Someone asked a very controversial question: When your object is not there, the TA mobile phone suddenly lights up a message, do you want to reach out and look?
Some people say not to watch. In order to show mutual trust, do not look, respect each other's privacy.
Some people will watch. And when the subject asks, he also says that I watched.
People often have a choice between looking and not looking, which is precisely the most dangerous.
If you say you don't look, it means you don't try to spy on the other person, and you don't know what's going on. If the villain wants to start, the easiest to succeed is to find this kind of person, because you don't even have a sense of vigilance at all, and people who do not have any suspicion or vigilance are best deceived.
If you say you watched it, the object would be very angry! "I dare to see my things, so I don't let you know the light of everything?"
What needs to be emphasized here is what needs to be emphasized. When children are doing something, they want an adult to watch from the side. But I don't want adults to take care of it. It's the same with an adult, who wants someone around, but doesn't want that person to be clear about everything.
We must understand this, this is human nature.
Let's first clarify what kind of situation is the best. What kind of practice is the most satisfactory? In fact, it is very simple, that is, you have to know everything about the other party, and the other party does not think that you are in charge of him.
It sounds simple, but it's difficult to do. Some people are difficult to be afraid to say oh, the difficulty is so high, how can I do it? The person who takes the Fa from the top to the middle, the person who takes the Fa in the middle and the bottom also has nothing to say to himself at the beginning, god has nothing to say.
Ugly words ahead. A person who has a ghost in his heart likes to take a lot of rights and obligations to cover up for himself, and a normal psychological ghostless person should be frank in his heart.
Therefore, when a person emphasizes that "I have nothing" and "you don't doubt whether it is good or not to have such a heavy heart", and says such things, the person listening to must be more careful, because he will not say such things for no reason.
Being more careful is not the same as taking out what you think directly. One of the mistakes that people often make is to encounter any small things and directly explain them. Even if some things are true, it is clear that they are highly distrustful and disrespectful to others, let alone some things are just misunderstandings caused by suspicion?
This paragraph is very important, when you have any doubts, absolutely not directly say it, the mouth must say, I trust you, but in the heart, behind the scenes to closely investigate everything. When the exact results of the investigation are reached, it is not too late to take it out and talk about it.
Many people think that this is a difference in appearance, there is no difference between the appearance, the mouth can not say, this is a kind of trust in the family, you can only doubt this kind of thing. And you have to investigate behind your back, you are responsible for yourself, in case it is true. If it is false, then you should be glad that you did not say it at the time. If the investigation comes out and the results are true, then you can also say that not telling you at that time is to give you face, and you are now toasting and not eating and eating penalty wine. You completely occupy jurisprudence and reason.
After a whole paragraph, everyone should understand that monitoring objects without monitoring is not a problem at all, how to monitor objects is the problem.
To monitor that the other person does not feel that you are in charge of him, and you have to clearly grasp all this. That's right.
This is not simple at all, but it is not deliberate. You don't want to hurt people at all, you just want to think about yourself, what is this not scheming?