Whether it's dealing with other people or dealing with feelings, we all want to be able to associate with someone with good character.
Because a person's good character means that he will not be extremely selfish when doing things, will not only consider his own interests, ignore others, and even meet his own interests and needs under the premise of harming the interests of others.
Dealing with people with bad character, no matter what we do, will be afraid, because we don't know when we will be calculated by the other party.
This is especially true in gender relationships that are more intimate than interpersonal relationships, especially for women, because they are mainly emotional thinking, it is easy to blindly invest in a relationship.
Therefore, it will mean that they sacrifice more, if they do not pay attention to the character of men when choosing love, then they will suffer more pain from the relationship between the sexes.
Therefore, this requires women to choose more than business when facing marriage problems, and must polish their eyes.
In marriage, some women will become ugly, and some will become more and more beautiful
If we pay attention, we will find that the women in life who step into marriage will show a polarizing trend after marriage.
One is getting better and better, and the other is getting "ugly".
The reason for these two phenomena is that one is marital happiness and the other is marital unhappiness.
A study by Stanford University in the United States found that women who are often plagued by depressive emotions in their daily lives have a physiological age of 6 years older than their peers.
This is mainly due to the fact that when people are unhappy, they will produce depressed emotions, and these negative emotions will prompt the body to release a large amount of cortisol, causing damage to the immune system and human organs, thereby accelerating aging, and this effect is more obvious in women.
Unhappy marriage can make people have negative emotions, so women will let themselves age and make themselves "ugly" because of cortisol produced by negative emotions.
In a marriage relationship, the happiness that a woman can experience needs to be given by a man, but a man with bad character either does not understand this truth, or understands and is not willing to pay.
Therefore, the sense of experience that women get in marriage is completely two states, and it will only show two trends of beauty and ugliness.
Marriage is good or not, the woman's "face" knows
Some people say that a woman's face has traces of age, and there are also traces of men who love her or not.
At first I didn't believe this sentence, and then when I saw the marital status of actress Alyssa Jia, I believed it.
At that time, because of starring in the TV series "Yitian Slaughter dragon" in Zhao Min, Jia Jingwen was extremely popular, however, just when she was at the peak of her career, she chose to get married, and the result was Sun Zhihao, who was not optimistic about many people, at that time, Jia Jingwen did not think so much, and felt that this relationship should be beautiful.
However, after marriage, Sun Zhihao ate, drank and gambled without evil, also domestic violence, and repeatedly wore out scandals, during that time, Jia Jingwen had to deal with divorce, but also had to bear psychological pressure, the whole person looked very haggard, appeared in the public view for a while as if she was more than ten years old, did not see the eccentric Zhao Min at all.
After four years of divorce, Jia Jingwen met Xiu Jiekai, the two are sister and brother love, the difference is eight years old, but Xiu Jiekai is mature and stable, and has a sense of responsibility, he put Jia Jingwen in his heart and loved, only her in his eyes, Xiu Jie appeared so that Jia Jingwen understood what it was like to be loved.
At this time, Jia Jingwen, appearing in the public eye, is always happy and the years are quiet, and the haggard of the year is not seen between the eyebrows, and some are just the happiness and beauty wrapped in love.
A man of good character understands what a sense of responsibility is and understands how to love a person, so in marriage they can also better pay and better manage this relationship.
And in the woman who is wrapped in love, the heart slowly only has happiness, born from the heart, reflected in the face, will only be beautiful and moving.
In marriage, a man's character is very important
In a relationship, the character of men is very important, those unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, and happy marriages are similar, that is, men have a sense of responsibility and can give women the happiness they want.
Emotional writer Lu Qi once said: "The more a man gives to a woman, the more women will worship and love him; men will go higher and farther with the support and companionship of women, and women will trust and rely on him more and more." ”
Good marriages are always mutual, one person walks through, and what one person can manage is never love.
Only when one person knows the cold and knows the heat, and the other person is wrapped in love, with positive psychological cues to manage each other's feelings, so that the marriage will develop in a good direction.
Therefore, for marriage, the choice is always greater than the operation, to maintain sanity, not hot head.
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Author | Psychological counselor Fu Dongsheng
The main writer of love and marriage psychology | Use psychology to analyze love, marriage, and life
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