We must have such a kind of person in our lives, you and him can talk and play, every day will be chatting together all the time, you are willing to share with him the trivial things in your life, everything is big and small, whether it is happy or happy, sad or sad want to tell each other to listen, and the other party is also willing to spit on you about the bits and pieces of their lives.
For such a type of person, we often call it a friend, become a friend of the heart, only willing to pour out their own big things and small things, only friends who make a heart, are willing to listen to your endless nagging, and are willing to chat with you every day.
But for this kind of chat between the opposite sex, we often need to pay attention to proportions. Just as the so-called long-term love, every day and night of chatting, will always talk about some sensitive topics, then it is easy for the opposite sex to rub out some sparks between the two of you, creating an ambiguous atmosphere.
This is also one of the reasons why many couples come together now, that is, the daily chat to slowly pile up the emotions between you.
Because communication is easier for two people to understand each other, it is easier for two people to find common topics, and run-in has become a common goal and hobby, but I want to say that the opposite sex who chats with you every day can never love.
This is not only that you will ask people who can find a like-minded person who is willing to listen to you, but also who is willing to share their happiness and sadness, so why can't such a person love? The main reasons are the following three points.
First, there is a lack of mystery
We tend to hear the saying that curiosity is the beginning of love.
Sometimes I package myself more mysteriously, and conceal the bits and pieces of my life a little bit to retain a person's heart.
The person who chats with you every day can be said to be the person who knows you best, because you need to have a lot of common topics between you, and over time you will slowly reveal your habits, hobbies, and so on.
When the other party already knows you well, in fact, your attraction is slowly declining, rather than saying that the other party's love for you is getting deeper and deeper.
The process of love is often a process of exploration and discovery, and the joy of love lies in the fact that two people can become the same goal, hobby, and interest topic after continuous efforts and common efforts.
Showing everything they have before falling in love, lacking too much mystery in front of each other, it is obvious that when the other person already knows you well, they are no longer interested in you.
Second, lack of freshness
Freshness is only a topic that cannot be lacking in love, and the freshness in love can make two people always maintain enthusiasm, maintain an excited heart, and maintain the yearning and longing for love.
That novelty is often to complete different things with the same person, or to try to try each other's interests and hobbies, or to let the other person enter your life.
And the people who chat with you every day, their freshness is really slowly decreasing for you. And you are also declining for their freshness, without the blessing of freshness, without the motivation to want two people to complete other novel things together, then even if you have become a couple, in the end it is inevitable that you will not escape the result of breaking up.
Third, it is difficult to speculate
At the beginning of love, there will always be a passive party, there is also an active party, many times men will take the initiative to propose to women, in order to finally bear positive results.
And we all understand the principle of long-term love, but this truth does not apply to anyone, such as the green plum bamboo horse since childhood, may not become a couple when he grows up.
Because they know too much, because they talk too warmly, such people may become friends better than become lovers. Therefore, it is not easy to guess how his heart thinks of you, and there is no such thing as love.
If you are in love at this time, then when you know that the other party does not have the slightest love for you, it may be difficult to maintain even the last trace of contempt.
In fact, for love, we should not be too optimistic, although we can not be too pessimistic, but sometimes we still have to leave a way back for ourselves, otherwise when we break up one day, we will know how deep such pain is.