When it comes to marrying far, many girls have their own experience.
Marrying far away is actually a big gamble, the bet is won, the world is all yours, lose, you are the only one in the world.
But there are very few people who can laugh until the end and leave the table.
Thinking about it now, I regret that I did not listen to my mother's advice, and easily married away, and I have always regretted not having done it after marriage.
When I was 22 years old, I went to Guangdong to work, and I met my husband by chance, he was very tall, good looking, very considerate to me, and rode an electric car every day to wait for me to get off work.
When I first met that meeting, he often sent WeChat to chat with me, thinking that he was also a very gentle and emotional boy, and he was also very protective of me, and it didn't take long for us to be together. He still picks me up every day, no matter how tired he is, to and from work. When I got home, I cooked my favorite food in a different way. Hand-torn chicken, soy sauce duck, etc. In the middle of the night I wanted to have a barbecue, and he also went out to buy it for me.
I confess that during that time, he really loved me, treated me like a princess, cared about me very much, I felt warm love in a different place, perhaps, the purpose of this beginning was just to get me, it was so pure and purposeful.
As many people think, we quickly met with parents.
His mother was very kind to me, and during the few days at his house, she greeted me warmly, offered to buy me clothes for money, and said that she would treat me like a daughter. Although my mother reminded me many times to get along again, he was almost 30 years old, and the family was in a hurry, and we quickly entered the marriage hall.
In this way, I got married and became pregnant. Although my parents disagreed, because my boyfriend's house was so far from my house, he had to take several transportation connections in a day and a half to get there. My parents were afraid that I would suffer, that I would be wronged, that I knew their worries and concerns, that they loved me very much, but that nothing worked, and that I had only one thought in my mind, that is, I must be with him.
So with guilt and willfulness, and even some longing and doubt, we simply held a wedding and got married.
Not long after getting married, because I was pregnant, in order to take care of me and the child with the belly, my mother-in-law took the initiative to ask me to go back to my hometown.
Back at home, I didn't understand the dialect spoken at home.
Young people basically go to work, basically no one they know, and hide in their rooms every day. The mother-in-law did not know what was wrong, as if she had become a person. I wanted to drink chicken soup, she said I spent money and picked food, and finally asked my husband to give her a large half of the salary every month to do my living expenses, but the dishes I cooked every day were not what I wanted to eat.
When confinement, I often hold my daughter alone in the room to breastfeed, and my mother-in-law occasionally comes to take the handle during meals.
Not only that, but my husband also became more and more disobedient to my words, standing with my mother-in-law in everything and targeting me, and even saying that I had become a shrew, without the gentleness and kindness I had before.
After marriage, my husband never gave me money to manage, said that I would not manage money, and spent money lavishly, saying that I did not work, and after marriage I always let him raise, originally I was his wife, he also gave the money to his mother-in-law for safekeeping, saying: "My mother is righteous to manage money!" ”
I was so angry that I couldn't speak.
Later, the sister-in-law brought back the daughter of the full moon, and the mother-in-law happily held her granddaughter every day to amuse, and I realized that I and the child were superfluous. What should I do now?
Now think about it, if I had listened to my parents, I wouldn't have the dilemma I have now.
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Girl, I can understand your feelings of marrying away, in a strange environment, the discomfort of language barrier. Since you are far away from marriage, if you still have feelings with your husband, then sit down and communicate with your mother-in-law calmly, understand what the cause is, find out the cause, and solve the problem.
2. Communicate with the husband, try to let the husband accompany you, at this time, the girl, very much need a sense of security. You go to him or he comes back to you, if it really can't work, let your husband give you a salary every month, you should eat and drink yourself, buy and buy, don't treat yourself and your children badly.
3 In the future, if you want to have a second child, you must have an economic foundation, and if you have money, you can ask the nanny to come to the door to serve or go to the confinement center to sit in the confinement center, save a lot of trouble, eat healthy and nutritious, and don't have to worry about these reassurance things.
Finally, if a marriage makes you unhappy and unpleasant, makes you give up everything and lose everything, if you marry an immature man, he does not take on the responsibilities of a family, can not be a good father, a good husband, even if he is a wonderful son, what does it have to do with you?
You have to remember that you do not lack ancestors, nor do you lack a son, you are married to a man, a husband, not a cowardly and naïve man who evades responsibility! If a marriage does not allow you to get love, experience happiness, feel loved, or even live unhappy, depressed and painful, then ending it early and stopping the loss in time is the greatest kindness to yourself.
What do you think about that? If you have emotional problems, you can consult me.
Author: [Emotional Glass] Record the emotional world and share emotional beauty.