The times are changing, people's ideas are also constantly changing, from the older generation of people to raise children to prevent the elderly, how good it is to have more children, to the post-80s, post-90s are more and more reluctant to have more children, just want to take advantage of the young to live a quality life, whether to have children or not, to have several children, is everyone's own choice of life, people with children can enjoy the joy of the world, people without children can also live a wonderful life.
The famous linguist Xu Guozhang lived to be 79 years old, childless and childless in his life, but it did not affect the happiness of his marriage with his wife, Ms. Huang Huairen, who relied on each other, worked together to grow old, and wrote a beautiful love story in the fireworks life. Although he was lonely under his knees, Xu Guozhang, as a well-known professor, was all over the world, and his life was full and happy.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > was born in Haining, a brilliant city, and has had a great talent for English since childhood</h1>
Haining, Zhejiang, since ancient times, has been a place of heavenly treasures and outstanding spirits, and the female lyricist Zhu Shuzhen of the Song Dynasty, the master of traditional Chinese studies Wang Guowei, the martial arts novelist Jin Yong, and the romantic poet Xu Zhimo are all from Haining, Zhejiang. Haining, also the hometown of Xu Guozhang, was born in 1915 in Haining, Zhejiang Province.
At the age of six, Xu Guozhang entered a private school, where the gentleman was a man with new ideas, not only teaching children Mandarin, but also arithmetic. Xu Guozhang was most impressed by an experiment he did, making a balloon out of paper and putting candles in it, but the balloon flew more than five feet high in the air and burned. Although the experiment failed, the teacher did not feel ashamed, but used this incident to let the children understand a principle of being a person:
"Most experiments, most of them will fail, there will be less success, and after the wind has stopped, you can try again."
The new word "experiment" makes Xu Guozhang remember it vividly. In the private school, reading and memorizing texts is a daily homework, and compared with the incomprehensible pre-Qin ancient texts, Xu Guozhang prefers the works of famous Tang and Song masters.
Once, a couplet read on the wall made Xu Guozhang feel pleasing to the eye:
"Good birds are also friends, and falling flowers and water surfaces are articles."
The birds with gentle singing voices on the branches are our friends, and the falling flowers floating on the water are the most beautiful articles. The novel enlightenment education allows the young Xu Guozhang to appreciate the beauty of what is the realm of language, not focusing on the meaning of a single word and sentence, but starting from the artistic conception of the entire sentence to appreciate the beauty brought by language, which is Xu Guozhang's unique experience in learning.
In 1927, at the age of 12, Xu Guozhang entered Jiaxing Xiuzhou Middle School, which was run by the church, and the principal was a person of insight who returned from studying abroad. The school's school philosophy is also very novel, there are chemistry experimental classes, when the chemistry teacher is in class, he also explains in English, although the students do not understand, but they are very happy to listen.
Junior high school has six English classes a week, the English teacher will take the students to read fifty or sixty pages of English original works in a semester, because the class is greedy, the teacher named but can not memorize the text, during the winter vacation, the teacher said to Xu Guozhang:
"When the spring semester starts, you will be punished for memorizing ten pages in a row."
Xu Guozhang was not frightened by these ten pages of books, the winter vacation at home idle, he took out the book to read, at first completely could not understand, but the book read a hundred times, its meaning is self-evident, once, twice, three times, quite a language talent Xu Guozhang, in the process of reading, slowly remembered the contents of the book in his heart.
At the beginning of the school, the teacher had not forgotten, and deliberately asked Xu Guozhang if he remembered the ten-page covenant a few years ago, and as a result, Xu Guozhang stood up and recited five pages in one breath, and the teacher was so shocked that he even said enough was enough, sit down. Through the silent efforts of a winter vacation, Xu Guozhang opened his mouth into a chapter, which surprised everyone and showed his outstanding talent in learning English.
Just began to read English masterpieces, because the amount of words is not enough, Xu Guozhang is also two eyes and a black, except for the illustrations in the book, can not understand anything, but he does not retreat, he with his newborn calf is not afraid of the tiger's ambition, is bound to learn some achievements:
"Self-study is possible, and reading big books abroad is not enough to be afraid of."
At the age of 15, Xu Guozhang entered the Attached Middle School of Soochow University, and when he graduated from high school, his academic performance was the first in the whole year, and he could enter Soochow University for free, but he gave up this opportunity and was admitted to the Department of Management of Shanghai Jiao Tong University, and then into the Department of Foreign Languages of Tsinghua University.
After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Xu Guozhang followed the migration of the school, traveled to Changsha and Kunming to study, and studied under famous artists such as Yan Busun and Qian Zhongshu, leaving a unique life memory:
"From this time to the summer of 1939, li nanyue, Mengzi, and Kunming, lived the last two years of university life, listened to Yan Busun in the third grade, studied with Mr. Qian Zhongshu in the fourth grade, and has been a disciple to this day."
In 1939, Xu Guozhang graduated from the Department of Foreign Languages of Southwest United University and taught at the Department of Foreign Languages of Shanghai Jiao Tong University and Fudan University. After his "Xu Guozhang English" was published in 1963, it was popular for more than 30 years. Whether it's studying, working or immigrating, people who go abroad will bring this English textbook that is most suitable for adults to learn by themselves.
Once, Xu Guozhang went to Europe to give a lecture and dined at a Chinese restaurant in Luxembourg, and as soon as the boss heard that the person who came to eat in his restaurant was Xu Guozhang, he shouted "teacher" when he went forward, but Xu Guozhang was puzzled:
"I don't remember having a student like you?"
The boss explains:
"I'm not the only one, everyone in our hotel has learned English from Xu Guozhang English, so why aren't you our teacher?"
After Xu Guozhang listened, he laughed heartily.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > childless and childless all his life, accompanied by his wife, and hand in hand to grow old</h1>
Although Xu Guozhang is proficient in English and has studied in Britain for many years, he does not approve of the Chinese people staying overseas for a long time, because he feels that people abroad have an indomitable sense of superiority, and if they have to stay abroad, it is both disregard for the national character and their own personality.
Xu Guozhang loved literature, thin and long, his well-defined face often wore a pair of glasses, he liked to read Shelley's poetry the most, plus he himself was also very poetic, and won a nickname of "Shelley" in school.
Xu Guozhang, who is talented and quite a poet, has a very simple and simple life, he has invested his life's energy into the cause of education, accompanied by his wife Ms. Huang Huairen for a lifetime, rough tea and light rice but contented and happy, lifeless and childless, but the husband and wife have a harmonious relationship, white head and old age, living a very happy and happy life.
Xu Guozhang was accustomed to a simple life, and when he was teaching at the University of Chinese outside Beijing, he and his wife had been living in the old house of the school, because of the age, the door of the house had become a dull dark red under the sunlight, and the light in the long corridor had become a little dim along with the old color of the old house.
Xu Guozhang's favorite thing to do every day is to sit on the wooden chair in the study, reflecting the warm sunlight in the room, reading his favorite books, and writing his feelings.
Between husband and wife, the most important thing is mutual respect and mutual understanding, and the feelings of his wife Huang Huairen and Xu Guozhang are reflected in every little detail in life. Knowing that Xu Guozhang works at home, Huang Huairen is afraid of disturbing him, when a guest comes to the house, she will always put an alarm clock next to her to remind herself and the guests not to talk too long, so as not to affect Xu Guozhang's work.
Every time at this time, Xu Guozhang was playing with his heart, deliberately joking with his wife, taking advantage of her inattention to turn off the alarm clock, and after a long time the alarm clock did not ring, Huang Huairen found that it was Xu Guozhang, who was not yet a child, who was tricking the ghost. In the face of Xu Guozhang, who was still so childish, Huang Huairen could only smile.
Although the knees are lonely, but the husband and wife two people care for each other, but also the days have a tasteful, emotional and interesting, Xu Guozhang's living habits, only Huang Huairen knows best, Xu Guozhang has rheumatic foot disease for many years, this is Huang Huairen's heart has been at ease, Xu Guozhang every day after dinner to take a nap, so this time must keep the absolute quiet of the home.
Huang Huairen's preferences are only understood by Xu Guozhang. Huang Huairen did not like to take a plane, Xu Guozhang fantasized, waiting for the undersea tunnel to open, he took his wife from Beijing to take a train, all the way to Cambridge, where he had studied.
Xu Guozhang's circle of friends is also very simple, he and Ji Xianlin are good friends for many years, the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and his favorite gift to his friends is the Dutch beans he grows in his small garden at home. In the eyes of the two old friends, there is no more representative of deep friendship than this fattest and most tender Dutch bean, and Ji Xianlin, who received the gift, was also very happy, and felt that there was no word to describe this special delicacy:
"These Hollandaise beans, which were still rare at the time, what it tasted to chew in my mouth, contained mellow friendship, and to use ordinary words to describe, what is "delicious" and what is "crisp and tender", is not enough. Only the mythical and legendary "Daigo" and the Sanskrit word "elixir of immortality" can be expressed in case. ”
Once, at the gate of Beiwai School, Xu Guozhang had a wonderful conversation with a master cobbler who set up a stall, which also showed what is the real style of everyone. The master cobbler heard of Xu Guozhang's name, but felt that the university professor did not make as much money as his own business, so he jokingly asked him:
"You may have been a famous professor known to everyone, but your monthly salary is less than my income for two or three days, how do you feel?"
Xu Guozhang did not get angry at all after listening to it, but replied very wisely, we all live by our own labor, there is no essential difference, if there is any difference, it is only the difference in aesthetic objects:
"As soon as you hammer down, you hit it accurately, you hit it firmly, and you get a sense of beauty." I read and write articles, get a good sentence, and I can be happy for several days. When we are truly engrossed in our work, you and I are pursuing the aesthetic pleasures that come with success. ”
In Xu Guozhang's eyes, whether it is a university professor or a stall owner, he relies on labor to get the harvest, there is no distinction between high and low, and the sense of achievement of the work is not distinguished by more money and less money, but by the beauty obtained from it to bring him spiritual enjoyment, which is why he loves knowledge and education so much. If he is obsessed with how much money he has, then his salary as a professor is not as good as that of a business boss, and where does happiness begin?
In 1994, Xu Guozhang, who had taught the world a career with Confucian style to solve his life, died of illness at home, although he had no children and no daughters, he was truly peach and plum all over the world, and his life was best described by a sentence given to him by students:
"There are feelings and essays that are beautiful, and they are not confused or true. The old spring of the tree is more deeply flowered, and the salary is like a fire in the dry. ”