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I think Jane Austen should be no stranger to every literary youth.
She never married, but wrote several classic love works, such as Pride and Prejudice, "Sense and Sensibility", etc., which established her place in the history of British literature.
The film "Becoming Jane Austen" based on her tells the story of an unforgettable love and pursuit of her dream of writing when she was young.
Although she never married, Jane still lived a happy woman.
Many fans feel sorry that Jane did not stay with her lover Tom in the film, but in detail, this movie reveals 3 important life principles for us, especially for girls, the sooner they know, the better.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="121" >1, like is the arrogance of desperation, mature love is the restraint of learning to let go at the right time</h1>
When the heroine of the movie Jane and Tom first met, they certainly did not expect to fall in love with this arrogant and arrogant "stupid boy" in the future.
The first time they met, Tom commented on her work, which is "unseen pretentiousness and childish self-appreciation", and asked, which girl can be happy to hear this kind of straight male evaluation? Not to mention Jane, who has always been clean and tall.
As she later comes into contact, Jane discovers that Tom is not as arrogant as he seems, but a young man who loves literature, has unique ideas, and is full of justice.
I don't know what to do, but I go deeper. Interesting souls are attracted to each other, love is quietly born, and Jane rejects Wesley, who can provide her with a comfortable life, and chooses Tom without hesitation, even if he is just a poor boy who is funded by his uncle.
Faced with the opposition of their families, Jane and Tom resolutely elope.
Meeting people who are thrilled in the best years is undoubtedly the luck of life. Don't care about identity and outside vision, just pure and intense like, is it like the love we had when we were young?
But fate did not take care of them, and on the way to elope Jane found that Tom had been secretly taking the allowance given by his uncle to support his poor family.
Eloping would cut off Tom's financial resources, discredit him, and make finding a job problem, not to mention continuing to support his family.
In order not to drag Tom down, Jane chooses to break up with him and let him go back to his old life. "If love destroys your family, it will destroy yourself," she said. This love will also fade away in guilt, regret and self-blame. ”
Despite being deeply involved in love, Jane is sober and restrained enough at the crucial moment to understand that letting go is another kind of fulfillment.
I often see netizens in Zhihu talk about emotional distress: we are no longer happy together, but I still don't want to let go, what to do?
Maybe in the face of love, we should all learn from Jane, have the courage to fight hard, and retreat with the dashing of letting go in time.
Wang Xiaobo said: "I love you to the point of not being selfish, just like a person who has a pigeon in his hand flies away, and he blesses the flight of the pigeon from his heart." ”
Love divorced from reality is destined to be a moon in the mirror, rather than leaving a lot of ground in reality, it is better to recognize it in time, learn to let go, and leave a good memory for each other.
If liking is the madness of "losing each other, life has no meaning", then mature love is the sobriety and restraint of willing to let go of each other in order to complete each other.
To complete the other party is to let go of oneself.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="124" >2, only love can resist the long years</h1>
Our protagonist, Jane, is a complete fan of writing.
Every morning, when her family was still asleep, she had gotten up and started writing, writing that there would be an impromptu piano performance until the rise, which made the family "chicken and dog restless".
She records what she sees and thinks at all times, and practices "writers should record their lives" to the extreme.
If it were normal to focus on her hobbies now, Jane lived in England in the 19th century, when writing novels was a despised profession and ridiculed by high society, let alone women writing.
And women have no inheritance rights, no other opportunities to earn a living, the only fate is to find a rich man to marry, to ensure the rest of their lives.
Jane's family is poor, but she is reluctant to enter a loveless marriage, and after rejecting the marriage proposal of the rich Wesley, Jane is reprimanded by her mother.
In the face of her relatives' incomprehension, Jane is very distressed, but her love of writing makes her unwilling to compromise, and she is even more reluctant to easily put down the pen in her hand.
There is one scene that is particularly moving:
In the silent night, the inspiration came from bed, Jane got up from bed and lit a candle, and in the dim candlelight, the tip of her pen quickly recorded Yoshimitsu Katayu on the paper.
It was this obsession and persistence that, despite his lifelong unmarried life, Jane Austen created excellent works, and was rated by the American critic Edmund Wilson as a literary artist who could be compared with Shakespeare.
Mr. Wang Zengqi said: "People must love something, it will make us tough, tolerant and full." ”
But in reality, how many girls are afraid of being lonely and end up, scribbling into love or marrying themselves, thinking that this can fight loneliness. As everyone knows, marriage can't solve loneliness, but having something you love can make you grow old calmly.
There's a question online: Why do you have to pursue what you love?
I saw one of the best answers:
"The happiness that money can buy will eventually be tired of it one day." If you pursue what you love, in exchange for endless passion and achievement, you can continue to extend the meaning of life. ”
Yes, only love can resist the long years. If you love it, go all out and chase your dreams.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="129" >03, get rid of the expectations of others, and live your life your way</h1>
I believe most girls have had this experience:
At a certain age, he was constantly urged by the people around him to get married and have children. No matter how good you are, you can be intimidated by someone else's words: "So what, it's not the same as not getting married!" ”
It was as if women were born to marry.
Jane 200 years ago showed us another path: you don't have to live in the expectations of others, you can live your life in your own way.
After Jane and Tom broke up, they still did not accept the marriage proposal of wesley, who was from a privileged family. In the face of wesley's aunt humiliation, she was not humble.
The other party believes that a "woman with no home, no money and a low status is doomed to be unworthy of her nephew." The implication is that Jane will not end up well after refusing to marry. But Jane said:
"Any young girl can make a fortune by her own efforts."
And the way she obtains wealth is not by marrying a rich person, but by sticking to her original intention and constantly creating by the pen in her hand.
Years later, Jane did not marry and have children, but through the efforts of not forgetting her original intention, she realized her wish: to become a household writer.
At the end of the film, Jane, whose sideburns are pale, reads her work softly, surrounded by readers who listen carefully and show appreciation.
Didn't that moment prove another kind of fulfillment in her life?
I like a quote from Silent Confessions: "We spend our whole lives trying to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves." ”
There are as many different people as there are in the world, as many different ways of life as there are. Life is only once, we do not have to live in the expectations of others, and there is no need to interrupt our original footsteps for the evaluation of others.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="134" >04, concluding remarks</h1>
There's a scene in the film where Wesley asks Jane, "Are your works all perfect endings?" ”
Jane replied, "The characters in my stories always get what they crave after their ordeals. ”
After hard work, the results may not be satisfactory, just like not all love can go into marriage, and not all struggles can lead to success. Although we cannot decide the end of the story, we have the freedom to choose our own lives.
Rather than holding on to inappropriate love and getting both losers, we can choose to let go in time;
Rather than doing nothing and pinning our hopes on others, we can choose to go all out to pursue what we love;
Rather than living in the expectations of others, we can choose to live boldly out of ourselves.
As someone on the Internet says: a person's greatest success is to live his life the way he likes.
I hope that all girls can be like Jane, get rid of the life defined by others, and live their own wonderful.
Text | Rice porridge
Image | Stills from the movie "Becoming Jane Austen"
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