Some people say that marriage is the graveyard of love. It is also said that marriage is a woman's second life.
It can be seen that the object of marriage is particularly important.
You may say that in marriage, women must also know how to operate, but what if they marry a "devil scumbag"?
After watching the TV series "The First Half of My Life", the ex-husband of the heroine Luo Zijun in the play, Chen Junsheng, was hung on the scumbag black list, and also sent out the nickname of "ex-husband brother".
However, women who have experienced marriage will surely find that the warm man who is comparable to the central air conditioner, the old Jin, is the most terrible other half in the marriage, the proper devil scumbag.
01
Old Jin, cloaked in the cloak of a good man, is good to everyone, so colleagues all over the mall are persuading Zijun to agree to Old Jin's pursuit.
And the girlfriends Tang Jing and He Han, but soberly advised Zijun that Old Jin was not suitable for her.
At the beginning, I didn't understand, old Jin is such a good person, why is it not suitable for Zijun? Could it be that the director broke up the two for the sake of the plot and created opportunities for Zijun and He Han?
But if we continue to look at it, two small things give Zijun the answer, and also give us the answer.
One is that Zijun, who worked hard and won the sales championship for three consecutive months, had the idea of entering the planning department of the mall in the old gold.
Old Jin for the sake of face, regardless of the personnel supervisor's excuse, in the office made a fuss, everyone is watching the hilarity, the personnel supervisor advised, although he knows the relationship between old Jin and Zijun, but the manager is on vacation, let Old Jin wait for two days.
But Old Jin did not spare until He Han and the general manager appeared together, precisely for the work of Zijun. Old Jin was angry, threw away his son Jun, and left by himself. Leave Zijun alone to face this embarrassment.
Another thing is that Zijun happily dressed up and prepared to go to the appointment to eat with Old Jin and Old Jin's friends. But unexpectedly, the old Jin waiting downstairs let Zijun change his clothes.
In the process of communication, Zijun said, "To say who is worthy of whom, in the final analysis, is a matter of face."
All the "good" of old Gold is actually a matter of face.
He is pleasing everyone, and he wants the affirmation and need of the people around him. However, once the person he looks up to, such as Zijun, is better than himself, he begins to worry that others think that he is high, and he can't hang on to his face.
But if Zijun is not as good as himself, and in turn, he is worried that his friends say that Zijun has climbed himself high, or he has no face.
So Old Jin watched Zijun go home in self-entanglement and drove alone to dinner with friends.
02
During the pre-marriage exchange, the old Jin can still be like this, it is conceivable that after marriage, Zijun will face it, always being a yellow-faced woman who makes the old Jin have face.
First of all, Zijun needs to stay away from the friends of high-elites such as Tang Jing and He Han for the sake of old Jin's face, and it is best not to have friends and only rely on old Jin;
Secondly, commute to work on time, return home to carefully look at the old golden eyes, and maintain the face of the old gold;
Finally, wave goodbye to all the good clothes, dress ordinary, match the old Gold's dress preferences...
Of course, life after marriage is not only that. But no, when I think of such a married life, it is better to be beautiful alone.
In hehan's words, this is "the dark side of the good old man." On the surface, it is say yes to everyone; but old Jin actually has his own plans, and what he gives needs to be rewarded.
Zijun thought about it, understood it, and more resolutely chose to break up with Old Jin.
Moreover, compared with her ex-husband Chen Junsheng, Zijun still has leisure time, visiting shopping malls, doing SPA, and practicing yoga, which has become her more beautiful self. Although Chen Junsheng cheated and divorced Zijun, in marriage, he did not suppress Zijun's behavior for the better.
Therefore, even if divorced, Luo Zijun's appearance and temperament can still be beaten, coupled with her own efforts, and high-quality connections, and quickly become a high-elite person, which is no problem visible to the naked eye.
A good marriage is mutual achievement of a better self. At this point alone, if Zijun chooses to be with Old Jin, it is indeed a bad choice.
Instead of struggling in marriage, it's better to simply say goodbye.
03
Love for a long time to see people's hearts, break up to see character.
Zijun originally thought that breaking up with the old good man Lao Jin was an adult, very crisp.
But there was expected, and He Han was right. "It's the dark side of the good old guys again."
After the breakup, as He Han said, Old Jin resolutely changed his face, no longer talked well, and began to stalk and fight.
In the mall, a wave of people came to intercede for old Jin, it seems that old Jin is popular, but put yourself in the shoes of Luo Zijun, what should we do?
Caught in gossip, being pointed out by the people around you, how can you work with peace of mind and do a good job?
Is there a sense of déjà vu that has been kidnapped by morality?
Zijun, who could not avoid it, had no choice but to weigh the pros and cons and chose to resign. He Han also praised, "You are doing even better than I am now."
This is the rebirth of Luo Zijun, who once suffered from gain and loss, and it also makes us see the terrible points of the old good man Lao Jin, and the necessity of quickly cutting through the mess and solving the problem.
Isn't there a classic meme, sending a good guy card = refusing to pursue?
I used to complain about the card issuers, which was too ruthless. Now seeing the mode of getting along with old Jin and Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", I put myself in the shoes of myself, and I have to say that this practice does have the necessity of existence.
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After moving away from the location of the good old man Lao Jin, Zijun bravely chose the direction of work that was difficult in the early stage, but could leap up to the elite class in the later stage.
Everything is moving in a good direction, in development. The excellent Zijun was not only favored by He Han, but even if he was replaced by a more excellent person, he was also worthy.
Some people may say that Zijun is not still single, alone with a baby, not married? With the four words of He Han's godson, the counterattack was just right, "Shut up your ass"!
The happiness of life is always for yourself, away from the devil scum old and good people, may we live beautifully, no matter how much He Han, it is also worth having!
Author: Tang Tang, a student of Tang Xiaoxiao's writing training class, a practitioner of life aesthetics, likes to read, likes to write, and likes to talk about gossip.
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