The sayings have been circulated for a long time, saying that people are sophisticated, and the Tao is complex in human nature, because it is closely related to life, so it makes us feel that it has practical significance and role in reading. It can be said that experience is enough to give us guidance and confusion in life.
Today, we will explore a common saying: "Relatives are only afraid of their relatives being poor, and neighbors are only afraid of their neighbors being rich." This sentence is very profound in that it illustrates the complexity of human nature, which is selfish and ugly. The transgressions of human nature have this common denominator.
First of all, let's say the first half of the sentence: "Relatives are only afraid of relatives being poor", this sentence does not mean that relatives are very kind in heart, always concerned about other relatives, worried that they are too poor to live a long time. In fact, the emphasis is on the hypocrisy, selfishness and ugly behavior of relatives.
"Everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, who cares about the frost on the tiles of others", as long as they have a good life, more is better than less, eat a piece of meat to close the door, buy valuables and hide, afraid of accidentally letting relatives see, knowing that their own family is solid, the days are rich and oily.
What is so hidden is that they are afraid that if they are rich, other poor relatives will come to their own trouble, or borrow money, or ask for help, or ask for something valuable.
Why is it that people are so selfish and worried that poor relatives will come to find trouble?
There is an old saying: "If you borrow and repay, it is not difficult to borrow again." If you borrow it and don't pay it back, it will be difficult to borrow it again. "That is to say, some poor relatives do not pay credit, borrow things and do not repay, the last time they borrowed did not repay, this time they want to borrow, poor relatives are the bottomless pit that cannot be filled."
This shows the reason for being afraid of the poverty of relatives: On the one hand, rich relatives are selfish and selfish, some of them are suspicious of the poor and love the rich, and they are unwilling to help their poor relatives without compensation; on the other hand, some of those poor relatives are "broken and broken", desperate, disregarding their faces, and not thinking of making progress, they think of rich relatives going to take white occupation, begging for money, and willingly degenerating.
In fact, as a rich relative, we must talk about the affection of blood thicker than water, after all, relatives are relatives, broken bones and tendons, they are rich, they should not forget the beauty of the past between relatives, appropriate help and support, maybe let relatives lift their spirits, and begin to work hard to get rich.
In this way, generosity can be tolerated, as the ancients said: "The poor are good at their own, and the poor relatives who are good at the world" are also natural.
Maybe in the future, I will encounter all kinds of difficulties, and I will also need those poor relatives to take the lead. Everyone you help me, I help you, help each other, and the days are getting better and better.
For poor relatives, if someone is kind and kind to help, they should cherish it very much, and from then on, they should get rid of the bad problems of eating and laziness, formulate a plan to get rich, implement it down-to-earth, and with the help of rich relatives, soar to the sky, they also raise their eyebrows and breathe, straighten their waists and be people.
Look at the second half of the sentence: "Neighbors are only afraid of their neighbors being rich." ”
Why are neighbors afraid of their neighbors getting rich? This has something to do with the comparison psychology of human nature.
Many neighbors are not morally cultivated enough, and their jealousy is relatively strong. When they see that others are good and others are good, they envy and hate, and their psychology is seriously unbalanced, so they toss and turn and find it difficult to sleep. Therefore, the neighbors are rich, which is a torture for their narrow-minded people.
"Neighbors are only afraid of their neighbors being rich", that is to say, in the past, neighbors on the left and right, everyone had similar economic conditions, and they were at peace with each other. Suddenly found that some neighbors are rich, everyone has a sense of gap, can no longer you come and go, intimate and warm. The gap between the rich and the poor has become a chasm between neighbors that is difficult to cross.
Li Wenfu is a teacher and is a neighbor of Liu Guomin's family. Suddenly, one day, Liu Guomin found that Li Wenfu's family had developed, bought a car worth 800,000 yuan, and built a building.
Liu Guomin was suddenly mentally unbalanced, and some gritted teeth said to himself: "Alas, you, a teacher Li Wenfu, how can you find a way to make money without making a sound, and still hide and hide, make a fortune alone, and say nothing to your good friends?" So he never went to Li Wenfu's house again. Teacher Li Wenfu told him to go, and he did not go.
However, the son of Liu Guomin's family always ran to Teacher Li Wenfu's house, and he could not stop him. Later, Liu Guomin's son suddenly bought a car and wanted to build a new house.
Under careful inquiry, Liu Guomin learned that the original teacher Li Wenfu was usually hidden, but in private he was a powerful literary creator, writing TV series and earning tens of millions of yuan in remuneration. The son loved literature, always went to his home to ask for advice, and even wrote a TV series, successfully sold, and made millions of yuan.
Since then, Liu Guomin has looked at his neighbor Teacher Li Wenfu with admiration, sincerely expressed his admiration, and took the initiative to reconcile with Teacher Li Wenfu, and the relationship between the two families returned to the same harmony as before.
It can be seen that neighbors do not have to compare themselves with each other. If the rich party has made a fortune, if you don't forget your neighbors and friends in the past, you should stretch out your hand in time to help your neighbors, be as open-minded and generous as Teacher Li Wenfu, cross your own heart, help your neighbors progress, you can have long-term contacts with your neighbors and be a good friend forever.
And the neighbors who are lagging behind should not be jealous that the neighbors are rich, as once good friends, their excellence, successful development, worthy of their own applause and cheers;
They have given themselves a good start, become their own inspirational growth model, they should let go of all concerns, no longer slack, ask more neighbors and friends for advice, catch up, and create brilliance again.
In short, whether it is relatives or friends, it is expensive to "share the blessings and share the difficulties", and there is a human touch of mutual help and mutual assistance.
As long as there is more understanding and mutual honesty, then everyone can work together to go to the poetic distance of wealth and well-being and auspiciousness. (Author: Shi Jian)