#"Flash hour" theme essay issue 2 #
| Ding Xiaomi
Figure | Network intrusion and deletion
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > introduction: I've written two articles about my grandmother, and this will be the last one. Because from now on, my mother will never have a mother again. </h1>
The day before, the sun was still shining, and suddenly it cooled down. The sky was dotted with tiny snowflakes, the coldest day since winter.
In the evening, there was an urgent news from the family group, and I had not looked at the circle of friends for a long time. The husband said: "My cousin said that my grandmother was no longer able to do it." ”
When he was shocked, he opened his mobile phone, and sure enough, there were several voices: "Aunts are coming, Xiao Dai (Grandma) is going to die, and a phone call can't be made." ”
I replied, "How's it going?" ”
"Already gone."
I quickly called my mother, who said, "I went to change her diaper and feed her cereal at noon. ”
The 96-year-old grandmother, who has been bedridden for two years, does not know anyone and does not know anything. Her departure was a relief for herself and her elderly children!
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 Final farewell</h1>
In the makeshift spiritual hall, Grandma lay there quietly, completely out of shape, and had survived until the oil ran out.
Filial piety and filial piety are "happy and mournful" for the death of the elderly who have been in the same house for five generations, and few people are sad. It's just that the mother mentioned her old mother's last tortured days, and she still couldn't help but wipe her tears. The brother-in-law said to his mother, "Is it that if you don't give her that bowl of rice at night, you won't die?" ”
Because, here is a saying: if the old man stays up like this and does not leave, it is because the Lu he brought has not finished eating.
I went to the room where my grandmother used to live, and there was some cleaning in it, and everything was packed and piled on the ground, which was even more sad.
Remembering when she was awake, every time we came, she would happily move out a pile of food, and then smile and squint at us. Before leaving, she always had to leave us to eat, and her mother would joke with her: "When you eat here, you still have to make it myself, too lazy to eat." ”
Grandma said, "I'll make you a sprinkle!" ”
I also remembered that in the early years, every time she came back from Guangdong, she would walk two miles to see me with biscuits and fava beans that could not be bitten. Even if the legs and feet are not good later, they will come.
I asked my mother, "Why does Grandma buy such hard fava beans every time?" ”
"Not once I told her you like to eat broad beans, she remembered, thinking it was this kind of fried beans."
But later, she didn't remember me.
I was the penultimate group of people she remembered to be forgotten.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 Past and present lives</h1>
"Parents are the curtain between us and death, you and death seem to be separated by something, there is no feeling, your parents are in the middle of you, until your parents pass away, you will face these things." 」 - "One Hundred Years of Solitude"
Listening to the mourning music and looking at my daughter, I suddenly felt that my heart was blocked. I am the curtain in front of my daughter, and my mother is my curtain. Now, the curtain in front of my mother was gone.
In a few years, we will all leave the market.
Generation after generation, this reincarnation, this ends.
After reaching middle age, people gradually face the farewell in life again and again, the farewell that will never be seen again and again, even if it is sentimental, it is helpless.
I once read a real case record by the American psychologist Weiss: "Past And Present Lives". It records that when Weiss was doing psychotherapy for a patient, he inadvertently came into contact with the patient's memories of past lives through hypnosis.
According to his description of these patients in a hypnotic state, people have past lives. At the end of life, all souls will return to a certain space, and if they have unfulfilled wishes in this life, or if they cannot untie their knots, they will enter the next life, and continue to entangle with those who are entangled in this life until they untie the knots themselves and have no regrets.
I don't know if Grandma will forget her children and relatives one by one and finally erase all the memories in this life, whether it will be no regrets.
So, if there is an afterlife, will we see each other again?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >03</h1>
In the evening, as usual, people are invited to "sing the night song". This is a tradition handed down from the elders, in the local dialect, the bits and pieces of the deceased's life are composed into lyrics, and sung at intervals with the bridge sections in some plays.
Stop for three nights, sing for three nights.
Usually, people from the same village house will come to listen. One is to say goodbye; the other is to be more lively. Especially the elderly, they like to sit down, just like the opening of "Happy Funeral", those who go to listen to the drama.
Perhaps, only in their hearts will they feel empathy.
If you pay attention to the lyrics, it will be very sad, just like her life is repeated before your eyes, watching a movie.
Especially before the last day into the coffin, when the singer counts the dead "farewell to my xx", with the sound of firecrackers at 12 o'clock, it will remind you: there are only a few hours left, and from then on the yin and yang are separated and never see each other.
That kind of powerless sadness will spread to every corner of the body.
Even if it is "joy and mourning".
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
Tateshina, Artemisia. Mourn your parents, give birth to me.
Tateshina, Bandit Yiwei. Mourn your parents, give birth to me.
The mother blamed herself and said sadly: "My poor old lady still did not take good care of her, and she slept in a few places on her waist." No one in her life said that she was half a word, why did she end up grinding her for so long? ”
Speechless, I didn't know how to comfort her, saying, "She doesn't know anything, and she probably doesn't feel any pain." ”
Then, he pretended to be relaxed and said to her: "Mom, you can rest assured, you don't know anything in the future, I will take good care of you." ”
There is a very popular saying nowadays: Whoever's old age is a bloody storm. People dare not think about themselves in a few years.
For us now, the only thing we can do is to cherish our bodies, have more time to exercise, make more money, and make our old age more confident.
Also, teach by example, treat the elderly well, educate the children well, so that the storm will not come too fiercely.
What do you say?
May there be no sickness in this world...
Thank you all for reading! Feel free to leave your thoughts and mood stories in the comments section. I am Ding Xiaomi, a Buddhist "code farmer" who loves code words. There are emotional stories, life insights, film reviews, book reviews, and creative experiences shared from time to time. Like to follow me @ Ding Xiaomi Amy
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