#"Flash hour" theme essay issue 2 #
In a remote village in Zaozhuang, Shandong Province, there lives an 86-year-old man, Lin Guoshi. Her wife died early, the old man pulled the eldest 6 children alone, and the hardships of life can be imagined. Now that her children have established a family, she is left alone in the countryside.
The old man believes in Buddhism and prays every day to the bodhisattva to bless the child with peace and security. The children's life is getting better and better, but the old man has fallen at the door of her house, she has a cerebral thrombosis, her physical condition has gradually deteriorated, and her life has been unable to take care of herself.
When the children learned of this, they hurried home to discuss the whereabouts of the old mother. The eldest brother and eldest sister went to the city and had not returned for many years, and every time something happened at home, they always used the money to send things off.
The old fourth daughter-in-law ran away with someone a few years ago, and he also hid outside and did not come back, leaving a 10-year-old son Trail to raise the old mother. After some discussion, the result of everyone's discussion was to send the old mother to a nursing home.
The second elder said, "Mother, you still go, who is waiting for you at home?" The family was very busy. ”
The third elder said, "If you fall, we can't do anything." ”
The old man couldn't help but sigh, she didn't want to go, after all, she had children and daughters, afraid of others gossiping.
Seeing her hesitate, Lao Wu said unhappily; "The village king next door died at home and no one knows, and maggots grow on her body." Anyway, the deposit of the nursing home has been paid, you just look at it."
Everyone you said a word, I said a word, the old man did not squeak again. Although I decided to go to a nursing home, it was not easy to move in, because the beds in the nursing home were particularly tight, and only when the elderly died in the nursing home. Although everyone was not happy, according to the wishes of the old man, he began to live in turn with each family.
The old man took the trail to the second old man's house first. As soon as she entered the door, the second daughter-in-law enthusiastically brought her tea and water, in fact, she started the idea of the old man's house.
Several of the children of the second family were married, and they wanted to vacate their house for the younger son, and then the old couple moved to the old mother's house. The old man did not immediately promise him, afraid that the old fourth would have no place to live when he returned, and the trail also needed a foothold.
To tell the truth, the life of the second family is not good, the children have gone to the city to work, leaving a group of grandchildren to bring to the old couple. Now that the younger son's child can just walk, the daughter-in-law wants to leave the child to go to the city to work, and the second daughter-in-law retorts, "There are already a bunch of children in the family, and there is an old man waiting for me on the bed." For so many years, I have set up a family for you, and I have given you a house, but after helping you all get it right, we don't know where to go to live.
What the second daughter-in-law said was the truth, but it also meant something, and the old man sat on the bed and did not say a word.
A few days later, Xiaodao was arrested by the police station for stealing battery cars, and the daughter-in-law began to complain incessantly, the old one was not finished, and the small one was doing evil outside. The old man said, "Send the trail to the little girl's house, and let her find a job for the child, it will not last long in your house."
The days of the second family are full, and the next step is to go to the third family. Before leaving, the old man handed the key to the old mansion to his daughter-in-law and said, "Don't get tired, my son." ”
The third family lives in the county seat, and the conditions are better than the second. As soon as she entered the door, the old third daughter-in-law did not greet the old man, directly threw over a pair of slippers, and used a blanket to get an exclusive seat for the old man, and the old man's luggage was also thrown into the storage room by her.
At the same time, the third daughter-in-law also told her husband to run to the nursing home, hoping every day that the old man of the family would die quickly. In the third family, the only one who really treated the old man was the granddaughter, and she was helping her grandmother wash her hair while making small talk with her, and she asked her grandmother: "Back then, how could you agree to his father leaving the village?" Grandma sighed, "Son, he can go outside for a walk." Listening to her grandmother's words, her granddaughter was moved.
Sure enough, the next day, the granddaughter secretly ran to Zhejiang, and the third daughter-in-law blamed the old man for instigating it. The old man knelt on the ground and begged the bodhisattva for blessing. The third daughter-in-law yelled at the old man, "She is a child who does not understand things, are you so old that you do not understand things?" The son said that his mother was confused, and at the same time dragged his daughter-in-law out.
The mother wanted to move to her daughter's place, and the daughter-in-law threw the old man's bowl and chopsticks into the trash can, and the son asked: "Mother, are you in such a hurry to go?" Before he could finish speaking, he had already put his mother's shoes in his hands. The old man's front foot had just stepped out of the house, and the daughter-in-law's back foot threw away all the bedding and blankets used by the old mother.
The life of the little daughter's family is tight, the son-in-law guards the family's small groceries every day, and the daughter pedals with three wheels to go outside to sell pancake fruit, but compared to several sons, she is still quite intimate, at least she knows to ask her mother if she is cold, hungry or not?
Before the daughter said that the home was narrow, it was indeed not a pretext, and several members of their family slept in a small bunk. Originally, her son's family had a house, but in order to buy a car and run freight to sell the house, the family of three lived in the shop, and now there are more elderly people and trails, and the degree of congestion can be imagined.
The old man finally had a few days at his daughter's house. One day, the granddaughter wanted to buy a Barbie doll, and the old man took out an old cloth bag from his pocket, opened the cloth bag layer by layer, and took out the money from it and handed it to the child.
Unfortunately, the old man's peaceful birthday has not lasted, and poor families always have contradictions and hidden dangers of one kind or another. On this day, the son-in-law told his wife that her mother stole 50 yuan from the family, that the money was given by the customer, there were many words written on it, there was no one else in the family except the mother, and the daughter listened to her husband's words and asked him not to talk blindly.
At night, the husband calculated an account for his wife, since the mother came, every day the family has to lose thirty or forty, the daughter listened, angrily said, are you full of thoughts other than money? The son-in-law lamented that the elderly were better off going to a nursing home, at least better than at home.
Just when there was silence, the granddaughter suddenly ran over and called out to the old lady that her mouth was crooked. She had a laughing disease, and crying was laughing. At this time, the old man is completely unable to take care of himself, and defecation needs to be served. The daughter looked at the old mother and sighed deeply, you said that you have children and daughters, who came to see you after getting sick, what does it mean to be alive? The old man laughed uncontrollably after listening.
The next day, the daughter couldn't help but ask the old mother, a few days ago, the family lost 50 yuan is what you took? After the old man listened, her face was first surprised, and then she admitted that she had bought a book for her little granddaughter, and finally she took out 50 yuan from her bag and returned it to her daughter. The daughter pushed back twice and caught it.
The mother's facial paralysis has not yet improved, and then the little daughter's family has a major incident in which the sky has collapsed, and when her son ran for transportation, because of the drunk driving accident, the person disappeared on the spot, and only a small amount of compensation was received.
At this time, the little daughter's family could not stay any longer, and the old man proposed to go back to the village. The younger daughter still wanted to keep her mother for a few days, saying that she would take her around the city, but her mother was very determined. Before leaving, the granddaughter-in-law brought a scarf to the old man, and the old man gave the scarf to the little girl, and also left his bracelet to the granddaughter-in-law, and advised the granddaughter-in-law to take advantage of the youth to find another one.
The old man knows better than anyone that it is sad for a woman to take a child alone. The old man was only 35 years old when he was widowed, 6 children, the eldest child was 13 years old, the youngest was only 9 months, and I still think about it, and I am still full of heartache.
When the old man returned to the village, the second couple became more and more annoyed with her, especially after hearing her terrifying and exciting laughter, they couldn't bear it anymore and directly stuffed the old man into the cowshed. When the daughter-in-law feeds the cow every day, she will give her a bowl of coarse grain.
After a few days, the old man heard the sound of gongs and drums in the village, and he knew that someone from the family must have passed away. The son came over and asked the old mother, what was it like when I was young? The old man said, you just had a full moon, and you especially loved to cry, so that I couldn't sleep night after night.
The son then asked, Mother, do you hate me? Mother bowed her head and whispered, what a stupid thing to say, my son. She took a bunch of insoles from her arms and asked her son to give her brothers and sisters a few points, which she had embroidered during this time. The daughter-in-law came to feed the cattle grass, and the old mother took off her only jade bracelet and gave it to her daughter-in-law.
Late at night, the old man slowly got up from the bed, struggled to wash his face, combed his white hair, looked at himself with a broken mirror, looked at the dilapidated family portrait photos, and began to pray to the long-broken Buddha statue to bless the children with peace and security. Finally, she couldn't help but laugh, took a small packet of rat poison from her arms, poured it in the palm of her hand, and looked up.
The next day, the car of the nursing home arrived as scheduled, but the old man had been dead for a long time. The old man's body was quickly cremated, and the funeral was held in a lively manner. The big brother and sister still did not come back, and they sent money as usual.
According to the traditional saying, the 84-year-old man is a happy funeral, the younger generations think more thoughtfully, the old man likes to listen to songs and watch plays before he dies, so they invite the old man's will to the center of the funeral, so that the old man can finally watch a dance conference of extraordinary significance. At the dance, the children worked hard and rocked.
After the old man left, the children's home returned to calm. On this day, the little daughter accidentally found 50 yuan in the corner, which is what her husband said before, the money that was stolen, and she understood what her mother said, "What is the use of the money I want."
Xiaodao still decided to go to Shanghai to find his mother, before leaving, he quietly returned to the cowshed where his grandmother lived before his death, as if saying goodbye to his grandmother, he saw the family portrait of the old man on the ground for many years, Xiaodao put the family portrait and his mother's photo together, and he walked to the city of his dreams in a storm.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
"Joy and mourning" refers to the elderly who live a happy life and go to bed at the end of their lives. But in real life, how many children are neither obedient nor filial to the elderly before they die, and when their parents die, they want to make the funeral lively, what is the point? It seems that the joy of joy and mourning is not for the elderly, but for the younger generations. "Happy and mourning" means that the younger generation has lost the "burden" of the old man, so it is "happy".
When the traditional Filial Piety first becomes the old man has no one to rely on, when the old man's despair to death has become the hope of the people, what led to the dilemma of aging, I think the fundamental reason is a "poor" word. Our ancestors grew up in an era of economic poverty, and the poorer people are, the more backward they are, and they are willing to have more children. They feel that as long as they have enough to eat and wear warmly, they just ignore the most important issue of education.
In the era of hunger and poverty, a single mother can pull six children up, but when they are old, six children cannot give the old man a place to live. How ironic, how ridiculous. When parents are young, they give their best to their children. My parents gave birth to me, raised me, and raised me, and when they are old, we should also love, pity, and pity them. Honoring parents and respecting elders is also the duty of being a human being, and it is a matter of course.
Today's topic: What do you think about the pension problem of empty nesters?