The popular TV series "The First Half of My Life" in previous years, endless family stories, endless marriage trivia. In the red dust story, divorce is not necessarily the end.
Today I want to share the story of Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun in the real world. Sister Qiong in life is a copy of Luo Zijun. What is different is that after the divorce, there is no girlfriend to help, nor have I met a high-quality man like He Han.
The following is sister Qiong's experience, I sorted it out, easy for everyone to read.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > [husband cheating on colleague].</h1>
My ex-husband's story is very cheesy, and it is completely a realistic version of the TV series "The First Half of My Life".
My ex-husband hated me as a housewife and cheated on my colleagues in the company. Like Ling Ling in the TV series, Xiao San also carries a son.
After my ex-husband cheated on me, he had an iron heart to divorce me. No matter how much I pleaded, no matter how much my son cried, no matter how young my daughter was. His heart was as hard as a stone, and his head left the three of us without turning back.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > .【Divorce does not leave home】</h1>
The in-laws knew the news of her ex-husband's cheating and was half dead. They don't feel sorry for me, they just hurt their grandchildren and granddaughters.
We have two children between us, a son 10 years old and a daughter 3 years old. 12 years of marriage, 12 years of marital friendship, can not withstand the words of women outside. The children of the family are complete, but he is going to be a cheap father to others!
The marriage house was bought by my in-laws and has been living with us all these years. Divorce can't be changed, all I can do is fight for the best interests.
The in-laws gave the marriage house to my son, and another small house to my daughter. Custody of both children belongs to me.
In order for the two children to live better, I can only plead with my mother-in-law to allow the three of us to continue to live in the house, otherwise we will live on the street.
The in-laws wanted me and the children to stay around. They are old, and the two children are the spiritual pillars. If I insist on taking the child away, the in-laws will not be able to do anything.
Divorce does not leave home, so we continue to live in the house bought by our in-laws. It is the ex-husband who moved out, and he can't wait to live with Xiao San and build a love nest together.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > [in-laws help me with children].</h1>
Before the divorce, I was at home with children. Housewives are hard, 24 hours a day. I was fully committed to taking the children, and my in-laws traveled everywhere and had a very pleasant life.
After the divorce, my in-laws helped me with the children and I went out to work. With many years of experience in the life of a housewife, I managed to get a job as a cook.
All kinds of home cooking are my specialties, and I also make good pasta. In the past, cooking at home was not only unpaid, but also disliked by her ex-husband. Now a chef, I have an income every month and a bonus at the end of the year.
When I was paid, I paid my in-laws living expenses, and they symbolically accepted them and quietly subsidized the daily expenses of their children.
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Because of her ex-husband's cheating, my mother went to his company and made a big fuss several times. The company felt humiliated, so it dismissed Xiao San.
Mom also went to Xiao San's hometown with the square dance girlfriend group several times, and the little three parents could not lift their heads in their hometown. He also made trouble with the unit of the little third brother and sister-in-law, and successfully made the little three "famous" in his hometown.
In the face of his mother's "revenge", the ex-husband tightly protected Xiao San. He felt like I was just a crazy woman and allowed my mother to disrupt their normal lives.
Later, even the classmates of the three children knew about this matter. Junior high school students are already very sensible, and the son of the third grade has become the object of ridicule in the class. For a long time, they faced bullying in schools.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > [the in-laws do not want to see Xiao San and her son].</h1>
How shameless the ex-husband is! In the New Year, she actually took Xiao San and her son back to her hometown. What he didn't expect was that his relatives didn't give face at all!
In order to avoid them, I divorced d y g Spring Festival without taking the children back. Ex-husbands and grandparents did not see their grandchildren and granddaughters, and they went to the hospital for infusions in the new year.
Although we did not go back, the children received red envelopes.
The elders of the family are criticizing their ex-husbands for not raising their own children and raising other people's sons!
The eldest uncle was even angrier and directly drove Xiao San and her son away, not allowing them to step into the house.
The mother-in-law felt extremely congested, and rushed home before the third year of junior high school was over!
In the past, mother-in-law brought grandchildren and granddaughters everywhere to pay respects to the New Year. The father-in-law also likes to take the children to the old school reunion. At their age, everyone is talking about grandchildren, and their eyes and hearts are their own precious grandchildren.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > [ex-husband has been bracing hard].</h1>
The ex-husband is a very proud person, he has excellent work ability, but also has the self-discipline of life. At the age of 35, he still maintains the figure he was when he was a teenager.
He hated me for being out of touch with society, for not knowing the rules of the workplace, for not making money. He admires independent working women.
But now That Xiao San has also returned to the family, what is different is that he is now working hard and raising other people's children.
The relationship between the sister-in-law and me is not salty or light, but she loves the two children very much. She had asked her brother why she didn't care about her children? Living 996 days every day, just to give other people's children a hard time?
The ex-husband's heart may have been shaken, but his self-esteem did not allow him to turn back.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > "I work hard to earn money, the children grow up well"</h1>
I can't wait to get out and work after the divorce. I need money, and I need to find something for myself, otherwise I think of my ex-husband and Xiao San snuggling together, and I want to break the net with them!
The chef was very hard, going out early and returning late every day. But now that I have an income, my in-laws don't look at me as high as they used to. My sister-in-law also began to feel sorry for me, thinking that I should not suffer like this.
Mom and Dad went from the initial heartache to the final acceptance. I gave my parents living expenses on time, and they used to feel sorry that I had no income at home with my children, and they would give me pocket money. Now I can buy clothes for my parents and take them to the countryside for a relaxing break.
The son was very sad at first, thinking that he might not obey himself, and his father left the house. But slowly I also understood that it was not his fault, it was Dad's own choice.
My daughter went to kindergarten and sometimes made a fuss about finding her father. Every time it comes to parent-child activities, the in-laws start swearing mode again! Generational relatives are not just talking, they can't see their precious granddaughter wronged.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > [life is helpless].</h1>
Life is really helpless. How many times have I wanted to leave everything behind and find a place where no one was in a daze, but the situation did not allow it.
I still have to go to work, and my two children can't live without me.
The ex-husband's life with The Little Three stumbled. The little third ex-husband's family had come to make trouble several times and wanted to bring the child back.
The son of the third child is in a period of rebellion, and he heard that he skipped school every three to five years. The ex-husband's face was getting uglier.
Sometimes the ex-husband will come to see the child, the son ignores him, and the daughter is very clingy to the father. Listen to my son, when my father left, he was very reluctant to his sister!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > "Divorce is not the end"</h1>
I thought divorce was the end, but now it seems like the beginning of another life.
The in-laws guarded the two children, afraid that I would take the children to change their surnames one day! I was even more afraid that I would find a stepfather for my children, afraid that their precious grandchildren would be wronged.
The little three inches are inseparable from my ex-husband! She knows exactly how she got into power. The ex-husband was sometimes forced to be anxious and began to run away from home again!
The in-laws often complained about Xiao San, saying that she calculated other people's property, and with them in one day, not a dime would fall into Xiao San's hands. In-laws are business people, and they do what they say, and I don't have to worry about that.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > [enlightenment].</h1>
First, do not gamble after divorce, do not give up the property that belongs to yourself and your children.
Second, don't lose confidence in yourself, live well.
Third, try not to mention their sons in front of their in-laws! Cheating is something you love and I want, but the in-laws put the responsibility on Xiao San. For the future of my two children, I can only close my eyes and pretend to be blind, otherwise without my in-laws, our lives will not be much better, but cheap ex-husband and xiaosan!
Fourth, cling to the in-laws. The family's money is in the hands of my in-laws, and I live with them with my children, and their money will be my two children in the future. You must not gamble to take your children away, nor can you let your children ignore your in-laws.
In the future, I will still take my children back to my in-laws' house during the New Year's Festival. The in-laws need grandchildren and granddaughters to give them confidence and do not want to be the object of ridicule.