If we can't be together, what's the point of life?
Watching "Becoming Jane Austen" in college, sighing for an unsatisfactory ending, and not understanding why Jane didn't want to elope with Tom? Obviously love each other, obviously do not want to separate!
After watching "Becoming Jane Austen", I can't help but be impressed by Jane's rationality and vision. She wanted to elope with Tom, she was willing to fight for their love, and when she rushed out of the door and saw Tom, she was determined, happy, like a bird that flew high and tried to pursue happiness and freedom, but what about after that? They will be left stretched and unsustainable, and Tom's family will lose their financial resources. The original beautiful love will always be trivial, consumed by the guilt of the family, without financial support, with the guilt of betrayal of the family, how far can this love go? Maybe in the end there is only fragmentation, and gaining seems to be losing. Such a result is not to be complete, but to destroy her, tom, tom's family, this is not what she expected, she did not want to destroy Tom, so she turned away, even if it was painful, there was no remorse, I think how much courage it takes, will be in the moment of deep love for each other to turn their backs on their lovers, only for the happiness and happiness of each other's lives for the rest of their lives.
Not without regrets, not without pain, but deep in the heart, if the heart is still there! Jane Austen never married!
Jane Austen has finally become a famous writer, and the fame of her works masks the strangeness of her unmarried, and she can also do what she wants to do, write perfection with the pen, write freedom.
The economic base determines the superstructure, only when we have enough economic strength, we will not be tired of life, will give ourselves what our families want!
When I was young, I only saw unsatisfactory love when I watched "Becoming Jane Austen", but now when I look at it, I see the love that died prematurely because of my livelihood.
When you are young, you can not do bread for love, and as you get older, you step into the world, how long can love without bread last? It is said that love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, but when your financial ability is enough, both marriage and love are only two people's business.
The economic strength is enough, establish their own small family, balance the needs of the original families of both sides, do not need to rely on both parents to buy a house and a car, and dare to have children. Therefore, economic independence is the foundation of love and marriage freedom.
The marriage of papi sauce is enviable and is what most women yearn for. She once said: I have been married to Lao Hu for five years, and my parents have never met, and in the New Year, I will go back to my own home and find my mother. The result of this is that the husband and wife will not quarrel over whose house to go to for the New Year, nor will they hurt their feelings because they have not gone to whom's house for the New Year, and there will be no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In the final analysis, it is because the economy of the papi sauce husband and wife is not only independent, but also strong, do not need to nibble on the old, but also feed back.
When we were young, we were not deeply involved in the world, did not understand the trivialities of chai rice oil and salt, and could give up bread for love, thinking that love was everything. When entering the society, facing the future, facing the milk powder diaper is not wet, facing the parents sick and hospitalized, everywhere need real money and silver, the bread of the precious highlighted to the fullest, at this time, who will say that bread can not be, but love can not be lost?
Back to "Becoming Jane Austen", if when they first met, Jane was already a famous writer, And Tom was no longer a poor lawyer, would they still love and end in tragedy?