As a person, you have to set up three large banquets in your life, that is, once at birth, once when you are married, and once again after your death.
It can be said that these three feasts in life are all good wine, good dishes, and good cigarettes to entertain all relatives and friends.
As the advent of life, and the marriage event in life, I think it is entirely right to invite friends and relatives to celebrate with a big banquet. Because it is a new life that has come into this world, it is indeed time to celebrate. Holding a marriage event wedding banquet, to prove that you are already an adult, become a man who stands tall in the family, and it is also a day of reunion between husband and wife, and it is also a big event in life, and it is also a big event in your life, and you should also invite relatives and friends to celebrate the wedding banquet. However, as some elderly people use the way of celebrating and mourning to send a large banquet to the end of their lives, it does exist in the countryside.
First of all, it is easy to understand as a happy and mourning person, that is, when they are old, they hold funerals in a lively and lively manner, and they are very decent in all aspects, just like holding a wedding banquet. But at what age is it to be happy? Just like before the 1980s, people who could live to the age of seventy were considered to have a long life span, but now that people in their seventies are still working on the construction site, if the life of the seventy-year-old is over, is it considered a joy and mourning?
Especially now, many old people, although their lifespan is above seventy or eighty, but their past life was completely spent in suffering, just like many old peasants over seventy or eighty years old in the countryside now, although they are now old, they are also living a relatively good old age, they (she) have not really enjoyed the same as the retired old people in the city, can fully enjoy the happy old age of life, although some of them are indeed older, or even eighty or ninety years old can be regarded as happy and mournful?
As a joy and mourning, it is necessary to meet three conditions in order to be able to be called a joy and mourning: that is, full happiness, full life, and full end. That is, when the old man was alive, he enjoyed the glory and wealth of life, did not experience any painful and disaster life, has been in happiness, that is, when the life expectancy is dying, there is no disease pain, it is completely peaceful and peaceful, peaceful and peacefully left the world, this is called joy and mourning, and the family economic prosperity is also very rich, for the elderly to send the end, the rural saying is to do a big job, let the old man at the end of his life also take away some wealth, this situation, I am called joy and mourning.
As a funeral, there are two kinds of funerals, the vast majority of which are completely real funerals, only from the end of their old lives, their children will cry in the dark, and they will weep bitterly, which is not enough to fully express the sadness and filial piety of their children and grandchildren.
But as a joy and mourning is different, filial piety often has no sad expression on their faces, children and grandchildren will only talk about how old the deceased is, filial piety in addition to wearing white filial piety, only in all etiquette will use crying, before and after as if people are happy to send a deceased person, although people will try to suppress the joy in their hearts, sometimes occasionally reveal that there is no sadness in the heart. Although it is the end of his life when his relatives are older, after all, it is also his relatives who have left their children and grandchildren.
I think that the death of my parents, no matter how old they are, only if they (or her) have not suffered from suffering and disease in their lives, and they have died peacefully and peacefully before they die, they can be regarded as happy and mournful. Even if you are old, you have been living in a hard life before you die, and you are suffering from diseases before you die, which cannot be called joy and mourning.