The greatest happiness in a person's life is to meet the right person at the right time, but the most unfortunate thing is to meet the right person but can't look good, and these two encounters have been experienced by the old drama bone Jin Shijie.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" >01, fell in love with his ex-girlfriend at first sight, fell in love for ten years and was unmarried and childless</h1>
Jin Shijie's job as a veterinarian when he was young was a job that many people dreamed of, but it was boring for him, not the life he wanted, so he worked for a year and a half, and finally chose his dream.
In 1978, the 27-year-old Jin Shijie resigned decisively, and came to Taipei alone with his own ideals, with his love of literature and film, in 1980, he choreographed his first drama work "Lotus Pearl New Match", which not only won the love of the audience, but also opened the prelude to the drama theater at that time.
Later, Jin Shijie was famous in the drama circle, and he also knew the famous director Lai Shengchuan, who led the team to shoot the movie "Crush on Peach Blossom Garden" that year and won numerous awards, which also made Jin Shijie who participated in the performance greatly increase his fame, although he did not specifically study acting, but his acting skills were recognized by countless people, and since then Jin Shijie has embarked on his acting career.
Although Jin Shijie was well-known at that time and his career was very successful, he had never met his other half emotionally, perhaps the fate had not arrived, perhaps the vision was too high, so that he was still single before the age of forty.
Until he was forty-five years old, because of the drama, compared to his seven-year-old actress Ye Wen fell in love at first sight, love came so suddenly, when Jin Shijie and Ye Wen contacted for a period of time, he thought that Ye Wen was the best person to accompany him for a lifetime, so when they were filming, Jin Shijie often booed and greeted her, Ye Wen also knew his intentions, but if he wanted to accept him, he must let him accept his own experience.
Ye Wen was very famous in the entertainment industry at that time, and had a failed marriage, and two daughters, the most important thing is that she did not want to get married and have children, she told Jin Shijie all her thoughts, he said: "It doesn't matter if you are married or not, as long as you are happy and happy together, as for reproduction, this is a small matter, not important." ”
Hearing Jin Shijie's answer, Ye Wen was very moved, and finally the two talked about a love affair that was not married.
After being together, Jin Shijie also fulfilled his previous promise, not only taking good care of Ye Wen, but also treating her daughter like her own child, like a very happy family.
What it's like to meet the right person and not be able to stay together is something Jin Shijie knows better than anyone.
After a few years of living happily and lovingly, unfortunately Ye Wen was diagnosed with cancer, after the later treatment, fortunately, Ye Wen was not life-threatening, but it made her become depressed because of long-term chemotherapy, which made Ye Wen seriously lose her hair, her figure also changed, and the big change in her image made her unacceptable.
Although jin Shijie and her daughters advised her, Ye Wen was still unable to overcome her own demons, and finally in 2006, after leaving a message to her beloved man, she came to the beach, jumped and ended her life.
When Jin Shijie and her daughters came to the beach to see Ye Wen again, it was already too late, and the death of his girlfriend made Jin Shijie devastated, and he drank all day, after all, the two had been in love for more than ten years, although they were not married, they had long been the most important person in each other's hearts, which also made Jin Shijie vow never to marry again.
Sometimes love is like this, obviously you can be happy to end up, but there will always be some small episodes in the middle to separate each other, such an ending may be the most reluctant to accept it!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="20" >02, and the current wife has children, the difference between the two is 25 years</h1>
The year his girlfriend died, Jin Shijie was 55 years old, after losing his most beloved woman, he was discouraged, decided not to act, to prevent thinking of his sad things, and finally he became a drama teacher, but also met his true love.
During Jin Shijie's teaching, he and his student Tu Guping developed feelings, and Tu Guping was also very fond of him, but because the age difference between the two was too large, they were embarrassed to say anything about each other.
Although jin Shijie had sworn not to marry for life before, but in the face of the lively and cheerful Tu Guping, let him begin to have a new yearning for life, when Ye Wen's daughter also supported him to find his own happiness, and later the two tried to communicate for a while, found that in addition to the inappropriate age, other aspects of the tacit understanding, Jin Shijie did not want to miss such a good woman, so when he was 57 years old, he married Tu Guping, who was 25 years younger than him.
At that time, many people were not optimistic about their marriage, but they proved their choice correctly with practical actions. Not long after the two married, Tu Guping gave birth to a pair of children for Jin Shijie, and the happy family also broke the gossip of the outside world. Sometimes love is so wonderful, and being brave may be happy for a lifetime.
During the interview, a reporter asked Jin Shijie why he still chose to work at such an old age, he said:
"I'm not working for myself now, but for my family and my children, who not only need my care, but they need a role model, and in order for them to have a better life, my efforts are all worth it."
Not only that, Jin Shijie, who has a family, and Ye Wen's daughter have also been in touch, for him, while taking care of his family, Ye Wen's family also needs his care, which is perhaps the only thing he can do to his girlfriend.
How happy it is to meet the right person at the right time, although it came a little late, but it can also be considered complete.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="73" > said at the end</h1>
Some people think that Jin Shijie is a "scumbag" who has broken the vows he once made, but I personally think that he is a good man who is dedicated to love, and before Ye Wen's death, she also hoped that Jin Shijie would spend her life well, and now her happiness can also be regarded as satisfying her girlfriend's wishes, and she often cares about her daughter, which can be described as a deep sense of righteousness.
In the face of the vows, Jin Shijie also did a very good job, he has always maintained his thoughts of his girlfriend when he has not met true love, but when he meets his own happiness, living in the moment is the best commitment to the deceased.
At the same time, Lin Shengbin and Jin Shijie were simply worlds apart compared to each other.
When Lin Shengbin hyped up with his wife and children for ten years, Jin Shijie chose to retire;
When Lin Shengbin often took the woman he once loved to pray for pity, Jin Shijie chose to silently guard his girlfriend's family;
When Lin Shengbin said that he loved each other, but he had already found a good home, Jin Shijie chose to use his own efforts to let the person he loved most live a good life.
What is betrayal, what is loyalty, only when the former has no regrets and the latter is happy, can we achieve true guilt.