Jane Austen once said, "Don't lose yourself in the face of anything, even if it is dogma, even if it is the gaze of others, even if it is love." ”
British female writer Jane Austen, dedicated her life's energy to writing, her famous works include "Pride and Prejudice", "Sense and Emotion" and other novels, the reason for these achievements, can not be separated from their own personal experience.
After experiencing painful feelings, because of secular ideas and love without material basis, the two were forced to separate, and finally Jane Austen chose not to marry for life, injecting all her unfinished emotions into her works.
In Pride and Prejudice, Darcy's arrogance and Elizabeth's prejudice at the beginning leave the two without a hint of good feelings, which is also the beginning of Jane Austen and Tom Lefroy.
But fortunately, Darcy was attracted to Elizabeth, so he followed his heart and opened his heart to Elizabeth, elizabeth also abandoned her prejudices, and finally the two experienced a misunderstanding and finally walked together.
As Pride and Prejudice writes, "A marriage that thinks only of money is absurd, and a marriage that does not consider money is stupid." ”
Jane and Tom are not so lucky, they have to bow their heads in front of reality, Jane does not want to go against her heart, betray love, and ultimately only be loyal to herself.
Born into a not-so-wealthy clergyman family, Jane grew up with no formal school education, but grew up with a habit of reading that made her different from everyone else, sometimes creating according to her own imagination.
A ray of early morning sun shines in front of the window, and the whole house falls into a silent slumber, only Jane sits at her desk, making a rustling sound in her pen, and she writes the following sentence: "Informality, do as you please, this is not wrong; but never over, this is also true." ”
This dooms her thinking to be different from others, whether it is for life or marriage, she has her own opinion.
She often shares her own works with her family, reads them to her family, and receives praise from everyone.
Tom's appearance, his scorn for Jane's work, the arrogance and rudeness he shows, makes Jane not want to see her.
Later, the two meet at the dance, and Jane evaluates Tom's rudeness, which is just overheard by Tom, making the two become enemies and the beginning of the budding of love.
Later, in the confrontation, Tom was still attracted to Jane's wisdom and told Jane that if he wanted to achieve a certain achievement in writing, the experience was very important.
Soon the two slowly developed a good feeling, Jane saw the enthusiasm and integrity of Tom, Tom also felt Jane's confidence and intelligence, and the two began to communicate.
The film reads: "Sometimes, feelings are like shy flowers, which will bloom after the test of time. ”
The beginning of all love is so beautiful that it does not take into account family status, material basis, and worldly ideas, but marriage does not work, it is based on material foundations.
Tom Lefroy is a young irish lawyer whose uncle is a justice and he lives with him.
Because he was usually profligate and contracted some bad habits, his uncle sent him to the countryside in the hope that he could reform himself, so that he and Jane met and fell in love.
Tom quickly took Jane back, hoping that his uncle would agree to the marriage between the two.
But at this time, the uncle received a letter from Jane's hometown, which wrote that Jane was a vain gold worshipper, which made the uncle firmly oppose the two of them.
At this time, Tom, he has no independent financial resources, he and his family need to rely on his uncle, and if he wants to inherit the property, he can only obey his uncle's arrangement.
In the face of reality, love is vulnerable.
Jane's mother told her: "Love is desirable, but money is essential." ”
In the end, life without money will not be happy, because everyone has his responsibilities, and we can't just take care of ourselves.
A beautiful love, have to bow their heads in front of reality.
Later, when Jane hears that Tom is engaged, she tries to forget the past and start over, but it backfires.
But Tom couldn't let go of Jane, and he was willing to leave everything behind and be with Jane. Because if he loses Jane, life has no meaning.
They do everything and decide to elope, which means that each other will lose everything.
When Jane learns that Tom still has a family to feed on him, she can't selfishly put him in a difficult situation.
Jane said to Tom, "If love destroys your family, it destroys itself and disappears in guilt, regret, and self-blame." ”
And she didn't want to, she couldn't ruin a family because of her selfishness.
To love someone is to actually hope that they are happy. Because of love, it can only be fulfilled, not destroyed.
In the face of money and love, she chooses love, chooses to be true to her heart. In the face of reason and emotion, she made a rational choice, which is Jane's life.
As Jane's parents, they always felt that Wesley was the ideal companion.
He was courteous, amiable, and well-off so that they could later lift themselves out of poverty.
In their relationship, Wesley also confessed to Jane, but was rejected.
Many people feel that rejecting such a good man is an unwise choice.
But For Jane, she doesn't want to marry casually, marriage is sacred, and she has to follow her heart.
If she can't marry her lover, then she won't choose to spend her life with someone she doesn't love.
After that, Jane devoted her life's energy to her own writing, and with her own efforts, she became a brilliant writer and never married.
Tom married everyone as his family wished, and eventually became the chief justice of the Irish Supreme Court.
A couple of lovers, after all, in the long river of time, live in each other's memory.
Lin Huiyin once said: "It is only a moment to retain a memory, but to remember a memory is forever." ”
The greatest tragedy of life is that at the most powerless age, I meet someone who wants to protect my life. Unfortunately, this love has no chance to keep it.
I once saw such a question on the Internet: Marry the wrong person and not marry for a lifetime, which is more terrible?
There was a high praise answer:
There is no standard answer to this question, there is no age to marry, only feelings to marry, there is no absolute right person and absolutely wrong person, right or wrong, just the degree of appropriateness is different. Therefore, until you meet the right person, it is wise to stay single happily and not give up the pursuit of true love.
Every love we encounter in life, whether beautiful or painful, is an experience that will make us grow and tell us something.
No one knows what will happen in the next second, but we still have to look forward to it, everything backfires, maybe it is another arrangement.
May everyone have the luck of "choosing a city to grow old and meet a person with a white head" and live up to each other.