I know that there is a sentence on the top that has aroused heated discussion: the really powerful people have long quit their emotions.
The well-known actor Yang Mi confessed in an interview in his early years: I am a person who is quite cruel to myself. And the first thing that gets is emotion.
She said: "I quit my emotions earlier. "
Good emotions can improve the quality of life, while bad emotions can ruin a person's life. Therefore, learning to control and manage your emotions is one of the compulsory courses in life.
The British writer Jane Austen said that the result of impatience only makes what should be done not done well.
This view is amply demonstrated in her book Sense and Sensibility. The novel creates a gentle and dignified female figure, she is calm and rational, does not use her mind, knows how to hide her complex emotions, and restrains the emotional changes in her heart.
Eleanor, knowing that the man she loved dearly had been married to someone else for four years, endured her inner pain, suppressed the emotional outburst, and continued to take care of her sister Marianne, who was abandoned by her lover.
The main line of the story is based on the bumpy love between Eleanor and Marianne sisters, the former is good at using reason, while the latter is more emotional, and they have different approaches to marital love under different personalities, and the most fortunate thing is that the sisters are both happy.
Familiar with Jane Austen, this great female writer had the love of her life when she was young, but unfortunately, under the pressure of reality and the times, this love eventually inevitably died out, and she herself never married.
Jane's sister was also deeply saddened by the sudden death of her fiancé, and she also chose to live alone and spend the rest of her life with Jane.
Perhaps to make up for the regrets of life, or to give herself a happy ending, Jane Austen's novels always have fruits and wishes, and the women she writes are independent and brave, blooming and growing with the most beautiful posture.
Behind the discussion of the love between men and women, the book is actually a deep analysis of mature and healthy partnerships. Marianne blindly pursues romance, immerses herself in the love words divorced from real life, has no rational thinking ability, and finally is deceived and abandoned by her loved ones, unable to accept this result, she almost died under the control of emotions.
In the process of getting acquainted with Edward, Eleanor gradually fell in love with this kind and responsible young man, but before the other party gave a clear response, she did not exert pressure on the person she loved, ensured her dignity and posture, and even if she was in pain, she still treated life positively.
As Rousseau said: The person who lives the most meaningful life is not the person who lives the longest, but the person who feels the most about life.
The world is uncertain, the world is troubled, if the attention is only in the cold and warm of human feelings, passing by in a hurry, the mood can only cover the haze, ignoring the real happiness and happiness in life, you may wish to learn to empty your heart, in order to usher in a new life.
Man's greatest stupidity: to do things according to his mood
The Eleanor family had lived a wealthy and dignified life, but it all ended with the death of their father, leaving a huge inheritance inherited by his ex-wife's son, John, because the family had only daughters.
At the instigation of his wife, John broke his father's oath of commitment, received very little money from the Eleanor sisters and their mother every year, and took possession of the manor. In desperation, they moved to a simple house in the countryside, and their lives were barely sustainable.
Here, seventeen-year-old Marianne meets the humorous and handsome Willoughby, a man who impresses her with romantic love words but never makes it clear that he loves her.
Meanwhile, Colonel Brandon is genuinely in love with Marianne, a man of good character who has a deep hostility towards Willoughby—his first love left a daughter after the death of his first love, and Brandon has been raising the girl for more than a decade, but Willoughby lures the fourteen-year-old flower girl into becoming pregnant and ruthlessly abandons her.
Obviously, the romantic love that Mary envisions in her heart is destined to be a deception, and she will eventually be deceived by the person she loves.
In this way, she saw Willoughby's fiancée, an extremely wealthy woman, at a ball in London.
When the beautiful fantasies and the expectations of retention completely collapsed, Marianne fell into endless pain, and the rumors that she had been privately determined to live with a man for life but were tragically abandoned spread throughout everyone's mouth. In the rainy weather, she was cold in the rain, infected with pneumonia and almost died.
According to Anthony Robin, "The secret of success is to know how to control the power of pain and pleasure without being countered by it." "
It is undeniable that everyone has emotions, but smart people know how to suppress this emotion and not be a slave to emotions. Eleanor's heart is full of fierce love for Edward, and when she hears that Lucy and Edward have been privately committed to life four years ago, she restrains her emotions and promises to keep the secret.
During this time, Eleanor's family assumed that they had a secret heart for each other, tacitly accepting that Edward was her lover. Under these pressures, she hid her pain, took care of her sister who was still in love, and maintained the reputation and dignity of the family.
Today, more and more people pursue spiritual happiness and support the attitude of "life is short, happy in time", but "being yourself" is not arbitrary, and the free lifestyle is not synonymous with sinking emotions.
Most of the time, we just look for excuses for our laziness.
I have seen such a sentence: the weak do everything at will, and the strong step by step firmly.
Letting go of your emotions will only ruin our lives, and learning to manage emotions can really solve the problems that are happening in the moment, learn to love yourself, and start by controlling your emotions.
Live this life well: have good character
Edward was born into an aristocracy, but he did not like the high-class life of the high-ranking official Houlu, but instead longed for the simple and fulfilling ordinary days in the countryside, and he fell deeply in love with Eleanor after meeting her, but the ignorance of his youth made him privately and Lucy have already made a lifelong agreement.
In fact, he can break his promise and pursue true love. Countless times Edward wanted to tell Eleanor about his love, but he chose to give up in contradictions and pain.
The family arranged for him to be a noble lady, but in order to fulfill his promise, he insisted on marrying Lucy against his mother's wishes, and thus lost the right to inherit the inheritance.
The famous philosopher Franklin said: I have never seen a diligent and honest man who rises early to complain about bad fate; good character, good habits, and strong will will not be defeated by the assumption of so-called fate.
If Edward, on the grounds of his young ignorance, abandons his fiancée and turns to Eleanor, the result may not be good.
At the end of the story, Lucy leaves Edward because he has no property to inherit. The lovers who fell in love finally managed to heal, and Marianne gradually fell in love with Brandon's maturity, and they also moved towards a beautiful marriage.
Confucius said: "Both ability and political integrity, led by virtue." "
When character and talent complement each other, they go higher and farther. Edward's good character made Colonel Brandon offer him a position, and Willoughby, though talented, was defeated by a despicable character, and his ending was naturally unfortunate.
In the second half of life, cultivate virtue and control emotions, so that life can be smoother and happier, may we all get out of the bitterness and look at the warm sun.
Encourage with the King.
Text: Qianya