Fidelity is the first element of love and marriage, and smart people don't throw it away easily because they understand what to do and what not to do. But in the face of the pressure of work, the responsibility of raising children, and the temptation of outsiders, many people always like to stomp on loyalty and trample on it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="2" > 37-year-old man and 29-year-old woman </h1>
Xu Qingshu, 37 years old this year, a native of Anhui, married and had children with his wife, had a son and a daughter, and lived a very happy life. In the eyes of his relatives and friends, Xu Qingshu is a good man who takes care of his family, he lives separately from his wife in order to support his family, and works two jobs a day, but he never complains or complains.
During the day, Xu Qingshu goes to work at nine o'clock in the morning and leaves at six o'clock in the afternoon. In the evening, Xu Qingshu went to work at seven o'clock and could not leave work until one o'clock in the morning. In order to save rent and spend money on his wife and children, Xu Qingshu can only lie in the van to rest, or spend the night in the Internet café, which is Xu Qingshu's life, simple and boring, and the life of normal people is very different.
It was not until the appearance of a woman that Xu Qingshu's peaceful life was completely broken. This person, li lili, is 29 years old and works in the same logistics company as Xu Qingshu. Due to the relationship at work, the two slowly developed feelings and lived together. But Li Lili is very clear that Xu Qingshu is not single, he has a wife and children.
At the beginning, Li Lili lived far away from the company, and it took Xu Qingshu a long time to meet her. In order to facilitate communication, Xu Qingshu rented a standard room for Li Lili next to the company, and after work, he went directly to Li Lili to rest, no longer needing to hide in trucks and Internet cafes.
Perhaps because of the relationship between work, Xu Qingshu and Li Lili lived together for a year, and his wife did not notice his abnormality at all. This made Xu Qingshu smug and satisfied with such a home-based life. But the occurrence of an incident reversed things, and Xu Qingshu was also deeply imprisoned.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > girlfriends go on late-night dates with other men </h1>
One morning, Xu Qingshu and Li Lili quarreled over trivial matters, slammed the door and left in anger, threatening not to come back in the future. But after work in the early morning, Xu Qingshu thought about going and decided to apologize to Li Lili. He didn't want to lose this hard-won relationship, he was willing to lose his dignity and please her.
Coming to the door of Li Lili's room, Xu Qingshu rhythmically rang three times, which was the secret code for Xu Qingshu and Li Lili to agree on opening the door, and no one opened the door. But he looked into the house through the cat's eye, saw that there was light in the house, and was sure that there was someone inside. When he called Li Lili, no one answered, and the lights in the house were turned off.
What made Xu Qingshu even more unacceptable was that he heard a man's voice. Annoyed and angry, Xu Qingshu directly kicked the door open, looking for the man's figure. In the toilet, under the bed, under the table, he looked for it, but he didn't find any figure. At that moment, Xu Qingshu thought that he was hallucinating, and it was he who misunderstood Li Lili.
But in the process, Li Lili grabbed Xu Qingshu's arm and repeatedly stressed that she was the only one in the house, which made Xu Qingshu suspicious again. Xu Qingshu did not believe this statement that there was no silver in this place. He broke free of Li Lili and went straight to the balcony to find a young man hiding there.
Enraged, the two wrestled together, causing the young man to accidentally fall from the building. As a result, it is conceivable that Xu Qingshu was imprisoned, and Li Lili repented that she did not expect that things would develop to this point. Perhaps from beginning to end, Li Lili only regarded the relationship between the two as a tool for spiritual comfort.
This scene occurred in a three-story building, where the landlord separated the commercial house into several small rooms, renovated it, and rented it out to migrant workers. Therefore, in the eyes of neighbors and tenants, Li Lili and Xu Qingshu are lovers, but they did not expect that this was not the case.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="15" > she is also a poor person </h1>
Like Xu Qingshu, Li Lili has her own family, but she is a poor person. Living with Xu Qingshu for a year, Li Lili did not hide the fact that she had a husband. Li Lili and her husband have been separated for a long time, she stayed in Shanghai to work, and her husband lives in his hometown, only coming to Shanghai twice a year.
Li Lili admitted that she and Xu Qingshu lived together because of her husband's physical defects. Li Lili hoped that her husband would tell her in-laws the truth, but her husband felt that he had no face and was unwilling to tell the truth. She asked her husband to come to Shanghai to see a doctor, but was refused because he only wanted to buy home remedies online, but there was no effect at all.
Because of this matter, Li Lili often quarreled with her husband, and she once filed for divorce, but was rejected by her husband. Therefore, for this relationship, Li Lili did not have the slightest guilt for her husband. Their marriage has long since died in name only, and the two have no feelings, but only try to maintain the relationship between the parents.
Li Lili regretted all this and repeatedly stressed that she was an ordinary friend with the young man named Wang Haitao. On that day, the two had just quarreled, and Li Lili thought that Xu Qingshu would not come over at night, so she and Wang Haitao talked about work in the room, but she did not expect Xu Qingshu to be so grumpy.
In fact, Li Lili was very panicked at that time, there was another man in the room, she was worried that Xu Qingshu had broken in, it was reasonable to say, not to mention that the man in the room did not let her open the door? When Xu Qingshu knocked on the door, Li Lili repeatedly asked Wang Mingtao to calm down, and she told Xu Qingshu that it would be fine. But Wang Mingtao didn't believe it, he only knew to hide, because he ended up like this.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" > the sadness of the couple</h1>
In this tragedy, Xu Qingshu, Li Lili, and Wang Mingtao were all at fault. Xu Qingshu already has a wife and children, originally he was also working hard for his family, but now because of Li Lili, let the years of hard work fall short, it is a pity, people helpless and heartbroken.
Xu Qingshu and Li Lili lived a life outside the home, without the slightest consideration for the feelings of their wives and children, which may be related to the pressure of life he has been under. For Xu Qingshu's approach, we can understand, but understanding does not mean support. Their relationship is a blasphemy against marriage, and such a tragedy would not have happened if the relationship had been severed as soon as possible, or if the relationship had not been started.
Li Lili's husband has a physical defect and cannot live a normal married life, and her husband is unwilling to divorce, which is distressing, but this cannot be the reason for Li Lili to intervene in other people's marriages. Because from beginning to end, Li Lili and Xu Qingshu were a wrong start.
After being with Xu Qingshu, Li Lili was with other men in the middle of the night. According to the logic of normal people's thinking, Xu Qingshu will definitely suspect that this is a matter of reproach. In the final analysis, it is all because Li Lili is unfaithful to love and marriage.
Wang Mingtao knew Li Lili's feelings with Xu Qingshu, but he dated Li Lili late at night, which had to make people doubt his original intentions. Especially for Xu Qingshu's knocking on the door, it can only show that he is weak-minded, so Li Lili's statement about the relationship between the two is not credible.
Strictly speaking, Xu Qingshu and Li Lili are not together because of love, they are more like a couple. In order to raise children and subsidize their families, they have been separated from their lovers for many years, and because of their spiritual emptiness, they rent, cook, and live with others.
However, this relationship is contrary to law and morality, and we do not advocate it, and we recommend that you end this relationship as soon as possible. Because when love and marriage lose the flood of fidelity, their respective disasters will follow like a flood, causing disasters that no one can bear.
But it is no longer important to discuss what is right and wrong, what is important is our attitude toward marriage in the future. In love and marriage, we must shoulder our due responsibilities, otherwise it will only lead to tragedy. The reason why Xu Qingshu and Li Lili came to this step was because they lost their loyalty to the marriage.
It's just that everyone understands the big truth, and when it comes to this kind of thing, everyone has a different answer. Some people are addicted to it, can't help themselves, and only regard love and marriage as playthings. Some people directly say no to external feelings, and never give each other a hint of illusion, which is the best choice.
When you encounter this kind of thing, how do you choose? Is it to abandon the family for a moment of pleasure, or to take on the responsibility of caring for the family from the beginning? We hope you choose the latter, which can bring you real happiness.