Text/Mr. Big Ice
Before this video was posted, my wife and I had a big fight, and the floor was full of porcelain fragments of pots and pans, a mess, and I don't know why we can always argue about a small thing!
Until I thought about it for a few days and nights, I finally figured it out, you hear if this is the truth!
When the dog that bites people and chains it to the pillar, it can't bite people, but its chaotic roar and barking make the owner increase his vigilance and tie it tighter!
Marriage is the same, just like this pillar on the ground, two people tied together, fate is tied together, the more fiercely you quarrel, the tighter the rope, the more you will feel uncomfortable!
At this time, you will think about breaking free from this rope, and when you have a hard time breaking free, the owner will chain you to another dog, and it will not be long before you find out!
This dog is even more annoying than the previous one, the previous dog, at least will not grab dog food with you, and now this dog, in addition to biting like the previous one, still wants to grab food from your bowl!
I don't know if you can understand this, to put it simply, everything you have is matched with your value, including your other half, you should never dislike each other, because he is the embodiment of your value!
You hate him, you hate yourself, and only when your value rises to a high enough level is you qualified to say no, otherwise you are just unable to live with yourself!
When I was a child, my parents often quarreled, when they were serious, they fell pots and bowls, how to come fiercely, more than 30 years later, they are still together, and now they are still living very well!
Why not divorce, to put it bluntly, they don't have enough chips in each other's hands, and the common interests are too much involved, so they have been going down!
Therefore, in the marriage of two people, you must recognize yourself and put your position right. Consider the problem in multiple dimensions!
Running a marriage, in fact, is a secret, more from the perspective of the other party to consider the problem, you will find that many problems are just we complicated it!
As a man, there is no need to nag, you have pressure, you have emotions, you use it to make money, arguing itself is a very stupid thing!
In this matter, there will never be an absolute winner, some are just lose-lose, many of us, the reason why we fail to live, is because we habitually focus our attention on these meaningless things; worthless things, this is a big problem, to change!
Not to mention that two people who love each other, there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome, those old things, don't mention it again, mention it, it is a kind of harm to each of you!
You think he's doing something wrong, he thinks you're doing it wrong, in fact, many times things are not right or wrong, there are just different views of each other under different positions!