Author/Pond Fish
The word fate has always been unpopular.
Fate comes and goes, fate gathers and scatters, sometimes just in a single thought. Before, I always thought that if two people really loved each other, no matter what difficulties they encountered, they would definitely be able to firmly choose each other.
In fact, this is just a kind of idea about true love for many people who believe in love.
In real life, how many people's love is finally defeated by weighing these four words.
When you think that love is indestructible, it may be that the person who gave you love is actually planning a departure.
It is not difficult for two people to fall in love with each other, the difficulty is to face various tests together, and still be able to identify the initial choice in their hearts and not give up.
I see that some people are confused after leaving a relationship: We used to love each other so much, why did we end up going our separate ways?
The answer may be a little heartfelt, but it is true, that is, the other party is lying, and the deep love you think is just what you think.
People who are trapped in love are always good at constantly adding weight to the feelings of two people with assumptions in a relationship, using their own thinking to define each other, thinking that each other's ideas are close, and this love is naturally as strong.
In fact, if it is really as you think, then why can you overcome the same difficulties and the other party can't?
No matter how many reasons there are, in the end, it is only three words: not enough love.
For example, in the face of different places, some people can overcome many difficulties and dangers, and in the test of time and distance, they still do not change their original intentions and cultivate positive results;
But at the same time, there are also many people who choose the love around them and abandon their distant lovers.
For example, some people will desperately want to get it back after missing it, make up for their regrets, and don't want to miss the person they love so much that they can't get it back;
However, there are also some people who just say that they love each other more, in fact, the two people have no new home at this time, but they dare not look for each other, but they also set up a deep affection for themselves, sighing all day long and short, frowning and bitterly, saying that they can no longer fall in love with other people.
I've met such a couple.
In fact, the two people still like each other, but they are not brave enough to take that step, and finally the girl got married after waiting for the boy for two and a half years, and the boy was particularly sad, saying that he missed the best of her and could no longer believe in love.
But the problem is: you didn't save it yourself!
Between love and face, they both chose the latter.
The boy said: "I am just afraid, even if we are reconciled, we will not go back to the past, and I am worried that the hurt we have given each other will affect our feelings in the future." ”
This is a concern of many people.
To put it bluntly, he is still not brave enough, in fact, he does not love girls as much as he thinks. If it were true love, he would not let two people miss it again and again in two years.
Of course, he must have been reluctant to give up, but what he missed more was not necessarily that person, but himself who had once loved the other party, which was the feeling and feeling of the beginning.
People are always good at pretending to be affectionate, and even talk too much, and can deceive themselves.
Therefore, there will be many people who seek their own troubles in their feelings, amplify each other's love, think that it is Providence to make people, and they will break up two people who love each other.
If you really love each other, unless one of them is not in this world, there is really nothing that can separate two people.
If you don't believe it, some people can't cross the obstacles in their lives, but there are others who break through the layers of shackles, just for the final hug.
Therefore, the subjective initiative of loving this thing is too strong. Of course, it is easy to know that you are not working hard enough, resulting in misses but want to shirk responsibility.
Many people are too easy to be trapped by their own fantasies, thinking that the other party is as affectionate as themselves, and they do not know that the word affectionate is originally a false proposition in the feelings, if it is too obvious, it means that it may be pretended.
Don't be silly.
I think of an example from a friend.
This friend and her ex are long-distance and the relationship between the two of them is a bit fantastic. My friend loved her ex at that time, and the other party also said that he loved her, but he was always close, hot and cold, sometimes showing a deep love, and after two days he might not pay much attention to her.
The boy, in this relationship, neither negated nor active, he enjoyed the good of his friends, but did not fulfill the responsibilities of a boyfriend.
Friends sometimes can't stand his cold violence, said separation, boys at first retained, and then directly do not speak, friends are reluctant, always said harsh words after two days, but automatically choose to forgive.
In such a relationship, she loves each other more and more, but the boy still maintains the previous leisure.
Friends suspect that he doesn't love himself, it's just that she just showed up and he just happened to be single. But the boy gave a negative, and the friend seriously talked to him, saying that if he didn't like himself, he would just say it, and she wouldn't bother him again, saying that his ideal feelings looked like.
She has said it many times, but the boy has never changed in words and deeds.
The two of them are divided and combined, every time the friend can't stick to it, everyone also advises her to break up, she tells us that the boy is good, saying that when they are together, the boy shows that he loves her very much, is very careful, and also cares about his feelings, she thinks that his performance can't deceive people, he also loves himself.
In fact, the things she said were not difficult at all, nor did they prove anything, but she over-interpreted the boy's words and deeds and deepened his love with assumptions.
Later, friends attributed the reason for their breakup to a different place, which is obviously not entirely accurate, but the boy's own attitude towards the relationship is problematic.
After they were separated, the friend was not willing to let the two people say break up on the mobile phone, insisting on going to see him, and the two people did not reconcile after meeting, but for a long time, they maintained an inexplicable ambiguity, looking like friends, but not friends.
A friend asked him, "What is the relationship we have now?" ”
The boy replied, "What you say is what it is." ”
At that moment, she was dead hearted.
People who have truly loved each other, the best fulfillment of each other, should never see each other, because when they meet, they will be soft-hearted, and once they hug, they will fall, and they are reluctant to go away after looking at each other. So don't embarrass yourself, the farther away the better, time and distance will eventually wash away all thoughts.
Most importantly, don't give the other person another chance to hurt you.
Because you love him or her, it is easy for the other party to hurt you, and it may even hurt you with a word or behavior unconsciously.
Wake up, people who don't love you that much won't think about you. When necessary, staying away and not seeing again is a timely stop loss.
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