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In the novel Pride and Prejudice, it begins with this: Mrs. Bannard spends her days worrying about how to marry off her five daughters smoothly. Jane Austen, the author of this novel, has never married, saying that regret is regret, but she is also happy.
The movie "Becoming Jane Austen" is mainly about the experience of the writer Jane Austen in her youth, in the post-Renaissance era, people wanted their children to marry a rich family, or marry a woman with a good family, but coincidentally, the family decline of Jane Austen fell in love with the not-rich Lefroy.
She fell in love with this clever and cunning young Irish lawyer at first sight, but the priest family in Austin wanted the future son-in-law to have financial strength, and Lefroy was still a poor boy at that time, and the Lefroy family, who had 6 children, was also determined to marry the rich family, so they asked Lefroy to return to Ireland.
Later, Lefroy married a big bride as the family wished, and Jane Austen was forced to break up with her first love and never married.
Today, let's talk about the regrets in Jane Austen's life, and use her story to illustrate that "no regret is not called life," with such a reason to encourage people to be more open-minded and optimistic today.
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<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the regret between Jane and Lefroy made Jane happy</h1>
In the film, at the beginning, Jane and Lefroy are enemies, as the plot develops, Jane discovers the charm of Lefroy, Jane meets Lefroy who is reading a book in the library, LeFroy gives Jane her views and suggestions on writing, they often communicate the skills and connotations of writing together, and LeForroy also appreciates this talented woman more and more, he encourages her, supports her, and accompanies her to visit the writer.
Later, when Jane is confronted with her own emotional problems, she is brave enough to express her admiration for Lefroy, and they look at each other affectionately at the ball, even if both are the dance partners of the person next door.
Because Jane's pastor family has fallen, and a rich man Weeris proposes to Jane, but Jane does not love him, but if she marries her family, she may not have to live a hard life, so in the dilemma of solving family difficulties and whether to follow her heart, she resolutely chooses to follow her heart.
So at the end of the dance, she and Lefroy met in the flowers and kissed Lefroy on their own initiative, and it is gratifying that Lefroy also liked Jane, so Lefroy and Jane went to Lefroy's house to try to introduce Jane to Lefroy's uncle.
Coincidentally, Lefroy's uncle did not accept Jane, and Lefroy decided to let go of Jane because of his uncle's attitude, so the two separated.
Later, Jane and Lefroy met in the woods, and after some tossing, Jane still softened her heart, and the two still loved each other, so the two decided to elope.
Jane left the house, and Lefroy in the carriage sweet, Jane felt very excited, the wheels of the carriage fell into the quagmire on the way, so Leforroy got out of the car to help push the carriage, the wheels were covered with mud, the men pushed the carriage like this, Jane stood next to it and accidentally saw the letter sent by Lefroy's family, the letter said, Thank you Lefroy for sending money to the family, it is because of such a plot setting, let Jane re-examine this relationship, is it really to marry for love, is it not necessary to care about everything.
Since the two are happy and difficult together, why should they be together, and Jane is at this time, she longs to be with LeForroy all the time, but as long as the two of them are together, they will face all kinds of difficulties in life, and even can't support themselves.
So on the way to rest, after the two of them had a lot of entanglement, Jane chose to go home.
Later, it was learned that Lefroy was engaged, and even if Jane was sad, she couldn't do anything because she chose to leave.
See a sentence on Zhihu:
When you focus on what you love, you are happy at this moment.
Not being able to be with Lefroy is Jane's regret in life, but it is precisely because of the separation of the two sides that Jane devotes herself to the writing she loves, and it is precisely because she puts her emotions on each character in the novel that she will not pay attention to the world's marriage talk, so the regret between Jane and Lefroy may have made Jane's happy life, because she still has the novel.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > the regrets of the previous generation to the next generation to talk about comfort</h1>
For LeFroy, his unfulfilled wish in this life is to be with Jane, no matter how Jane convinces him to give up the relationship, Lefroy is not willing to give up, he will always have confidence.
While resting on the elopement, faced with Jane's insecurities, Lefroy said, "I can earn my own money." Jane said, "Not enough. Lefroy said, "I'm going to get ahead." ”
No matter how confident LeFroy was, Jane finally chose to leave, not because she didn't love, but because due to various factors in reality, Jane no longer wanted Lefroy to be affected, so she decided to leave.
This was a heavy blow to Lefroy, who had clearly said they were leaving together, but on the way they were told that they could not be together, and it was decided by his beloved woman.
Later, Lefroy married another woman as his family wished, and gave birth to a daughter named Jane.
As an elder, Lefroy could not complete his intention to be with Jane, so he pinned this emotion on the next generation, so he named his eldest daughter Jane, which was the regret of the previous generation, but at that time it had reached the point of no return, regret could only become regret after all, but whether it was regret or not, people could only let regret become the past, and then continue to live a good life.
This reminds me of the philosopher Jin Yuelin, as a famous scholar who returned from studying in Europe and the United States, a professor at Tsinghua Peking University, but his favorite talented woman Lin Huiyin married the architect Liang Sicheng, after Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng married, the three of them still maintained a good relationship, after Lin Huiyin's death, Liang Sicheng continued to string, Jin Yuelin never married, for a woman who could not be replaced in his heart, has remained single.
This seems to be the same as the rich man Weeris in the movie says to Jane:
It seems that you can't accept a marriage without love, and even if you do, you may refuse.
This also reminds me of another novel by Jane Austen, "Emma", the protagonist Emma has the attitude of not marrying for life at the beginning, which can be said to be the epitome of Jane Austen in the novel, in real life, Jane Austen does not marry for life, but in the novel "Emma", Jane Austen gave Emma a happy ending, that is, Emma let go of her lifelong obsession with marrying, which may also be Jane's original wish, in fact, she also wants to marry her beloved Le Floy.
Even if Lefroy can't fulfill his wish to marry Jane, so he can only change this thought in his heart into the name of his daughter, such an ending may not be the happy ending in everyone's wishes, the hero and heroine are happy and happy together, such an ending can even be said to be full of regrets, but it has never been happy, Jane has her own famous works, and Le Floy also has her own family.
For Jane Austen, love has no rules, happiness has no template, lifelong unmarried is just a way of life, and happiness and marriage are never positively correlated, because happiness is not the result, but a journey. Even if there is no hope of being with Lefroy, this love is pinned on the daughter's name by LeFroy, which is not a response to Lefroy's feelings for Jane.
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<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > like Jane, choosing a suitable lifestyle is respect for one's own life</h1>
I have a relative, the girl went to college and went to graduate school and went to get a doctorate, after reading the book out of a handful of years have not been married, her sister is already married, even children have been born, I often hear from other relatives: then who read so many books, what is the use, now they are not married.
Even though everyone is gradually accepting that singleness is a way of life, it is inevitable that elders or others will discuss right and wrong, and when I was a child, I was quite envious of my relatives who read a lot and could casually speak English.
The recent hit "The Next Stop is Happiness" nakedly presents the topic of older leftover women, whether old or young, now seems to be eager to escape from singleness, it seems that not to fall in love and not to marry as if it is contrary to the world, we will invisibly have a biased view.
Back in the movie "Becoming Jane Austen", Jane once chose to leave Le Floy because she could not withstand the pressure of the world, which is a pity, but Jane also chose to stay unmarried for life because of the pursuit of women's freedom, and fell in love with the novel, which is not a regret.
Coco Chanel said, "Love ends when you choose to leave." ”
Jane's love, as Coco Chanel said, her love also ended when she chose to leave Le Floy, although her love was over, but her sustenance for love did not end, she relied on her own view of love, her imagination of love, in her own novel, on the characters of the novel.
Jane regrets the love she missed, but she has never regretted her life, because the departure she chose is not because of the unlove, but based on the consideration of all balance, it is the respect for her own life, and it is the result of free choice.
In the same way, nowadays, whether it is because you like to be single and choose to be single, or because you choose to be single because of one person and one thing, it is a self-selected lifestyle, it is only the result of choice.
Maybe some people will say: don't you feel sorry, is it really good to live a lonely life, and it is useless to marry women, as if they can't attract men, so no one wants to marry you.
However, the right to choose in their own hands, may regret, but this is also a good life, marriage can not be defined as happiness, that is only a process of expressing happiness, does not represent happiness.
The feeling of happiness is like a fish drinking cold and warm self-knowledge.
Summary: The whole film is actually based on the emotional development of Jane Austen and Lefroy as the main line, expressing the main theme of Jane's pursuit of women's marriage freedom, in the British society at that time, marrying for love was actually very stupid, money determined the operation of the entire hierarchical world, so Jane showed the spiritual independence and inferiority in the film, coupled with the arrogance and prejudice of young people, she decided to marry for love.
It is only forced by family pressure that both sides end in failure, although the ending is regrettable, but it is enough to reflect that Jane does not lose herself in front of anything, even if it is dogma, even if it is the gaze of others, even if it is the self-inner pursuit of love.
In the face of singleness or marriage, there is no need to worry, but also to maintain inner open-mindedness and optimism, even if there are regrets, do not worry, because you may be miserable, but as long as the time has passed, as long as this obstacle has passed, it is a part of your life's good memories.