confessed that he had been in contact with Yun Qing
Chen Jing admitted that he had a brief relationship with Yun Qing for a while, but that was twenty or thirty years ago, and now that he was lost, he also hoped that by apologizing, his wife would give him another chance to reform himself.
Wu Shuhua is willing to give Chen Jing another chance to reform, but only if she hopes that Chen Jing and Yun Qing will not have any more contact.
Husband and wife have been separated for more than ten years, and the repair of feelings has become a problem
Wu Shuhua agrees with Fat Sister's suggestion, so aside from the past emotional entanglements, how to repair the relationship between the husband and wife has become the most critical thing at present.
It is understood that in the past ten years, Wu Shuhua has lived alone in her 75-square-meter resettlement house in Xiangyu Jiayuan, but because she has a heart for her husband, she is reluctant to move back to live with him.
Fat Sister suggested that Wu Shuhua put aside the past and return to Wang Zhuang's home to live with her husband and son. But Wu Shuhua was hesitant because of her husband's love of drinking.
On the issue of drinking, the mediation team can see that this is an excuse that Wu Shuhua chose to avoid living together.
Mediator: Repair your relationship before you live under the same roof
After several detailed persuasions, Wu Shuhua no longer insisted on separating. However, considering that the couple has been separated for a long time, it is inevitable that it will be embarrassing to suddenly live together again, so fat sister suggested that both parties give each other a buffer period.
After this mediation, the couple's many years of heart knots can also be regarded as an explanation, the mediation team believes that as long as the future of hard work, the marriage between the two parties will be able to return to the right track as soon as possible and regain the warmth of the past.