A man is willing to be bullied by you, not because he has no temper, but because he is willing to tolerate you.
But as the saying goes online: always keep the worst temper to the people closest to you, especially the man who treats you best.
"There is always no fear of being loved", perhaps our biggest mistake is to consume that special love at will.
01 His tolerance is not a reason for us to throw tantrums at will
Some time ago, I went back to my hometown in the countryside, waiting for the bus on the side of the road, and saw a couple who also rushed to catch the bus. And the car had already seen them, stopped there and waited.
The wife was carrying heavy things in both hands, and it seemed that she could not run fast and was struggling.
Her husband followed her, holding the child in one hand and holding nothing in the other.
The wife ran hard, accidentally twisted her foot, but it did not seem serious, she stopped for a moment and then went on, but before she could take a few steps, she threw all the things in her hands on the ground.
Potatoes and carrots were sprinkled on the ground, and it should have been that they came back to see the old man and took some vegetables from the house.
The wife looked angry: "You are a man, you don't know anything to help take, just pull the child, you take things yourself!" ”
After throwing her things away, she was the only one in the car.
Her husband followed up and said, "What are you angry about, I said you slow down, you are running so fast, I want to mention something and can't catch up." ”
Her husband was not angry, and while leisurely explaining comfort, he picked up vegetables on the ground. After picking up the bag, I put the bag in order and dragged the child to the car.
Generally speaking, no man likes his wife to lose his temper in front of outsiders, they will feel very faceless, but the husband does not seem to care about this, and sees that he is very accommodating to his wife.
But no one can stand a person who loses his temper regardless of the occasion, and many small things are completely time to go home and say that it is still possible to leave a little self-esteem for men.
Because of love, he is willing to tolerate, but sometimes, the more tolerant people are, the easier it is to be bullied, and the less likely it is to be treated well.
02 If a woman loses her temper at will, one day he will get bored too.
He loves you, but he also has times when he is vulnerable and there are times when he needs to be inclusive, and his love is not the sea that can make women squander.
Not being treated well, always being bullied, one day, he will be tired.
Love is long, needs to respond, needs care.
Neighbor Aunt Cai divorced last year. Her husband has always been very kind to her, how could she get divorced?
It turned out that she had been flipping through her husband's mobile phone, getting angry and quarreling every day out of nothing. Finally that day, his husband was determined to divorce her, he said, "I've had enough!" ”
Others went to persuade him not to divorce, he said, divorce is not just a matter of turning over the phone every day to get angry, but she never hurt him, married for more than ten years, Aunt Cai rarely cooks, even if his husband is sick, she also refuses to cook.
If she can't do it, she will call for takeout, and his husband is reluctant to spend money, and he has to serve his wife while taking medicine. As he spoke, he cried and said, "My heart is cold!" ”
He can tolerate Aunt Cai's laziness, he can tolerate Aunt Cai's bad temper, but he also has times when he can't digest so many bad emotions. Men need to find a considerate wife to get married, not to be looking for abuse.
A famous person once said that love without friendship is difficult to last. The so-called friendship is to care, help, love, rather than you blindly take, he blindly give.
03 Start caring for the person who loves you from the bits and pieces of life
Marriage is a bunch of daily chores, chai rice oil and salt, chicken and garlic skin, deal with these small things, marriage problems will be much less.
He came back from a day's work and wanted you to pour him a cup of hot water; when he was unhappy, he wanted you to comfort him; he wanted you a warm word, a bowl of warm porridge.
If you love him, be kind to him. Occasional bullying is fun, but often bullying is not happy at all.
When you lose your temper and he doesn't return his mouth, when you lazily push all the housework to him, and he still works without complaint, the wife should reflect on whether she is a little excessive.
Once some feelings are lost, they will never come back, so take advantage of the good times, his warmth is still there, cherish him and care for him. Feelings need to be managed.
Look at those two people who love like glue at the beginning, and finally run their own things, most of them are not a big deal, but they consume love unreasonably in daily life.
From the bits and pieces of life, learn to treat him kindly, men are manly, but also boys, love him to be kind to him, only be kind, love can last forever.